Person Online Wanted To Know “What Is The Best Response To ‘Why Are You Still Single?’” And 30 People Gave Their Suggestions
There is a pressure from society that after school you need to go to college, then you need to get a good job, you need to have a car and a house and let’s not forget your social life as well. Besides having friends you need to be in a relationship because how else will you create a family and have kids?
But the younger generation are liberating themselves from these expectations and data shows that more people are choosing to stay single. There was even a study going viral which claimed that the happiest group of people are single women.
Sadly, that doesn’t mean that the expectation isn’t there and people are annoyingly asked “Why are you still single?” That’s not a very tactical question to ask so you can allow yourself to not go into detail and give one of the answers people on Reddit give the curious cats who stick their noses into their business.
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In France we say, "Mieux vaut être seul que mal accompagné" which means "Better alone than in bad company"
Best one I've heard lately:
"Supply-chain issues."
"Because my goal isn't to be in a relationship, it's to be in the *right* relationship."
When my sister got married, my niece, 17, asked me, "How does it feel to be the only one of your siblings not married?"
I simply replied, "Well, unlike them I have standards." Her father, my brother, was right there :)
Go full on Cher from Clueless: "you see how picky I am about my shoes, and they only go on my feet!"
I'm so gunna use this. I love the movie Clueless. It's one of my comfort movies!!!
The voices in my head tend to get jealous very easily
My response last time was "How are you *not*?"
I am single by choice... Their choice but still.
To tolerate me would require a skill level not yet reached by any mortal being.
That's a Zen Master level of self-awarenes sorely lacking in general, and almost universally in politics.
I’d rather be single than pretend to be happy in a fake relationship.
Your mom says she wants no strings attached
Because having another adult who has any say in the course of my adult life is obnoxious 🤣😅
I had one of the groomsmen in the wedding I was in last year ask me that question, after I told him I wasn’t in a rush, his buddy behind him reminded him that he was thrice divorced
Edit: for context I’m 26 M and he was in his late 30’s
„What do you think?“
It’s like the uno reverse card, they asked a potentially uncomfortable question now they gotta answer it themselves.
Sounds dangerous...if they are rude or insensitive or opinionated or whatever enough to ask the question, they might have an answer you don't want to hear
I think the best response is "because I am prioritising my mental health right now" and it being true.
I just tell people I'm happier single. Yes, I've been married. For me, single is better.
I value my freedom too much.
Who the f**k are you? Get the hell out of my house!
All the men where I live want kids!
I do not.
"Because I'm not looking for a partner right now."
Straightforward. Why can't some people just respect that sometimes others don't want relationships-?
Because my dating pool is significantly smaller than yours, Samantha
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Because the only useless attachment allowed in my house is the hoover nozzle brush.
People are surprised when they find out my age because they think I am about 20 years younger. I tell them I am still young and healthy because I have never been married.
Last time I was asked this, it was coming, for the second time in a short while, from one of my parents' friends, a man in his 60s, married, very catholic. We were at my younger sister's wedding and I was single. My answer was "I always pray our Lord and Saviour Jesus to send me a good husband". I was so evidently sarcastic that he shut up and never questioned me again.
There's a cheeky little book by Karen Salmansohn called "Even God is Single: (So Stop Giving Me a Hard Time) which gives comebacks and jokes for if you're ever asked the dreaded "Why aren't married yet?" question. My favorite -- the one that's stuck in my memory the longest -- is this: I'm looking for a soulmate, not a cellmate.
“It takes a mighty good man to be better than no man at all.” Dixie Carter
And I also absolutely do not want to be in a relationship with someone who thinks their partner completes them. You mean you're not a whole person in your own right? Go work on yourself, then.
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Keep those standards up!! I love being married to my husband. That doesn't mean I recommend marriage or even long term relationships to everyone. Lots of people are happier solo, and that's a great thing to know about yourself.
Thank you! I have a partner now, but I've been single for a very long time and honestly I enjoyed it.
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I'm also reminded of a comedian who joked about an old aunt always teasing "You're next! You're next!" at any wedding they were both at. So he started saying it back to her at every funeral.
I've always personally liked "This bloodline ends with me" or "I stand alone".
Because I don't have any desire to have to cook for, clean up after, worry about, or take care of anyone but my dog, and myself.
"It was a narrow escape." (I was engaged but managed to disengage myself, he was abusive.)
Ironically, when I actually was single no one asked why I was single but now I’m in a relationship, a handful of acquaintances have questioned why I haven’t found someone yet, presumably because they haven’t figured out I’m lesbian ( even though I’m very open about it) and assume my gf is a weirdly close best friend whom I act like a couple with because I can’t find a boyfriend to fill that role… *sigh*
"I ran out of room for the bodies and can't find anyone willing to dig". It gets an awkward laugh and then subject changed but that awkwardness lingers since I keep a straight face the whole time.
Because every time I've asked myself in a relationship, "is this how I want to spend the rest of my life", the answer is unequivocally "No!"
I figured out a long time ago that this question, even when couched in compliments, really just means, "What's wrong with you?" Doesn't deserve a serious answer.
This shuts people up if they'[re the type you want to shut up ....I always say, "Because I like s3x too much"
Finding someone is not a priority. The whole world is waiting to be explored! For the massive population surge over the last 100 years, there's a lot of people to comb through if I even want someone. My focus is elsewhere . . . and I don't have to justify anything!
"Commitment issues, I think. It's like how I was thinking of excuses to get out of coming here today."
Because the only useless attachment allowed in my house is the hoover nozzle brush.
People are surprised when they find out my age because they think I am about 20 years younger. I tell them I am still young and healthy because I have never been married.
Last time I was asked this, it was coming, for the second time in a short while, from one of my parents' friends, a man in his 60s, married, very catholic. We were at my younger sister's wedding and I was single. My answer was "I always pray our Lord and Saviour Jesus to send me a good husband". I was so evidently sarcastic that he shut up and never questioned me again.
There's a cheeky little book by Karen Salmansohn called "Even God is Single: (So Stop Giving Me a Hard Time) which gives comebacks and jokes for if you're ever asked the dreaded "Why aren't married yet?" question. My favorite -- the one that's stuck in my memory the longest -- is this: I'm looking for a soulmate, not a cellmate.
“It takes a mighty good man to be better than no man at all.” Dixie Carter
And I also absolutely do not want to be in a relationship with someone who thinks their partner completes them. You mean you're not a whole person in your own right? Go work on yourself, then.
Load More Replies... Keep those standards up!! I love being married to my husband. That doesn't mean I recommend marriage or even long term relationships to everyone. Lots of people are happier solo, and that's a great thing to know about yourself.
Thank you! I have a partner now, but I've been single for a very long time and honestly I enjoyed it.
Load More Replies... I'm also reminded of a comedian who joked about an old aunt always teasing "You're next! You're next!" at any wedding they were both at. So he started saying it back to her at every funeral.
I've always personally liked "This bloodline ends with me" or "I stand alone".
Because I don't have any desire to have to cook for, clean up after, worry about, or take care of anyone but my dog, and myself.
"It was a narrow escape." (I was engaged but managed to disengage myself, he was abusive.)
Ironically, when I actually was single no one asked why I was single but now I’m in a relationship, a handful of acquaintances have questioned why I haven’t found someone yet, presumably because they haven’t figured out I’m lesbian ( even though I’m very open about it) and assume my gf is a weirdly close best friend whom I act like a couple with because I can’t find a boyfriend to fill that role… *sigh*
"I ran out of room for the bodies and can't find anyone willing to dig". It gets an awkward laugh and then subject changed but that awkwardness lingers since I keep a straight face the whole time.
Because every time I've asked myself in a relationship, "is this how I want to spend the rest of my life", the answer is unequivocally "No!"
I figured out a long time ago that this question, even when couched in compliments, really just means, "What's wrong with you?" Doesn't deserve a serious answer.
This shuts people up if they'[re the type you want to shut up ....I always say, "Because I like s3x too much"
Finding someone is not a priority. The whole world is waiting to be explored! For the massive population surge over the last 100 years, there's a lot of people to comb through if I even want someone. My focus is elsewhere . . . and I don't have to justify anything!
"Commitment issues, I think. It's like how I was thinking of excuses to get out of coming here today."
