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15 People Are Mocking This Toxic, Stupid, And Arrogant ‘Bean Dad’
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15 People Are Mocking This Toxic, Stupid, And Arrogant ‘Bean Dad’

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A dad in the US has been dubbed one of the first “online villains” of 2021 after, on January 2nd, he posted an infamous Twitter thread. In the now-deleted thread, he went into the details of teaching his hungry daughter to use the can opener.

The dad seemed to be genuinely proud of his valuable lesson, calling it an “allegory of triumph” and “a parenting theater in some ways.” After all, after 6 hours of trial and error, and foggy brain, his 9-year-old proudly popped the can of beans open.

But people on Twitter, though, were less than impressed with dad’s schooling methods. Many condemned the incident, claiming it was an example of very “poor” parenting, while others said it was plain unnecessary, and the rest pointed out the whole story could have been made up.

A handful, though, stood up to defend him, but the heated debate on “bean dad’s” education was already on and it seems like everyone has something to add to it. So let’s see what the whole “Bean Dad” saga that’s just all over the internet these days is all about.

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In response to the backlash online, the infamous dad turned to Twitter on January 3 again and stated: “Somehow my story about teaching my daughter how to work out how to use a can opener and overcome her frustration got over onto a version of Twitter where I’m being accused of child abuse. It’s astonishing. My kid is fine, everybody.”

This tweet was followed by another one: “The only thing people are touchier about than parenting style is dog ownership.”The “Bean Dad” has since deleted his Twitter account, sparking even more comments on how he wasn’t that proud of his “parenting theater” after all.

But people on Twitter were less than impressed by the dad’s thread and the heated debate was officially on

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To find out what people online really think of the “Bean Dad” saga and how it became one of the most-talked about subjects in the past days, Bored Panda reached out to Twitter user Edward Stockwell, who shared this meme as a response to the infamous thread.

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Edward believes that the thread caused such a stir on Twitter because at its highest level, “it’s an absolutely absurd story involving a can of beans and an utterly pretentious dad.” His personal opinion on the matter, as he puts it, is that the dad “should have helped her open the damn beans after like fifteen minutes instead of going on a weird monologue about can openers to his nine-year-old daughter for six hours.”

Having said that, Edward added that he totally gets his insistence on raising a self-reliant child. Yet the lesson may have caused the very opposite result. “I think what that whole lesson taught her is that it’s not okay to ask for help and that her dad thinks lowly of her. Those probably aren’t his intentions, but that’s likely what’s getting taken away from all of this.”

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Edward agreed that parenting per se is a controversial topic, as we’ve all seen in the replies. “There are plenty of folks who agree with his tactics. Now, does child psychology show that their children are going to grow up distrusting others and likely eventually stop talking to their parents after their first session with a therapist? That’s a whole other can of worms.”

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Of course, that doesn’t mean “because of this one incident, he should have his life ruined.” Edward thought the story “was a weird thing to brag about and moved on with my day.”

Yet, “attacking him for this will only drive him more and more into fringe thinking, which will do some real harm,” he said and added that he hopes this was just a one-off incident that Bean Dad thought was hilarious and important to share.

15 People Are Mocking This Toxic, Stupid, And Arrogant 'Bean Dad'

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Meanwhile, other users have already dug up the dad’s older tweets, whose screenshots began circulating on social media. According to Know Your Meme, they were extremely problematic.

But the dad’s co-worker, with whom he hosts a podcast, tried to defend him on racial, homophobic, and sexist allegations. The co-worker called him “a loving and attentive dad” and stated: “There’s no axis where any anti-Semitic screenshot represents any actual opinion I’ve ever heard from him.”

On Sunday, though, the podcast for which the dad has been working announced it would no longer be using his music.

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Skadi Lifdis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can raise self reliant kids without frustrating them to the point of tears. It sounds like that puzzle was more important than actually teaching his daughter. Furthermore - maybe...JUST MAYBE he should get off his ass and make sure there's food in the house instead of doing a jigsaw puzzle. He has a job. Even when I was at my absolute poorest - surviving on $50 a month and $200 in food stamps, I made damn sure my son had food before anything else. At one point, I didn't eat for 3 days so he would have enough to eat. This dad is an absolute joke.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been hungry a few times myself, luckily not when I had kids. But it did put life in perspective for me. I hoped that I would never have that happen again. But all of what you said, spot on. How about teaching her to use the can opener, not expect a 9 year old to figure out how the mechanism works. Jeez, what a jerk.

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LittleMissLotus
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm less concerned about the fact that she didn't get food for six hours, and more about the fact that she was frustrated to tears. having to wait a handful of hours for food is just life, but causing a kid enough mental and emotional stress that she cries is pretty much abusive.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Really, man? This is how you grab your little slice of power in the world, by keeping your kid hungry? You could have SHOWN her how to use the can opener, so she would know how to do it herself next time. Parenting fail. He was too lazy to get off his butt and help his own kid. What a loser.

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Rissie
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3 years ago

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Do just be sure Trump made craziness reality, doesn't mean others do too. The dude just wrote an over the top story that was mostly made up and just based on having a few moments of fun figuring out a can opener.... She didn't cry, she wasn't hungry. He took a spin on his kid figuring out a silly toolshed never had used. If he actually did that, he would not tweet it out like that. Not unless it had many spelling errors and came straight from Donald Trump.

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Skadi Lifdis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can raise self reliant kids without frustrating them to the point of tears. It sounds like that puzzle was more important than actually teaching his daughter. Furthermore - maybe...JUST MAYBE he should get off his ass and make sure there's food in the house instead of doing a jigsaw puzzle. He has a job. Even when I was at my absolute poorest - surviving on $50 a month and $200 in food stamps, I made damn sure my son had food before anything else. At one point, I didn't eat for 3 days so he would have enough to eat. This dad is an absolute joke.

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Louloubelle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been hungry a few times myself, luckily not when I had kids. But it did put life in perspective for me. I hoped that I would never have that happen again. But all of what you said, spot on. How about teaching her to use the can opener, not expect a 9 year old to figure out how the mechanism works. Jeez, what a jerk.

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LittleMissLotus
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm less concerned about the fact that she didn't get food for six hours, and more about the fact that she was frustrated to tears. having to wait a handful of hours for food is just life, but causing a kid enough mental and emotional stress that she cries is pretty much abusive.

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StrawberryParfait
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Really, man? This is how you grab your little slice of power in the world, by keeping your kid hungry? You could have SHOWN her how to use the can opener, so she would know how to do it herself next time. Parenting fail. He was too lazy to get off his butt and help his own kid. What a loser.

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Rissie
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3 years ago

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Do just be sure Trump made craziness reality, doesn't mean others do too. The dude just wrote an over the top story that was mostly made up and just based on having a few moments of fun figuring out a can opener.... She didn't cry, she wasn't hungry. He took a spin on his kid figuring out a silly toolshed never had used. If he actually did that, he would not tweet it out like that. Not unless it had many spelling errors and came straight from Donald Trump.

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