Someone Asks People Online To Share Parenting Tips That Might Sound Smart, But Are Actually Toxic Parenting Advice, And 30 People Provide
Have you ever noticed how absolutely everybody and their mothers become experts on parenting as soon as you become a parent?
Everyone from your parents to in-laws to friends to random people on the internet will have your back with parenting tips, tricks, hacks, general advice, stuff they read or heard on Facebook or any other piece of trivia from the entertainment section of your local newspaper.
But be mindful. The stuff they tell you might sound like something a good parent would do, but it's only deceptively good advice. Luckily, folks on Reddit have been pointing out bad parenting practices that, on paper, might sound quite nice to some, but really aren't, and more people should be aware of that.
The now-viral thread has nearly 14,000 upvotes with just one Reddit award, but it's the award that matters. Bored Panda has gathered the best of the best responses and laid them down in the curated list below. So, scroll, vote, comment, all that jazz, and share your "good" parenting advice that's actually not-so-good advice in the comment section below!
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Sex is a dirty, embarrassing off-limits subject that they are never mature enough for you to discuss it with. Good way to ensure your kid grows up with some form of bodily insecurity and you're also leaving them to learn about sex/sexuality from their peers or the media, the two most destructive sources imaginable.
Tell your daughter "that boy hurt/teases you because he likes you!". Sure I get the surface idea of "making a negative seem positive". But it's a good way to end up confused as to how she ended up with an abusive boyfriend later in life.
I'm sure this'll get reddit readying their best super original "attack helicopter" jokes, but the whole "boys = blue/action toys, girls = pink/frilly princess things" needs to stop. Just let the kid be a kid. If he wants a barbie, cool. If she wants to play football, cool. Your kid won't grow up wrong if their room isn't colour coded and your child's masculinity/femininity is none of your business anyway.
Divgirl2 said:
If they are throwing a tantrum, distract them by giving sweet treats or a new toy.
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My nephew is two. Whenever he throws a tantrum, his parents say fuck it and give him candy because they don't want to deal with it.
When he throws a tantrum at my house, I let him cry it out for a little while then offer him water. Works like a charm. He stops crying, he learns to do what I ask him to when I ask him to, and we get to hug it out in the end.
Susim-the-Housecat replied:
Get ready to become his favourite person.
My nephew was the same and I was strict when i needed to be and kind the rest of the time. I swear every other adult in his life was the opposite, they'd tell him off for accidents and mistakes, or just from doing normal kid things, and when he threw tantrums, they'd give him sweets to shut him up. When his parents asked him to do things, it was always a struggle, so they always called him a bad kid. when I ask him to do things or calm down, he does it without question, and when we're together he's a freaking angel, he's not a bad kid at all.
Now I'm his favourite person because for a long time I was the only one that gave him the kind of structure and attention he needs.
Plus playing minecraft with him doesn't hurt.
You're MY favorite uncle! Yo're absolutely right, kids need love and structure and playtime with grown-ups. The addition of Mine Craft makes you, well, awesome.
Don't let your kids fail.
The worst thing we can do as parents is never allow our kids to fail. We only fail them, as parents, by never allowing them to face disappointment and are robbing them from the ability to learn some basic life skills. Let your kids fail, fall on their face, pick themselves up and rub the dirt off.
Always tell your kids to finish their food. This honestly just promotes obesity and an unhealthy lifestyle, although I get the idea of telling them to finish what's on their plates.
I've found that small kids usually don't eat a lot all at once, but if I put it in the fridge, chances are they'll want more in an hour or two. It's easier, and cheaper than throwing it away, and buying separate snacks, that will also end up half eaten. Once they are teens, however it's the opposite. They'll finish their plates, ask if there's any more, and still be hungry.
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Have a second child so they can babysit each other
[deleted] replied:
Lol my brother is 9 years older than me. He was always supposed to be my babysitter.
When I was 6 (so Kiki, my bro, was 15), my parents went away on a trip and left him in charge with a list of chores.
Well, I ended up doing most of those and making dinner for us. And when I was done, I walked two blocks to my friend Anne Marie's to go play. Kiki was asleep, so I didn't tell him I was gone (it was like noon).
Kiki received a very angry phone call from Anne Marie's mother, who yelled at him that he needed to be actually watching his 6 year old sister. She also called Mom, who called Kiki to yell at him again. Poor boy cried!
14 years later and when it's just the two of us taking care of a task ... I'm still in charge. He may be my older brother, but sis is the one who gets things done. I love him to death though!
I was a teen mom and I went to a school for teen parents. I had just 1, but there were girls there on their 2nd, 3rd and one was having her 4th kid. The audacity one girl had to tell me I was "selfish" for not giving my kid a sibling so could have a playmate. Of course I couldn't see my face but I must have been looking at her like she dropped in from another planet.
watermelonpizzafries said:
Kid is obviously being bullied on a playground. Adults brush it off as "kids being kids".
Pokabrows replied:
Or if a boy is bullying a girl and they say 'oh he just likes you'. Don't teach kids that people show affection by bullying. That's setting them up for bad relationships.
My son was subjected to bullying at school when he was a kid. When he was doing volunteerwork at an elementaryschool he'd walk around the schoolyard and always adressed the children and the situation when he saw this... even when the teachers walking around would brush it of, he'd persevere in trying to bend things around the right way again.
Not letting them date until after high school.
That one backfired on my parents in a big way lol
Edit: ok so I didn't elaborate because I didn't think that many people would be interested hah.
Technically, I wasn't allowed to date until after college. I wasn't allowed to go out with my friends very often during high school, so I would have to pick and choose what events I wanted to ask to attend because they would be angry if I asked too often. The easiest way to deal with this at the time was by lying or sneaking around- sometimes I would say I had an after school club to go to but that was hard because I would always need a ride home and my dad started work right after our school ended.
I ended up dating a guy in high school and since we were never able to go out on actual dates, he would just come over after school and leave before my parents got back for dinner. I did leave the house once in awhile but not very often because I was so paranoid about being caught and because we didn't have a car. So this leads to sex, which I was definitely not ready for or even want at the time (don't worry, it wasn't rape- he did get my consent although he didn't really respect my boundaries but that's not the issue here).
Anyways, I met my current SO in college and we've been dating 6 years but my parents only know about 1 of them sooo yeah.
Moral of the story is restricting me from boyfriends did not stop me from sex, and now I have trust issues with my parents.
The overprotection of teens wanting to date is nauseatingly cringy and not even funny at all. Not to mention the "I got a 68 calibre and a shovel. I doubt anyone will miss you." bit. Knock it off. Girls get it , too, from the bf's mom. "If you get pregnant, you're gonna do a paternity test because no hoe is gonna ruin my son's life."
goldilocks22 said:
My dad, a psychology professor, told me that if my child bit me, I should bite him back.
poorexcuses replied:
My mom hammed it up when we bit her. She would be like "Oh ow~! It hurts!!!! Why did you bite your mommy???" and we were like oh no oh s**t my mom is sad I f****d up. Babies aren't so good at empathy but they do know when mom is upset.
Piorn replied:
It's like raising kittens really. Playtime ends when they use their claws or teeth, sooner or later they'll play nice.
morph023 said:
"Do as I say, not as I do"
biddlyboing replied:
Ah, sounds like what I got told.
"A child is to be seen, not heard"
And by seen, they meant sit there listening in patiently as they talk for hours on end about the local gossip. And get told off for being anti social if I get a phone out or book, or God forbid "hide from them" when I went to the toilet.
Kids start habits by watching their parents. Even if you tell them to not do what you do but listen to the things I tell you. Kids always listen. The pick up on things and learn things through parents.
geauxjolie said:
Make your kids give hugs and kisses to show affection to relatives, friends, etc.
BurdenofReflecting replied:
I've always let my son decide who he wants to hug/kiss. He can say no. It teaches him he's allowed to have boundaries.
Pitboyx replied:
Autonomy in general is very important in addition to supporting the decision as long as it's reasonable.
My nephew is 4 and he went through a phase where he didn't want to hug or kiss anyone but his parents. Made me sad but we never forced the issue and though now I have my hugs and kisses again, we also do little headbutts; lightly tapping heads. We started when he didn't want to hug and he thought it was great; he knows he can only headbutt me without asking first
waldo06 said:
Let your toddler play with your phone to calm them down.
sfasancy replied:
My 2 yr old niece was playing with my brothers phone and ended up on Instagram liking dudes pics.
ninjanikki91 said:
Constantly tell your kids they're the smartest kids ever.
robbythompsonsglove replied:
F**k, this is the worst. My 9yo is struggling because we were so nice to her and so impressed with her intelligence. 3 siblings later, and any day without being the smartest and best becomes a problem.
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Keep your kids super clean and away from potential allergens.
StuntGunman replied:
If your children don't come in contact with germs they won't have any immunities to them! So many kids my daughter plays with are obsessed with hand sanitizer and so have to keep explaining to her that it's bad for her to use.
[deleted] replied:
We never use hand sanitizer at home so whenever we go to the hospital or doctors office my oldest hits up every single dispenser. Every. Single. One. Even if they are only 10 feet apart and we pass 20 of them on the way to wherever we are going.
It's the only time I don't mind him overdosing on sanitizer.
wepwepwepwe said:
All of the authoritarian parenting advice out there. Be strict, use time-outs or spanking or whatever at the slightest provocation, don't let your kids have any freedom or privacy, "my house my rules" and so on.
Mulanisabamf replied:
I heard "my house my rules" until I left the parental house at 20.
I still have trouble communicating and setting boundaries, especially with people I think are authority-like.
[deleted] replied:
I know exactly what you mean. My parents demanded instant, unquestioning obedience as long as I lived under their roof. Failing that, I was yelled at to go to my room, "stop talking foolish talk", or stand in the corner (this until I was 17 or 18) Today I can't approach my boss without thinking I'm saying something stupid, doing my job badly or worse, "being disrespectful".
I realize this is probably mild in comparison to some people's experience, but I just needed to get this off my chest.
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My mom always says this one: "When you have kids, lie to them. Lie through your teeth".
No Mom, no.
koolbloo replied:
When I was in elementary school I asked mom one day why she sometimes used pads and tampons. Without a second thought she told me that she used them because "she couldn't hold her pee sometimes."
Let me remind you that this happened wayyyy after my potty training.
She realized that she really shouldn't have lied to me when she found out that I was using her pads in order not to pee on myself (I think I thought "if mommy couldn't hold it as a grown up how the hell am I supposed to hold it as a child?"). Also because she purchased perfumed pads, I put some of them in my drawers because come on, they smelled nice. So before mom ran out of her pad stock, she decided to talk to me about why she really used them.
When your kids achieve something great or good just tell them it ain't s**t. That way it gets them to do even better the next time!!!
... And then later in life they get to have all kinds of f****d up complexes like myself. Unable to relax with out feeling like s**t.
If you ignore them they will leave you alone. Whoever made up this advice originally is stupid. This hardly works on adults let alone children who still don't understand the 'too far' line when joking/teasing.
Lying to your kids to explain difficult things.
I get that in some situations, like if someone [chooses to end their lives], telling an alternative story may be a good idea. But for 99% of situations or questions a kid asks, a parent should respond factually.
Edit: By alternative story I don't mean lying. I'm talking about simplifying words and concepts to explain the idea, not outright fabricating or denying events.
The whole "you're too young for that" argument for making things up to change the subject doesn't sit well for me. Explain it like it is, if they're too young [immature] to comprehend, they'll just blink at you and change the subject themselves.
EnchantedOcelot said:
Your child can never do wrong. Something else must be the problem.
MegasusPegasus replied:
This is very true, but so is it's inversion.
Some parents never trust their kid telling them something is wrong. From something as minor as an unfair teacher to as severe as being uncomfortable with someone who turns out to be a molester, a lot of parents just don't trust their kids at all.
Cosmic_Cowboy2 replied:
I feel like this was me, and I honestly have no idea how much of it was just default mistrust and how much of it I actually earned.
Either way, when I was 16 I was fired from my awesome summer job over a complete misunderstanding (manager offered me my job back later, bunch of people quit over it anyway). I cried after it happened, and luckily a bunch of my coworkers sat me down to talk it out. My dad, on the other hand, didn't so much as let me speak up in my own defense when he came to pick me up. He just assumed I was a horrible employee, and we drove home in one of the most tensely silent car rides of my life.
I have some self-esteem problems, as you might guess.
Your dad SUCKS!!! I had parents like that too. You can ask them to be supportive and to believe in you. Do it at a time when everyone is calm, and just say "it really hurts me that as you being my parents that you don't believe in me. I need you to believe in me". It might work, it might not. If they start getting mad and yelling at you, just say "fine. I was just trying to be an adult and trying to communicate my needs and have a conversation. When you are ready to have calm discussion about this, come talk to me." And just drop it from there. That way you have opened the door and let them know you are hurt, and what your needs are, and that you are willing to have a discussion about it. This is how you create boundaries with people. I have self esteem issues as well, and it has taken me MANY years to learn this, and it had helped my self esteem A LOT. You have to learn how to speak up and let your needs be known (always in a calm way). Then u know where u stand. Wishing u luck!!
It doesn't matter how miserable and toxic your marriage becomes, you need to stay with your partner to keep the family together.
Edit: I'm surprised and a bit disheartened to see how many people relate to this. One of my good friends grew up with a controlling, abusive father and parents didn't divorce until the oldest kid went to college. Her mother stuck it out because she was raised to think that a "together family" would leave her kids better off (she's since apologized to her children many times for this, but my friend is acceptable the apology very readily)
My parents have had serious marriage problems since I was in 4th grade and my father has been emotionally abusing my mother and my siblings and I for a very long time. At this point I just want them to get it over with and my father to work on his problems or get the f**k out of our lives. It was a significant factor in me developing depression and becoming suicidal at multiple points in my life.
I grew up with a mother who was very much like a certain Aqua Man actress who's dog steps on bee's. Mentally and physically abusive to both us kids and my father, but oh,so innocent and holier than thou, in public. We told our teachers, but they didn't believe our "sweet" mother would do that. We told the psychiatrist the school sent us to, because they thought we made stuff up. We told the DCF workers who were called in when we started fighting back. She convinced them we were just bad kids. I begged my dad from the time I was in elementary school, to leave her and take us with him. He was one of those, convinced that we needed two parents, so we were stuck living like that until SHE finally left US, when I was a teenager. She went all out, too. Got a restraining order on dad and signed over all parental rights to us kids. Anyway, I have PTSD, now. I have kids, but their father started hitting me. I left him eight years ago, and have never once doubted my decision to take them away.
Withholding the truth from your kids.
After two of my grandparents died. My parents took it upon themselves to not tell me my grandfather passed away while I was at boarding school. Got a very random text from my estranged sister saying "it's a bummer what happened to grandad".
Second time my mum texted me while I was living abroad to tell me my other grandad is in hospital sick. After an hour catch up on skype with my dad, turned out he was in hospital... But dead.
So never withhold the truth. It f***s with our heads. FOR LIFE.
Two of my cousins lived with my grandparents. All of their animals "ran away" even the ones we ate. They were not told that my grandfather had passed, when they were in highschool, until my uncle told them the day of the funeral. I got reamed out, by my grandmother for telling one of them that his dog had to be put to sleep for biting a jogger. He was 30, at the time. Grandma had told him it was adopted by a nice lady. No, my cousin is not disabled in any way, he's just a giant spoiled man baby.
"Keep the household quiet when baby is sleeping."
We are a busy household 4 dogs 2 cats a 2 year old and a 2 month old. If I want to blend a smoothie, listen to music or vacuum the house I do it. We do not tiptoe, my kids sleep through noise.
This post made me realise my parents didn't raise me so well.
They're pretty old, so they had old fashioned parenting methods. I got spanked until I was 7 or 8 until they decided kids were not for spanking anymore, which isn't that bad. But I also got coddled my whole life. Everything was made easy for me, and I was always told I was the smartest and prettiest and most capable. Left me with high self esteem and virtually no majorly bad experiences aside from an abusive sister, but now at 17 I'm still not allowed to do ANYTHING for myself. I'm not trusted with any tasks at all, nor am I given any freedom. Worst of all, I'm given no chances to fail because I have no choices. My mom makes all my choices forcibly so that I never suffer any consequences ever.
As for the high self esteem, I had to do a lot of therapy to recover from (among other things) the crippling realization that I am not, in fact, the smartest and prettiest. Hit me like a train, basically lost all sense of self worth for a while
Parenting is a balancing act on a very thin, very high wire. Very easy to fail/fall and have to get back up again. But you do get back up, because you have to; your kids depend on you.
My sister has the habit of buying both of my nephews presents, but she does it in a way that she thinks is fair. I mean, say it's my oldest nephews birthday. Well she buys them both toys so that they don't feel left out. Same for the younger one. If say, one of them gets good grades or has done something good, they both get presents.
I mean, that's awesome, but I feel that that might be a bad parenting habit since she's spoiling them both at the same time. And most of the time, the oldest fights over the younger one's toys because he choose something that interested him later on. So I don't think it's working.
You have the right to invade your child's privacy because it's for their own good.
There are specific situations where I think doing this can be condoned. But I'm talking about those parents who go through the kid's diary, social platforms, closets, everything - just because their kid is acting secretive or because the parents "have a hunch." Children of parents like that will grow up to be mistrusting of others, among other issues. I would know, thanks mom.
Your kid probably won't act so sketchy around you if you taught them early about good communication and trust. Snooping around their stuff and not giving them their own space isnot good for either of you. Trust is not a one-way deal.
Sometimes I read stories about parents removing bedroom doors because privacy has to be earned... My parents were very strict, but never did they remove the door...
I think its wrong if a parent uses financial leverage against their child's personal choices, such as where to attend college. "We won't pay for you tuition unless you do THIS, attend THIS school, and follow all of our rules".
This may seem like a well intended way to guide your children away from harm and keep them on their best path.
However, I've found that it can be harmful. Your parents try to know what's best for you, generally speaking, but it is still a form of emotional manipulation that I don't think is appropriate for a 17 or 18 year old, or anyone old enough to be making choices about their own living situations.
By the same standards, a parent might say, if you choose to marry this person, we will not help you cover the costs of the wedding.
If your parents really respect who you are as an adult, they should give you unselfish support that doesn't vary depending on how they would potentially make a different choice in your scenario.
I won't pay for a car that does not have very high safety ratings. And I'm giving my kid a higher car budget if she picks a Volvo. Because they're super safe. And I like them.
I agree with you. While I get what the OP means - don't cut your children off because you disagree with legitimate life choices, there are exceptions here. Like when I was 17 and told my dad I was struggling at college. My parents didn't have much, but my dad took on an extra shift so I could cut my hours at my part time job and also pay for a tutor. It's hard to imagine anything else I could have wanted at 17 my dad would not have told me to save up for myself. He also topped up my car buying budget a few times when I could not find one he thought was safe.
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I have zero problem telling my kid I won't pay for a useless college major but will pay for one with an actual potential to earn a living. It's my money and she doesn't have a right to it. I'm not going to make a bad investment just she can feel grown up... ironically, while still being financially dependent on me. She's wants to major in "gender theory" or some BS like that, it's up to her. Engineering, education, business, etc, yep, I'll buck up.
I can assure you that your kid will end up crying in my office about what an a*****e you are. You're also welcome to take my gender theory class (which is part of the education field). You'd learn a lot.
Load More Replies... This also goes hand in hand with letting them fail and learn from their mistakes. Unless the potential outcome will be tragic/deadly/expensive, let them choose their own paths. You can still discuss it with them, give them advice, like pursue Plan A, but make sure to have a Plan B, C, and D already formulated, just in case. Or how to take what they want to do in a direction that will pay the bills. Like, they can always teach what they love, to pay for doing what they love, so major in art and minor in education. It’s not passive-aggressively telling them you don’t think they’ll succeed at being an artist, it’s just advising them to take a common sense approach to pursuing their dream. Not everyone can pay bills waiting tables.
Nope nope nope. Your parents have the right to set boundaries on financing college and weddings. If you don't like it, you can pay for them yourself.
Setting boundaries is one thing. Demanding they do things YOUR was or no way, is quite another.
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It's fair to say "I won't financially support choices that are bad for you." but make it more "Lets look at the options, and you need to convince me that the choice you are making is well thought out, and right for you." Let them show you the car safety stats, or the employment prospects of the degree course, or the ranking of the school, or the courses they are offering. Understand why your kid wants what they want, and be prepared to share evidence for the option you recommend. Be willing to accept that you are wrong. Maybe the Student Loan debt would not be compensated for by higher earnings and better employment prospects, and a trade qualification or an apprenticeship is a better choice. Maybe your favored school is top of the league table over all, but not for their chosen subject. Maybe you are basing your recommendation on safety stats from the 00's and if you look at cars five to ten years old, the stats are different.
Parents: "We won't pay for your college if you don't choose this school." Kids mind: "Fine, I'll get an after school job and work my a*s off for scholarships so I can go to the school I want."
Lol my kid has worked part time for 2 years. She graduated high school valedictorian. She is ranked as one of the best musicians in the state. She got a full academic scholarship and a partial music scholarship since she's in the music program but not a music major. Yeah, she still has a student loan. Scholarships aren't what they used to be.
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That's well within their rights. I wanted to remarry a cheating sociopath who was after my and my dad's money. My dad helps me out financially. He said I won't give you a cent anymore. Ditched the guy. Listen to daddy, also when you're 50 and dumb.
That's a little different. I think OP is taking about something more superficial, like saying they won't pay for the wedding just because future spouse is, say, a blue collar worker, and not a doctor.
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I agree with this to an extent. You also shouldn't unabashedly financially support your child either. If they're wanting to buy a car that's worth more than your house or go to college that's gonna cause 100s of thousands of student debt or more maybe try to have a conversation with them about your concerns.
Absolutely. But setting boundaries is way different than using financial leverage to manipulate and control.
Load More Replies... The only things my parents ever told me, in this vein, were that there were certain cars I wasn't allowed to consider, when looking for my first (they were paying half; I saved up, and they matched it), & that if I moved out, like into my own place, they would no longer pay for my college tuition. But I didn't have any demands as to where to go to college or anything, except that it had to be somewhere where they could afford the loan payments, lol. And I never felt, nor do I feel now, that our agreement about the tuition or the refusal to help pay for certain cars was a manipulation. I understood. The car thing, though a bit frustrating at the time, lol, was about safety-they didn't want me driving something convertible or top-heavy at only 16. As for my tuition, if I moved out, that meant I was adult enough to take care of myself. So I was expected to. But they still occasionally helped me, & still do even now, in small ways, and I them. That's just what family does.
Understand the OP probably meant it otherwise, but this comes across as extremely privileged.
I had similar financial abuse from the other end: all I heard was "If you think I'm paying for ____, you're crazy!" and "The day you turn 18, you're out on your own!" I'm sure the assholes thought they were giving me incentive, but instead, they were destroying any sense of safety, security, and self-worth I had, and making sure I felt nothing but anxiety, rejection, and panic.
extracrispyoriginal said:
Teach your child that the sun goes down every day because it's mad at them.
PM-YOUR-CUTE-SMILE replied:
Holy [smokes] imagine them freaking out during a solar eclipse.
"TIMMY WHAT DID YOU DO?!"
superjerkingoff187 replied:
Ah, this reminds me of the time where my dog [peed] on my grill and we were cooking burgers and there was flames, we in humor mode made him think that his [pee] set it on fire. He doesn't [pee] on things anymore.
Let them beat you at games.
Nooooooooo. Play a game with a good handicap mechanic (randomness or explicit) that lets you beat them closer to 50% of the time and ideally lets you adjust the handicap as they start winning more. Or switch games to something more complex but keep its randomness at a level so that they can beat you legitimately but definitely not always.
They need to learn how to deal with loss, how to adjust their behavior based on what's happening to them. Forget that oft-touted idea of "teaching them that things will be handed to them" (which is true though I detest the bleak pessimism we often see it portrayed with), more importantly you're lying to them about which things that happen to them are important and can be learned from.
Put another way: a lot of parenting ideas seek to shield children from consequences. F**k. That. B******t. Also don't give them all the consequences all at once. Let them face consequences, but at a level appropriate to where they are in life and ever increasing in severity, with spikes and lulls in relative difficulty for them to handle.
Source: not a parent, but a classically trained game designer.
haroldburgess said:
Give them treats and rewards EVERY time they do a chore or something around the house.
Philip_De_Bowl replied:
"Your reward is getting to live here, the clothes on your back, and the toys you play with!"
~ My Dad
iSmellMusic replied:
That's what my dad says too, but in his defense I'm now 20 and I want to move out.
Sweetune replied:
My dad told me that anyone living in his house will have to do chores.
dabisnit replied:
After the age of 18, you're no longer a resident but a guest. That's what my dad explained to me.
People do chores because they are needed to keep the house functioning. As a member of the family, you do chores. If you don't, you may not be able to do other things (removal of fun things or ideally natural consequences go here). But also, as a member of the family. You get your needs and some if your wants met, that might include allowance. You don't get paid for chores, but its the same mechanism.
Pocario said:
Surround your baby with lots of pillows so that he's comfortable and won't roll over.
themadhattergirl replied:
Also, put lots of stuffed animals in the crib with your baby!
Seriously, don't do this.
Chavezz13 replied:
How come?
epipremnumaureum replied:
Basically a risk of suffocating. You need to make sure a baby is warm and comfortable but consider that a baby can't move stuff that gets in the way.
Don't let your baby sleep with any soft objects until he's at least 12 months old. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, pillow-like toys, blankets, quilts, crib bumpers, and other bedding increase the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) and death by suffocation or strangulation.
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Something else I've noticed that isn't good parenting is "joking" about kicking you kid out as soon as they're 18.
Lots of kids who are brainwashed to believe music, alcohol and drugs are evil become addicts when let loose into life. It’s like eating rice and beans everyday until you move out and then you have a damn country buffet with anything you want. Fill that plate up, f**k rice and beans.
My Dad would say, you'll do for me, whoever I did something good, be polite, was kind. Sound like an insult, but honestly it was brilliant. No pressure or expectation, just a recognition that I'd tried without any patronisation.
Great honestly and I have boomer parents...had to clean my plate (taut me to take less food), got spanked when I deserved it (I can count on one hand how many times I actually got spanked) and I got grounded if I didn't get good enough grades.( that taut me to always work to my full potential and not half-a** in life)
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My parents always says that the fewer kids a person got, the more they seem to know about raising kids. And the people who think they know the most is the ones without kids. My parents raised 8 kids successfully. And they do not - ever - claim to have all the answers regarding how to raise kids.
I think it's not a matter of number of children. Well, you need to raise at least 1(!) to distinguish theory from practice! But the most important thing is to accept that YOU ARE going to do mistakes, lots of them, acknowledge them, and LEARN FROM THEM
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KIDS MUST RESPECT THEIR PARENTS. Yes, but remember, respect is a two-way street. You need to respect your kids for them to be able to respect you. Kids are not born knowing this. I have 2 kids and I respect them the way I want them to respcet me, because by doing so I'm teaching them WHAT IS RESPECT? AND HOW TO RESPECT ME AND OTHERS.
In our house, you can't share your opinion in discussions. You have to agree and say they are right or else you'll be getting a disappointed look. Politics like which president to vote for elections or talks about LGBTQ+ will end badly once you say that the you are not voting the same president or that yiou support the LGBTQ+ community. Sad part is as much as I would like to speak, I was basically conditioned to experience fear whenever they give me a look of disappointment because when I was younger, that means it's time for a spanking.
PLEASEPLEASEPLEASE$TOPMAKINgMEREADALLTHESENAMESiRICANTTAKEITANYMOREMYMANNOW$$$MINUSMIDASTouCHCRAPNOW. I don't want to know all these monikers. PLEASEPLEASEPLEA$ESTOP
Something else I've noticed that isn't good parenting is "joking" about kicking you kid out as soon as they're 18.
Lots of kids who are brainwashed to believe music, alcohol and drugs are evil become addicts when let loose into life. It’s like eating rice and beans everyday until you move out and then you have a damn country buffet with anything you want. Fill that plate up, f**k rice and beans.
My Dad would say, you'll do for me, whoever I did something good, be polite, was kind. Sound like an insult, but honestly it was brilliant. No pressure or expectation, just a recognition that I'd tried without any patronisation.
Great honestly and I have boomer parents...had to clean my plate (taut me to take less food), got spanked when I deserved it (I can count on one hand how many times I actually got spanked) and I got grounded if I didn't get good enough grades.( that taut me to always work to my full potential and not half-a** in life)
Load More Replies... My parents always says that the fewer kids a person got, the more they seem to know about raising kids. And the people who think they know the most is the ones without kids. My parents raised 8 kids successfully. And they do not - ever - claim to have all the answers regarding how to raise kids.
I think it's not a matter of number of children. Well, you need to raise at least 1(!) to distinguish theory from practice! But the most important thing is to accept that YOU ARE going to do mistakes, lots of them, acknowledge them, and LEARN FROM THEM
Load More Replies... KIDS MUST RESPECT THEIR PARENTS. Yes, but remember, respect is a two-way street. You need to respect your kids for them to be able to respect you. Kids are not born knowing this. I have 2 kids and I respect them the way I want them to respcet me, because by doing so I'm teaching them WHAT IS RESPECT? AND HOW TO RESPECT ME AND OTHERS.
In our house, you can't share your opinion in discussions. You have to agree and say they are right or else you'll be getting a disappointed look. Politics like which president to vote for elections or talks about LGBTQ+ will end badly once you say that the you are not voting the same president or that yiou support the LGBTQ+ community. Sad part is as much as I would like to speak, I was basically conditioned to experience fear whenever they give me a look of disappointment because when I was younger, that means it's time for a spanking.
PLEASEPLEASEPLEASE$TOPMAKINgMEREADALLTHESENAMESiRICANTTAKEITANYMOREMYMANNOW$$$MINUSMIDASTouCHCRAPNOW. I don't want to know all these monikers. PLEASEPLEASEPLEA$ESTOP
