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Staying Together For The Kids
It doesn't matter how miserable and toxic your marriage becomes, you need to stay with your partner to keep the family together. Edit: I'm surprised and a bit disheartened to see how many people relate to this. One of my good friends grew up with a controlling, abusive father and parents didn't divorce until the oldest kid went to college. Her mother stuck it out because she was raised to think that a "together family" would leave her kids better off (she's since apologized to her children many times for this, but my friend is acceptable the apology very readily) My parents have had serious marriage problems since I was in 4th grade and my father has been emotionally abusing my mother and my siblings and I for a very long time. At this point I just want them to get it over with and my father to work on his problems or get the f**k out of our lives. It was a significant factor in me developing depression and becoming suicidal at multiple points in my life.
Don't Let Kids Date Until After High School
Not letting them date until after high school. That one backfired on my parents in a big way lol Edit: ok so I didn't elaborate because I didn't think that many people would be interested hah. Technically, I wasn't allowed to date until after college. I wasn't allowed to go out with my friends very often during high school, so I would have to pick and choose what events I wanted to ask to attend because they would be angry if I asked too often. The easiest way to deal with this at the time was by lying or sneaking around- sometimes I would say I had an after school club to go to but that was hard because I would always need a ride home and my dad started work right after our school ended. I ended up dating a guy in high school and since we were never able to go out on actual dates, he would just come over after school and leave before my parents got back for dinner. I did leave the house once in awhile but not very often because I was so paranoid about being caught and because we didn't have a car. So this leads to sex, which I was definitely not ready for or even want at the time (don't worry, it wasn't rape- he did get my consent although he didn't really respect my boundaries but that's not the issue here). Anyways, I met my current SO in college and we've been dating 6 years but my parents only know about 1 of them sooo yeah. Moral of the story is restricting me from boyfriends did not stop me from sex, and now I have trust issues with my parents.
If You Ignore Them They Will Leave You Alone
If you ignore them they will leave you alone. Whoever made up this advice originally is stupid. This hardly works on adults let alone children who still don't understand the 'too far' line when joking/teasing.
Don't Let Your Kids Fail
Don't let your kids fail. The worst thing we can do as parents is never allow our kids to fail. We only fail them, as parents, by never allowing them to face disappointment and are robbing them from the ability to learn some basic life skills. Let your kids fail, fall on their face, pick themselves up and rub the dirt off.
It's Ok To Lie To Your Kids
[deleted] said: My mom always says this one: "When you have kids, lie to them. Lie through your teeth". No Mom, no. koolbloo replied: When I was in elementary school I asked mom one day why she sometimes used pads and tampons. Without a second thought she told me that she used them because "she couldn't hold her pee sometimes." Let me remind you that this happened wayyyy after my potty training. She realized that she really shouldn't have lied to me when she found out that I was using her pads in order not to pee on myself (I think I thought "if mommy couldn't hold it as a grown up how the hell am I supposed to hold it as a child?"). Also because she purchased perfumed pads, I put some of them in my drawers because come on, they smelled nice. So before mom ran out of her pad stock, she decided to talk to me about why she really used them.
Teach A Kid That The Sun Goes Down Because It's Mad At Them
extracrispyoriginal said: Teach your child that the sun goes down every day because it's mad at them. PM-YOUR-CUTE-SMILE replied: Holy [smokes] imagine them freaking out during a solar eclipse. "TIMMY WHAT DID YOU DO?!" superjerkingoff187 replied: Ah, this reminds me of the time where my dog [peed] on my grill and we were cooking burgers and there was flames, we in humor mode made him think that his [pee] set it on fire. He doesn't [pee] on things anymore.
Distract A Tantrum With Candy
Divgirl2 said: If they are throwing a tantrum, distract them by giving sweet treats or a new toy. [deleted] replied: My nephew is two. Whenever he throws a tantrum, his parents say fuck it and give him candy because they don't want to deal with it. When he throws a tantrum at my house, I let him cry it out for a little while then offer him water. Works like a charm. He stops crying, he learns to do what I ask him to when I ask him to, and we get to hug it out in the end. Susim-the-Housecat replied: Get ready to become his favourite person. My nephew was the same and I was strict when i needed to be and kind the rest of the time. I swear every other adult in his life was the opposite, they'd tell him off for accidents and mistakes, or just from doing normal kid things, and when he threw tantrums, they'd give him sweets to shut him up. When his parents asked him to do things, it was always a struggle, so they always called him a bad kid. when I ask him to do things or calm down, he does it without question, and when we're together he's a freaking angel, he's not a bad kid at all. Now I'm his favourite person because for a long time I was the only one that gave him the kind of structure and attention he needs. Plus playing minecraft with him doesn't hurt.This Panda hasn't followed anyone yet
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