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Mom groups can be wonderful. Their members share in-the-field experiences and valuable insights, and don't mind having entire conversations with newbies on how to get a fussy baby back to sleep or how to potty train a toddler.

But the good stuff is often surrounded by the bad. Every now and then, there's a post judging vaccines or a comment suggesting Ethanol as a boy's name. In fact, such content is so frequent, it even gave rise to a subreddit making fun of it.

It's called '[Stuff] Mom Groups Say' and vigilant Bored Panda readers may remember it from our earlier article but here's part 2 for those who can't get enough of it. That includes us!

Talya Stone, a former editor-in-chief turned parenting blogger and the woman behind Motherhood: The Real Deal and 40 Now What told Bored Panda that online mom groups are definitely hit or miss. "A lot of them can be a hotbed for toxicity and riling each other up," she said.

"I think with all social media platforms and forums it's about taking everything with a pinch of salt and not getting sucked in too deep. Some, however, can be great for advice when you have a specific query."

Stone suggests treating mom groups like buying a house: "Go and visit the neighbourhood (group) and get a sense of if you like it. Evaluate if you honestly like the energy and vibe, see what kind of conversations are happening there and if you like it — great! If not, move on to the next neighbourhood and find one you feel more comfortable with."

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Burs
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We need to talk about this more. I know a few guys who did not want children or not more and were pressured by their partners. No is a no for both sexes

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KJ
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What terrible advice, rape your hubby to get another child he doesn't want.

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River Webb
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

some people, just communicate with your husband and figure a solution together

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Jo Johannsen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What about girlfriends or wives who, without their SO's knowledge, quit using birth control for just this purpose. Happens a lot, because I personally have known three people who pulled this.

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Viviane
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mother-in-law hinted that I should have an "accident". The kicker? I didn't even want kids in the first place!

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Vicky Z
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Consent is consent no matter the sex! Stop joking about it, it's not funny

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deanna woods
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is just as bad as a woman being taken advantage of. No one should be forced into sex for any reason.

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BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That person needs to be arrested, especially if she has a husband. Even as a joke that isn't funny at all.

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WilvanderHeijden
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once saw on a forum how women gave each other advice on a similar question. Just stop taking the pill and use a needle on the condoms were upvoted many times. The few women who suggested talking about it with the spouse were downvoted like the trolls on BP.

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Sanne H.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Poor child… having an egocentric mother and a father that was forced to have you.

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Sam rice
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is f****d up. Having children is a joint decision as a couple. And I'm sorry but if one of you doesn't want a kid, guess what, no kid.

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Annamagelic
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The response is horrific, but the original question is valid. Being out of sync with ones partner about the number of children you want can be very hard.

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Nicole Mann
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or how about couples that agree they don't want kids before they get married then the woman stops taking her birth control without saying anything. Then when he leaves because he didn't want kids she says she thought he would change his mind once he was actually a father.

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Lynne Harbison
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't keep having babies, hoping for that girl or boy. We had 2 families near us. One had 8 boys (and each one had a medical problem), and adopted a girl. The other had 7 girls, and adopted a boy. Both families really struggled. I was friends with one of the girls and she hated being in a large family, and really resented having so many chores to do as she was the eldest. She never had children herself.

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Lynne Harbison
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We sold a house to a chap who was the eldest of 13 boys. His parents gave up trying for a girl. He said his home life as a kid was chaotic.

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Thomas Sweda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You do realize, if it’s not another girl, you just can’t give it back.

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Simon Macbeth
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, cos sexually assaulting a guy to get pregnant is always the solution

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Jenifer Riggs
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously? The lady already has 3 kids, isn't that enough? The planet is overpopulated! Also, I question her ability to be a good parent if she's going to do something like this. Why do some people just mindlessly procreate even though they aren't in a stable living situation.

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Annamagelic
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The person who posed the original question never suggested she was even thinking about doing anything underhanded. She posted looking for advice about a sensitive topic she and her spouse were in disagreement over. The fact that she got an idiotic response shouldn't reflect badly on the OP.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Women have also done things liked poked holes in condoms. Some have even knocked out a man and put a probe up his butt to stimulate the prostate.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uh-Oh! You said something the Galactic Freedom Alliance doesn't agree with! Cap. Fern Habatha says: au revoir w*nker *BWAM* Please enjoy this derpy snake while she cleans up the mess. Derpy-Snak...f7778f.jpg Derpy-Snake-6156974f7778f.jpg

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, Bored Panda! You guys give me hope for the future. It's uplifting to see so many people who recognize how wrong this suggestion was.

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Mari
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe the husband has a good reason for not wanting any more kids. Everyone loves babies but not everyone is capable to raise the babies.

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Lady of the Mountains
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

here's what you do: get a foster child/host an exchange student. see if you can actually manage another child along with the others, on a temporary basis. maybe he'll change his mind, or maybe you will.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand the desire to have biological children very well, but honestly after three kids I'd think about adopting instead.

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Louloubelle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

After three kids, I'd think about a long vacation, not another one. And yes, I have children.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The suggestion being that a man should have to sterilise himself to avoid being raped and forced into parenthood? Again, imagine if the genders were reversed on that statement.

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At the end of the day, Stone believes that nothing can replace a face-to-face connection and that goes for moms too. "The pandemic has made this really difficult but now is the time to start rebuilding," she said.

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"Strike up a conversation at the school gate, park, or coffee shop. We have become so scared of real-life interactions but we need to move on and start forming those connections again — online things can quickly become very distorted."

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WOWZERS i'm surprised half of these where clever enough to breed

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How, with almost two years of pandemic, can we still have so many antivax? (for all vaccines!)

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Vicki Broadbent, a writer, director, broadcaster, and founder of the parenting blog Honest Mum, told Bored Panda that "mom groups, be it Whatsapp groups with the nursery/schools moms or via social media platforms like Facebook and Instagram can provide critical support for parents."

"I remember the support, friendship, and camaraderie I garnered from Twitter when I had my first child, Oliver, and how that allowed me to connect with like-minded parents easily and usually during unsociable hours when I was nursing in the night too. It was amazing."

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She also reminded that sometimes we simply aren't able to get together in person. "The pandemic has highlighted how important online support can be for parents where face-to-face access has been limited. You can find all sorts of parenting groups on Facebook for all kinds of needs (from breastfeeding groups to fitness, those with specific medical conditions, and more) so I'd recommend searching there, and joining some, feeling your way through different ones in a bid to find your tribe!" Broadbent said, adding that you can also check out some apps whose job is to connect you to nearby parents in your area for online and real-life meet-ups that can be of huge help as well.

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"There's no need to feel alone," the mom said.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a girl and I go outside and play in mud. My little brother likes "my little pony". Can the Karens just get used to it?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A 'peer review' is meaningless when your peers typically review their favorite windows to lick.

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A Little Tylenol Should Do The Trick

A Little Tylenol Should Do The Trick

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Imagine Being Upset That Your Niece/Nephew Might Share A Birthday With Your Kid

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always celebrated my birthday with my older cousin and it was amazing. I like how we both have the same birthday.

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Your Obsession Doesn’t Also Have To Be Your Child’s, Deborah

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I bet that this is the kind of mother that later swears that “my girl is naturally feminine, We never forced her”

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On The Governor Saying Masks Aren’t Required For Students. No Masks = Higher Grades!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unvaccinated Trump Trash are dangerous people. No matter how much we laugh and how stupid they sound, they are killing people.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why not? I put cereal in my kids' bottles kept them fuller for longer. They slept through the night. Let me be clear, by saying baby cereal not like fruit loops.

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All You Fake Moms With Your Pretend Kids Just Need To Stop Now

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AzKhaleesi
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Coming from someone who had all her babies C-Sections kindly go f**k yourself! Had I went through this ages ago we would've died. I can't stand people that say that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are there really people who are proud to display this at home?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay, I get that sometimes parents do desperate things when there's no toilet around. But why put in on the internet??? (and yes, I hope she went to the next bathroom, dumped it and washed it and then bought it)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope the baby will inherit its look from its father and not intelligence from you.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where do they come up with this crap? Are they literally sitting in a little dark room making up lies?

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Listen, I Don’t Want To Spoil My Child With Basic Care, So I’m Just Going To Neglect Them And Then Complain About It… No Hate Please!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg I might track this one down and kill her. Lazy. Frucking. Bitch.

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Cool Stoner Mom Smokes 3 Blunts A Day While Pregnant... Too Much?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They should be high key shamey. Smoke anything or do recreational drugs during pregnancy, you deserve all the pain that can bring. The baby doesn't though, so sort your life out. So sick of stoners.

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It Can Happen

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Wearing A Mask Gave My Daughter A 1 Inch Crack In Her Septum

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One INCH Crack caused by Facemask? was she wearing iron helmet and did facepalm?

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Please Don’t Do This

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ADHD And Depression Combo

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's what you do: you mind your own damn business. She's an adult.

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Some Great Baby Name Ideas!

Some Great Baby Name Ideas!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Joey doesn't rhyme with piggy... Oh its in thick Southern Drawl... Right yes of course

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You Have A Baby... In A Bar...

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I Will Never Understand Parents Who Are Afraid To Tell Their Kids No

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

take away the game , Fortnite is set up so your kids can spend a fortune , just delete it , have him cry for a week , he's crying anyway may as well give him a reason too

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Emotional Incest From Mommy Is Always Cute

Emotional Incest From Mommy Is Always Cute

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so sad :( My late MIL had 3 sons, and said that her sons got to pick her daughters. THAT'S how a kind and loving relationship is, NOT this BS.

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