Co-Worker Tells Others To Ignore This Woman’s Birthday, So She Gets Revenge By Buying Cupcakes
Birthdays are the only time of the year when you get a chance to feel truly special. Even though some enjoy a bit of privacy, others like to be treated like royals during their day of the year. And it’s totally understandable, we should all put at least the tiniest amount of effort to wish our friends and co-workers a Happy Birthday, after all a little bit of love can make a huge difference! (Facebook cover image: Ianz)
Recently, one Imgur user shared a story about how nobody at work wished her Happy Birthday
People quickly jumped to suggest she should throw a party herself
After reading the comments she decided to take some action
Later AppleDarling posted an update
“Friday some women in another department heard what happened and went all out for me. I came into a decorate cube, flowers, cupcakes, cheesecake, candy, wine, and balloons. They wanted to make sure I had a good birthday”, AppleDarling told Bored Panda.
“As for the female co-worker, I think she felt bad after it all became apparent. Today she brought me hotchocolate and pepermint shnoops.”
“At first I got more paranoid my co-workers would see the story. After I calmed down I was super happy so many people were so supportive. Helps me believe in people a bit more. “
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Share on FacebookSo glad this girl stayed positive。everyone deserves A good time on there birthday
Wait. This is work, right? Not grammar school? Why on EARTH is any of this awkward weird and who even cares? Adult! Bring in your own damn cupcakes or don't. Just get the frack all out if your head about it. It. Doesn't. Matter. This is work. You're there to WORK. These people are not your friends. NONE of them need to throw you a party, and you owe them and they owe you nothing but respect. Period.
I've never worked anywhere that birthdays were a thing. You might wish a fellow worker happy birthday if the subject came up. I'm pretty sure none of us were traumatized by it. The last birthday cupcake I had was in third or fourth grade. I guess I didn't realize I was being victimized.
Load More Replies...In my company, we just organise a mini cake party near the end of each month to celebrate together the birthdays of everyone who had a birthday that month.
Every large company I've worked with had Human Resources take charge of birthdays, nuptials, anniversaries, births, etc. If a close friend at work wanted to take the helm, HR would allow it, but they were ultimately responsible to make sure everyone feels included and recognized. I recall one salesman had a death in the family, but he had only been on the job for a few weeks and planned to take off for the funeral, but was going to suffer through the day. HR arranged for a Lyft to give him a ride home (he usually took the bus). Staffers chipped in for GrubHub to deliver food his team knew he would like.
I think it's best to keep work and private life separated. Birthdays and anniversariea are private. Keep your distance to co-workers so things don't become awkward at some time.
It depends on the company culture. It sounds like this woman put together some fun parties for other employees but was cutting out OP for whatever reason. She's the one who started the "awkward" ball rolling...
Load More Replies...That's a lot of drama. Glad I work in a small office without the games
Is it just me, or is that note from the co-worker really disingenuous? Putting "Amazing" in quotes like that. Saying she doesn't know her when the woman points out she's made effort to be friendly with her. I get the feeling the only reason she got the gift was to save face with everyone else because she was looking like the b***h that she is.
I think maybe the note was from one of the women from the other department. Just awkwardly placed in the article.
Load More Replies...When I worked at a University accounting office, one of my co-workers and my boss had the same birthday. But instead of us throwing them a party, they insisted on having a Happy Un-Birthday celebration for the office. They got the cake, got cards for everyone and had a party during lunch break. I loved that I got to know these people...seeing that positive kind of role model really inspires you to become a better person.
This is the dumbest thing ever. This isn't 3rd grade, it's an adult... at work. WTH!
Why? She hasn't made drama. She asked an onest question because she didn't know how to behave in that situation. And she chose bot to be a b***h about it.
Load More Replies...The point is: The other girl started it all and tried her best for all the male staff to completely ignore and malign the birthday celebrant. And why does she need to do that for? She planned and celebrated the rest of the male staff's birthday except for her? Mean Girl much. I mean, she's not required to do that but it just goes to show that she obviously dislike the celebrant and wants all the male attention for her. If she really hate her then don't do the party, that's it. But don't tell everyone that she isn't coming on the day of her Birthday when she didn't say so.
I can'tell even begin to understand the mindset of this other female. Sounds really thirsty for male attention; I almost feel sorry for her being such a pathetic individual.
This is one of the major things I don't miss about working in corporate. All the forced interactions, social expectations and drama. The most I ever wanted is for someone to just say happy b-day if they happen to know about it. Or if someone who I was friends with wanted to take me out to lunch, fine. But the cake, cupcakes, balloons and all that c**p, save that for your personal life. This girl created a whole hell of a lot of drama (for someone claiming they didn't want drama) and if I had to work with someone like this I'd be rolling my eyes so hard. Work is work. It's not party with your pals time. Save that for friends and family *after* work.
How did the girl create drama? The other woman in the office planned birthday surprises for all the male coworkers, but decided to cut off the only other woman there. She was the one creating drama. OP simply brought cupcakes to her coworkers on her birthday, she did nothing wrong. "Work is work" - it's the place you spend most of your day in, being friends with your coworkers makes for a better workplace.
Load More Replies...For someone who didn't want drama it does seem like she was creating drama. It sounds like rather than ignore the other woman it sounds like she took that bait and made it a thing. She spent all day worried about this woman and cupcakes and made herself miserable.
A lot of people are really good at obsessing over things that bother us despite really wanting to forget about it. Seems like it worked in her favor because people noticed and let her know that she is appreciated.
Load More Replies...Read this three times, still don't know why this women is getting so much praise for bringing in cupcakes.
Unfortunatly, I've been her so many times. You see everyone get there spot/cube/office decked out.. then comes yours...nadda. I don't think I'm a bad person or anything... Even in school it was like that for me. Hell, no one showed for my 16th or 21st B-day... yeah.. not feeling too good right now considering my bday is in three weeks....
Feel for you. Had similar things happen and its bloody hard..
Load More Replies...Apparantly that one woman wants to be in the center of the spotlight. Luckily she got good advice on how to handle the situation, because otherwise hell would break loose, i assume.
Wow, she writes really well for a third grader obsessed with her birthday cupcakes.
Whole bunch of you retards a) didn't read the article or b) have your heads shoved so far up your asses that you missed the entire point.
At the company I work at, everyone gets taken out for lunch by the HR lady. When my birthday rolled around, I did not get the offer to go for lunch or even a happy birthday, but I took it as a good thing. The lady that takes them out for lunch is UNBEARABLE so I dodged a bullet and everyone else was a little jealous hahaha = )
Women can be so evil when attention-seeking in a male dominated workplace - from experience.One place I worked at these 2 secretarys would almost run to be the first to get hold of the chief executive's dictation, whenever his assistant dropped it off in the office. Literally a fist-fight to be the one to do "his stuff" therefore more important. The Exec was handsome, loaded and very,very married. He barely knew these 2 existed.
The other woman is really pretty. I guess having the other woman as the center of attention was just too much for her, so she outright spread a lie around the office. SMH.
In our organization, HR decorates that person's table with balloons and glitters and also keeps a birthday gift on the table. Before one hour of leaving office, everyone gathers and do cake cutting ceremony and give their best wishes.
Who the f**k cares?! This is not kindergarten or highschool & all your friends forgot you had a b-day! I dont even say anything when it is my birthday! Jeez
People at my work have no clue when my b-day is and I'd like it to stay this way :)
I would rather take the day off with my husband and do something fun, I never worked my Birthday during my 25 year career. I did however get three retirement parties, guess they were happy to see me leave.
A bit off topic but I think birthdays are nice but also hard for some. My friend is massively in debt - has to support his kids - has no idea how they can afford to retire - but they have to chip in $10 - 20 at the office every time it's someone's birthday for a gift, cake and card. He really can't afford it but he's too proud to say anything.
I also really hate when it's mandatory to chip in for gifts. Most places I've worked in it was voluntary. In my current job it's a bit different, you can opt in or out - if you're in you get a birthday surprise and have to chip in for birthdays. If you're out you don't have to and the team won't plan anything for your birthday; some people prefer that.
Load More Replies..."Amazing" lol... the so much about you seems kinda threatening cuz she could have heard anything... she didn't say "good things about you and it seems like it's on purpose cuz I know how caddy girls are and I see right thru that
This is a very murky story. The OP said they were acquainted but the note said "I don't know you." I dunno seems like very passive aggressive actions on both sides with many questions. I take it Girl 1 was in HR or maybe head of the party planning committee? I keep picturing Angela from the Office. Did Girl 2, we'll call her Pam, ever ask Angela why she thought she wouldn't be working on her birthday? Anyways I am sure it caused low key drama murmurs about how damn dramatic a birthday acknowledgement turned into. Personally I have more of a Stanley stance and just want some damn cake. Cheesecake.
THE CUPCAKE SHE DROPPED.... IT IS STILL EDIBLE JUST TAKE THE TOP ICING OFF!! The way she dealt with the problem was nice though!
I know it is besides the point, but I would feel blessed if I had a friend I could call with a cupcake emergency that would come through ;)
I'd be happy if they forgot my bday, but they never do. Once I forgot it myself. Hey isn't it your birthday? Oh yes. Ordered some pie quick. Some are in july. Theyre happy they then don't have to buy much pie, cause most are on a holiday. We have one girl who thinks about sending cards or buying a gift for something. If she didn't do that, noone would.
The other woman is clearly jealous, it's obvious if you read her card and the way she mentions how "everyone says you are AMAZING" that's classic passive aggressive "I don't do sisterhood" type girl b******t, right there.
There are some people who are just nasty. When I had a baby a few weeks early, our neighbor told all the other neighbors I didn't want anyone to come by. I found this out much later, and after feeling very sad.
I worked in a place where nobody did anything for birthdays. I started there in April, and decided that needed to change so for birthdays I organized everyone to sign cards, pitch in to give flowers/cupcakes/lunch for the person with the birthday. They all loved it! My birthday was the following February - 10 months after I started. I didn't get anything. Because I wasn't there to take charge, nobody did anything (despite the office calendar having EVERYONE'S birthdays on it.) I haven't done anything for a co-worker since (and I'm at a different company).
I think that's why most people prefer not to be forced into these work-place birthday celebrations. They don't want to take time away from their jobs, they don't feel it's worth the time. And on the receiving end, what are you going to say, " You suck for doing something for my birthday?" If someone does something for my birthday at work when they do something for everyone, I mean it's not really for ME is it? It's just an obligation and makes feel actually LESS than special because no one who actually knows me OUTSIDE of work would ever do anything for my birthday. Just rubs it in, which adds to the entire discomfort. I never have and never will do anything for a coworker for their birthday or wedding anniversary or their daughter's graduation or a new baby arrival. I would do that stuff for my friends and family. At work, I'm there to work and not to treat all 6 floors of people as if they are friends and family (when they are not). Sorry about them not reciprocating, though, truly.
Load More Replies...I consciously made sure that none of this birthday foolishness occurs in my office, particularly as the oldest woman in a mostly male office I would end up saddled with this "office mom" task. When did grownups decide that balloons & cupcakes & childish things are mandatory every year in a work environment? A simple happy birthday suffices, if you are in regular contact with your coworker. Celebrations of birthday milestones are best left to after hours with the family.
Was it malicious tho? Maybe the other woman thought since she not coming in she having a huge celebration all day with her friends. She only been there 6 months, maybe those gifts/parties were for co-workers that been there a long time or some other significance or maybe just part of her immediate team. At companies i've worked at I've even tossed in $10-20 in the envelope to get a gift for so-and-so and didn't get a return gift on my birthday and not freaked out about it.
What did you expect? Nobody except your parents will remember it.
Load More Replies..."I'm to old for drama" she says while she shares this petty b******t with the entire internet
Somehow I feel like you're under the age of 20 or 25. There's no reason to stop having fun as you age, let people do as they please!
Load More Replies...So glad this girl stayed positive。everyone deserves A good time on there birthday
Wait. This is work, right? Not grammar school? Why on EARTH is any of this awkward weird and who even cares? Adult! Bring in your own damn cupcakes or don't. Just get the frack all out if your head about it. It. Doesn't. Matter. This is work. You're there to WORK. These people are not your friends. NONE of them need to throw you a party, and you owe them and they owe you nothing but respect. Period.
I've never worked anywhere that birthdays were a thing. You might wish a fellow worker happy birthday if the subject came up. I'm pretty sure none of us were traumatized by it. The last birthday cupcake I had was in third or fourth grade. I guess I didn't realize I was being victimized.
Load More Replies...In my company, we just organise a mini cake party near the end of each month to celebrate together the birthdays of everyone who had a birthday that month.
Every large company I've worked with had Human Resources take charge of birthdays, nuptials, anniversaries, births, etc. If a close friend at work wanted to take the helm, HR would allow it, but they were ultimately responsible to make sure everyone feels included and recognized. I recall one salesman had a death in the family, but he had only been on the job for a few weeks and planned to take off for the funeral, but was going to suffer through the day. HR arranged for a Lyft to give him a ride home (he usually took the bus). Staffers chipped in for GrubHub to deliver food his team knew he would like.
I think it's best to keep work and private life separated. Birthdays and anniversariea are private. Keep your distance to co-workers so things don't become awkward at some time.
It depends on the company culture. It sounds like this woman put together some fun parties for other employees but was cutting out OP for whatever reason. She's the one who started the "awkward" ball rolling...
Load More Replies...That's a lot of drama. Glad I work in a small office without the games
Is it just me, or is that note from the co-worker really disingenuous? Putting "Amazing" in quotes like that. Saying she doesn't know her when the woman points out she's made effort to be friendly with her. I get the feeling the only reason she got the gift was to save face with everyone else because she was looking like the b***h that she is.
I think maybe the note was from one of the women from the other department. Just awkwardly placed in the article.
Load More Replies...When I worked at a University accounting office, one of my co-workers and my boss had the same birthday. But instead of us throwing them a party, they insisted on having a Happy Un-Birthday celebration for the office. They got the cake, got cards for everyone and had a party during lunch break. I loved that I got to know these people...seeing that positive kind of role model really inspires you to become a better person.
This is the dumbest thing ever. This isn't 3rd grade, it's an adult... at work. WTH!
Why? She hasn't made drama. She asked an onest question because she didn't know how to behave in that situation. And she chose bot to be a b***h about it.
Load More Replies...The point is: The other girl started it all and tried her best for all the male staff to completely ignore and malign the birthday celebrant. And why does she need to do that for? She planned and celebrated the rest of the male staff's birthday except for her? Mean Girl much. I mean, she's not required to do that but it just goes to show that she obviously dislike the celebrant and wants all the male attention for her. If she really hate her then don't do the party, that's it. But don't tell everyone that she isn't coming on the day of her Birthday when she didn't say so.
I can'tell even begin to understand the mindset of this other female. Sounds really thirsty for male attention; I almost feel sorry for her being such a pathetic individual.
This is one of the major things I don't miss about working in corporate. All the forced interactions, social expectations and drama. The most I ever wanted is for someone to just say happy b-day if they happen to know about it. Or if someone who I was friends with wanted to take me out to lunch, fine. But the cake, cupcakes, balloons and all that c**p, save that for your personal life. This girl created a whole hell of a lot of drama (for someone claiming they didn't want drama) and if I had to work with someone like this I'd be rolling my eyes so hard. Work is work. It's not party with your pals time. Save that for friends and family *after* work.
How did the girl create drama? The other woman in the office planned birthday surprises for all the male coworkers, but decided to cut off the only other woman there. She was the one creating drama. OP simply brought cupcakes to her coworkers on her birthday, she did nothing wrong. "Work is work" - it's the place you spend most of your day in, being friends with your coworkers makes for a better workplace.
Load More Replies...For someone who didn't want drama it does seem like she was creating drama. It sounds like rather than ignore the other woman it sounds like she took that bait and made it a thing. She spent all day worried about this woman and cupcakes and made herself miserable.
A lot of people are really good at obsessing over things that bother us despite really wanting to forget about it. Seems like it worked in her favor because people noticed and let her know that she is appreciated.
Load More Replies...Read this three times, still don't know why this women is getting so much praise for bringing in cupcakes.
Unfortunatly, I've been her so many times. You see everyone get there spot/cube/office decked out.. then comes yours...nadda. I don't think I'm a bad person or anything... Even in school it was like that for me. Hell, no one showed for my 16th or 21st B-day... yeah.. not feeling too good right now considering my bday is in three weeks....
Feel for you. Had similar things happen and its bloody hard..
Load More Replies...Apparantly that one woman wants to be in the center of the spotlight. Luckily she got good advice on how to handle the situation, because otherwise hell would break loose, i assume.
Wow, she writes really well for a third grader obsessed with her birthday cupcakes.
Whole bunch of you retards a) didn't read the article or b) have your heads shoved so far up your asses that you missed the entire point.
At the company I work at, everyone gets taken out for lunch by the HR lady. When my birthday rolled around, I did not get the offer to go for lunch or even a happy birthday, but I took it as a good thing. The lady that takes them out for lunch is UNBEARABLE so I dodged a bullet and everyone else was a little jealous hahaha = )
Women can be so evil when attention-seeking in a male dominated workplace - from experience.One place I worked at these 2 secretarys would almost run to be the first to get hold of the chief executive's dictation, whenever his assistant dropped it off in the office. Literally a fist-fight to be the one to do "his stuff" therefore more important. The Exec was handsome, loaded and very,very married. He barely knew these 2 existed.
The other woman is really pretty. I guess having the other woman as the center of attention was just too much for her, so she outright spread a lie around the office. SMH.
In our organization, HR decorates that person's table with balloons and glitters and also keeps a birthday gift on the table. Before one hour of leaving office, everyone gathers and do cake cutting ceremony and give their best wishes.
Who the f**k cares?! This is not kindergarten or highschool & all your friends forgot you had a b-day! I dont even say anything when it is my birthday! Jeez
People at my work have no clue when my b-day is and I'd like it to stay this way :)
I would rather take the day off with my husband and do something fun, I never worked my Birthday during my 25 year career. I did however get three retirement parties, guess they were happy to see me leave.
A bit off topic but I think birthdays are nice but also hard for some. My friend is massively in debt - has to support his kids - has no idea how they can afford to retire - but they have to chip in $10 - 20 at the office every time it's someone's birthday for a gift, cake and card. He really can't afford it but he's too proud to say anything.
I also really hate when it's mandatory to chip in for gifts. Most places I've worked in it was voluntary. In my current job it's a bit different, you can opt in or out - if you're in you get a birthday surprise and have to chip in for birthdays. If you're out you don't have to and the team won't plan anything for your birthday; some people prefer that.
Load More Replies..."Amazing" lol... the so much about you seems kinda threatening cuz she could have heard anything... she didn't say "good things about you and it seems like it's on purpose cuz I know how caddy girls are and I see right thru that
This is a very murky story. The OP said they were acquainted but the note said "I don't know you." I dunno seems like very passive aggressive actions on both sides with many questions. I take it Girl 1 was in HR or maybe head of the party planning committee? I keep picturing Angela from the Office. Did Girl 2, we'll call her Pam, ever ask Angela why she thought she wouldn't be working on her birthday? Anyways I am sure it caused low key drama murmurs about how damn dramatic a birthday acknowledgement turned into. Personally I have more of a Stanley stance and just want some damn cake. Cheesecake.
THE CUPCAKE SHE DROPPED.... IT IS STILL EDIBLE JUST TAKE THE TOP ICING OFF!! The way she dealt with the problem was nice though!
I know it is besides the point, but I would feel blessed if I had a friend I could call with a cupcake emergency that would come through ;)
I'd be happy if they forgot my bday, but they never do. Once I forgot it myself. Hey isn't it your birthday? Oh yes. Ordered some pie quick. Some are in july. Theyre happy they then don't have to buy much pie, cause most are on a holiday. We have one girl who thinks about sending cards or buying a gift for something. If she didn't do that, noone would.
The other woman is clearly jealous, it's obvious if you read her card and the way she mentions how "everyone says you are AMAZING" that's classic passive aggressive "I don't do sisterhood" type girl b******t, right there.
There are some people who are just nasty. When I had a baby a few weeks early, our neighbor told all the other neighbors I didn't want anyone to come by. I found this out much later, and after feeling very sad.
I worked in a place where nobody did anything for birthdays. I started there in April, and decided that needed to change so for birthdays I organized everyone to sign cards, pitch in to give flowers/cupcakes/lunch for the person with the birthday. They all loved it! My birthday was the following February - 10 months after I started. I didn't get anything. Because I wasn't there to take charge, nobody did anything (despite the office calendar having EVERYONE'S birthdays on it.) I haven't done anything for a co-worker since (and I'm at a different company).
I think that's why most people prefer not to be forced into these work-place birthday celebrations. They don't want to take time away from their jobs, they don't feel it's worth the time. And on the receiving end, what are you going to say, " You suck for doing something for my birthday?" If someone does something for my birthday at work when they do something for everyone, I mean it's not really for ME is it? It's just an obligation and makes feel actually LESS than special because no one who actually knows me OUTSIDE of work would ever do anything for my birthday. Just rubs it in, which adds to the entire discomfort. I never have and never will do anything for a coworker for their birthday or wedding anniversary or their daughter's graduation or a new baby arrival. I would do that stuff for my friends and family. At work, I'm there to work and not to treat all 6 floors of people as if they are friends and family (when they are not). Sorry about them not reciprocating, though, truly.
Load More Replies...I consciously made sure that none of this birthday foolishness occurs in my office, particularly as the oldest woman in a mostly male office I would end up saddled with this "office mom" task. When did grownups decide that balloons & cupcakes & childish things are mandatory every year in a work environment? A simple happy birthday suffices, if you are in regular contact with your coworker. Celebrations of birthday milestones are best left to after hours with the family.
Was it malicious tho? Maybe the other woman thought since she not coming in she having a huge celebration all day with her friends. She only been there 6 months, maybe those gifts/parties were for co-workers that been there a long time or some other significance or maybe just part of her immediate team. At companies i've worked at I've even tossed in $10-20 in the envelope to get a gift for so-and-so and didn't get a return gift on my birthday and not freaked out about it.
What did you expect? Nobody except your parents will remember it.
Load More Replies..."I'm to old for drama" she says while she shares this petty b******t with the entire internet
Somehow I feel like you're under the age of 20 or 25. There's no reason to stop having fun as you age, let people do as they please!
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