
Mom Sent Her Son To Rehab When He Was 13, Claims She Saved His Life Years After, So He Calls Her Out
Disproportionate punishments as a kid are the worst. You’d mess up somewhere and even fess up to it, but instead of that being a learning experience, you would get grounded for a week, without your phone.
Today’s story is about a much more extreme version of that. The poster of the story had a puff of a substance of debatable legality at 13 years of age, which led to him being sent away to a three-month rehab session, still upsetting him 7 years later.
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Deciding on an adequate punishment for your teen may be difficult, but it’s certainly possible
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A poster wanted input on whether he was a jerk for snapping at his mom after an insensitive comment from her
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After smoking some illicit substance, he was sent to rehab with hard drug users for 3 months at only 13 years of age
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When he heard his mom celebrating the fact that she had sent him to rehab, he went off on her for the trauma caused, cussing her out and storming out
The poster, after participating in that illicit substance mentioned in the intro, was caught by his parents. And even though it had been made legal at the time and he agrees that it wasn’t meant for 13 y.o. kids, he believes that being sent to rehab for 3 months with hard drug users was over the line.
Going through all of that must’ve been scary and traumatizing for OP, with him later going to therapy and talking about his parents. So when he heard his mom talking about how happy she is that she did send him to rehab and how much good it did, he simply flipped out, cursing her out.
Using some pretty intense language, he told his mother off and left the scene.
It only takes a little rooting in our memories to recollect the stupid things we did as teenagers. A commenter mentioned that at age 13, they had been spending time with friends in a park drinking vodka, smoking cigarettes and that they ultimately turned out fine.
I’m certain that you can remember some pretty bad moments from your youth that you wouldn’t want your kids doing, but if anything, that should make the punishments less severe and more understanding, rather than vice versa.
According to another Ask Reddit thread where people came to share their experiences of being sent to rehab, there were few positives to their experiences.
A lot of the time, teens would be under strict supervision by other teens, with little freedom or sense of individuality. Another person said that they learnt a lot from their rehab camp, for example, how to smoke a cigarette in under a minute and steal.
And the lifelong skill of how to make a bed, because they were made to do it hundreds of times in a row, as punishment or a way to establish discipline at the camp.
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This is a cautionary tale to parents who should do in-depth and detailed research if they intend to send their kids to a rehab camp of any sorts or otherwise. And surprising amounts of abuse may be legal, if you’re willing to do research.
These camps and other institutions all fall under the umbrella term of the “troubled teen” industry. Such places are often unregulated and unsupervised, only putting on the guise of a good camp for arriving parents or inspectors.
Camps like this accept not only teens with substance abuse “problems” (which may not even be problems, but isolated events), but also poorly behaving, delinquent and LGBTQ+ teens.
And, if that wasn’t obvious, the troubled teen industry has been the center of many controversies related to the abuse of minors, institutional corruption, and even death.
One especially controversial reeducation program is the Élan School. One of the early implementers of the program, they had opened in 1970, ultimately closing in 2011 due to various reports of child abuse from their attendants.
Children would be kidnapped by men in the middle of the night (with their parents’ permission, of course), tied up, thrown in a van, transported for thousands of miles, until they reached the school.
The worst was yet to come, though. In the school they’d be stripped of all individuality and the right to talk to other teens, unless they were talking about how well the program was working for them, and that was a rarity.
Besides talking, teens couldn’t even look at each other, smile, or whisper and if they attempted to escape, it would be so much worse for them.
The troubled teen industry is incredibly popular, and it's also a total scam. The kids who are sent there are mentally abused (at best) to the point that they'll confess to anything just to get the torture to stop. See "Dead, Insane, or in Jail" by Zach Bonnie, who is a survivor of that system.
I am as well. I was sent to the psych ward 5 times as a tween/ teen. And pumped full of medications. I had been physically, emotionally, psychologically and sexually abused, by a friend of the family who to this day still lives with my mom. And after losing one of my safe adults my grandpa i kinda withdrew and I was trouble, I started acting out. But to be put in the psych ward and inaccurately diagnosed as bipolar as 11/12 when I was just starting puberty and dealing with a ton of trauma just added more trauma. The Drs and nurses treat you like you aren't even human.. it's not right. I just wish I had someone to actually help me through it. To this day I still haven't fully worked through my trauma...
And that was in an actual medical facility, unlike the teen "rehabs" we are talking about. Professionals ought to know that teenage acting out due to trauma can mimic many psychiatric conditions. Children should not be treated the same as adults. Yes, children can get mental illness, but they should have a thorough evaluation to rule out other causes before breaking out the pharmaceuticals. I am sorry you went through that.
I'm so sorry you went through this! That's horrifying. I hope you are able to work through this some day; you deserve a wonderful life.
Theresa I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. Every adult around you failed you, especially your mother, and she still is. You deserved so much better, you deserved to be protected and loved. That kid is still there inside of you and you owe it to yourself to find a good therapist and start that long road to healing. Be that person for yourself that you wish somebody would've been for you as a child. I'm sending best wishes and strength❤️🫂
Oh the trouble with using undefined abbreviations...I really wondered how going to North Carolina was going to help.
Me too, but I hung in there and figured it out via context.
Haha. Tell me you’ve never had to go no contact. It’s definitely jargon that comes with experience. “disengage” is what I use for folks who haven’t had to it or consider it.
I have no contact with my father, but I didn't know what it meant either.
Wait they aren’t talking about North Carolina?
Thank you for this comment because all through that story I really thought they had family in North Carolina lol
He did say go NC not go to NC.
That therapist is a doodlefuck, OP should go NC with his fam if that's how they are.
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While I am normally pro NC in a lot of cases here I am not sure. Was it s****y?Absolutely. But if it was an isolated incident it might be worth a try to talk it out.
They put him as a 13 year old kid away in rehab for three months for trying one joint. I'd NC the heck out of the mother.
My guess is, because of his other behavior, that they didn't believe it was one joint. My guess is that they thought he was smoking a lot of weed and that was the reason for his crappy attitude.
I mean, sending your kid to rehab over a single joint doesn't exactly scream "reasonable parent" to me..
No. If the parents are claiming this abuse help the OP, after all these years, I think NC would be the best thing. They are claiming as success something which should not have happened.
Deborah, that's true but they probably don't understand the trauma they inflicted on their son. Well meaning people can actually do quite a lot of damage to children. Ask Paris Hilton about that. Nonetheless, since OP hasn't worked through his trauma and things are volatile right now, NC might be the best option. At least for now. I doubt I would have been able to hold my temper in that situation either.
Are you actually kidding me? No teen deserves that. NC for sure
The troubled teen industry is incredibly popular, and it's also a total scam. The kids who are sent there are mentally abused (at best) to the point that they'll confess to anything just to get the torture to stop. See "Dead, Insane, or in Jail" by Zach Bonnie, who is a survivor of that system.
I am as well. I was sent to the psych ward 5 times as a tween/ teen. And pumped full of medications. I had been physically, emotionally, psychologically and sexually abused, by a friend of the family who to this day still lives with my mom. And after losing one of my safe adults my grandpa i kinda withdrew and I was trouble, I started acting out. But to be put in the psych ward and inaccurately diagnosed as bipolar as 11/12 when I was just starting puberty and dealing with a ton of trauma just added more trauma. The Drs and nurses treat you like you aren't even human.. it's not right. I just wish I had someone to actually help me through it. To this day I still haven't fully worked through my trauma...
And that was in an actual medical facility, unlike the teen "rehabs" we are talking about. Professionals ought to know that teenage acting out due to trauma can mimic many psychiatric conditions. Children should not be treated the same as adults. Yes, children can get mental illness, but they should have a thorough evaluation to rule out other causes before breaking out the pharmaceuticals. I am sorry you went through that.
I'm so sorry you went through this! That's horrifying. I hope you are able to work through this some day; you deserve a wonderful life.
Theresa I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. Every adult around you failed you, especially your mother, and she still is. You deserved so much better, you deserved to be protected and loved. That kid is still there inside of you and you owe it to yourself to find a good therapist and start that long road to healing. Be that person for yourself that you wish somebody would've been for you as a child. I'm sending best wishes and strength❤️🫂
Oh the trouble with using undefined abbreviations...I really wondered how going to North Carolina was going to help.
Me too, but I hung in there and figured it out via context.
Haha. Tell me you’ve never had to go no contact. It’s definitely jargon that comes with experience. “disengage” is what I use for folks who haven’t had to it or consider it.
I have no contact with my father, but I didn't know what it meant either.
Wait they aren’t talking about North Carolina?
Thank you for this comment because all through that story I really thought they had family in North Carolina lol
He did say go NC not go to NC.
That therapist is a doodlefuck, OP should go NC with his fam if that's how they are.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
While I am normally pro NC in a lot of cases here I am not sure. Was it s****y?Absolutely. But if it was an isolated incident it might be worth a try to talk it out.
They put him as a 13 year old kid away in rehab for three months for trying one joint. I'd NC the heck out of the mother.
My guess is, because of his other behavior, that they didn't believe it was one joint. My guess is that they thought he was smoking a lot of weed and that was the reason for his crappy attitude.
I mean, sending your kid to rehab over a single joint doesn't exactly scream "reasonable parent" to me..
No. If the parents are claiming this abuse help the OP, after all these years, I think NC would be the best thing. They are claiming as success something which should not have happened.
Deborah, that's true but they probably don't understand the trauma they inflicted on their son. Well meaning people can actually do quite a lot of damage to children. Ask Paris Hilton about that. Nonetheless, since OP hasn't worked through his trauma and things are volatile right now, NC might be the best option. At least for now. I doubt I would have been able to hold my temper in that situation either.
Are you actually kidding me? No teen deserves that. NC for sure