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So my short answer is nothing. The longer answer is that they should be prepared for the answer and be adult enough to be able to handle it. When my (now) wife and I were still dating, but we both knew it was serious, I let her know that anything she wanted to know I would tell her. I also said that she needed to be absolutely 100% sure that she really wanted to know that answer because I wouldn't lie to her. We've been together over 2 decades and there were a couple times when she asked something, usually when alcohol was involved, where I thought it a bad idea to answer but just said "Are you sure you want the answer"? Each of those times, maybe 3 of them, she reconsidered and said "no". Now there are time I steer answers away from the asked question but that's not for privacy, just to make sure feelings aren't hurt. We've been together for a very long time and there has been weight gain (for both of us) and typical trope where she looks at me and says "I'm fat" or "I'm old". I look at her and say "You're beautiful". I'm not lying. She is beautiful in my eyes. I'm just steering away from that conversation which would hurt her feelings. The answer of "I love you", "You're beautiful", "I love your body" or "we're old and have had a great lifetime together" are all truths and they go far, and should be said to your partner.Nothing At All
So my short answer is nothing. The longer answer is that they should be prepared for the answer and be adult enough to be able to handle it. When my (now) wife and I were still dating, but we both knew it was serious, I let her know that anything she wanted to know I would tell her. I also said that she needed to be absolutely 100% sure that she really wanted to know that answer because I wouldn't lie to her. We've been together over 2 decades and there were a couple times when she asked something, usually when alcohol was involved, where I thought it a bad idea to answer but just said "Are you sure you want the answer"? Each of those times, maybe 3 of them, she reconsidered and said "no". Now there are time I steer answers away from the asked question but that's not for privacy, just to make sure feelings aren't hurt. We've been together for a very long time and there has been weight gain (for both of us) and typical trope where she looks at me and says "I'm fat" or "I'm old". I look at her and say "You're beautiful". I'm not lying. She is beautiful in my eyes. I'm just steering away from that conversation which would hurt her feelings. The answer of "I love you", "You're beautiful", "I love your body" or "we're old and have had a great lifetime together" are all truths and they go far, and should be said to your partner.Show All 3 Upvotes
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So my short answer is nothing. The longer answer is that they should be prepared for the answer and be adult enough to be able to handle it. When my (now) wife and I were still dating, but we both knew it was serious, I let her know that anything she wanted to know I would tell her. I also said that she needed to be absolutely 100% sure that she really wanted to know that answer because I wouldn't lie to her. We've been together over 2 decades and there were a couple times when she asked something, usually when alcohol was involved, where I thought it a bad idea to answer but just said "Are you sure you want the answer"? Each of those times, maybe 3 of them, she reconsidered and said "no". Now there are time I steer answers away from the asked question but that's not for privacy, just to make sure feelings aren't hurt. We've been together for a very long time and there has been weight gain (for both of us) and typical trope where she looks at me and says "I'm fat" or "I'm old". I look at her and say "You're beautiful". I'm not lying. She is beautiful in my eyes. I'm just steering away from that conversation which would hurt her feelings. The answer of "I love you", "You're beautiful", "I love your body" or "we're old and have had a great lifetime together" are all truths and they go far, and should be said to your partner. Red Ruffensor • upvoted 2 items 1 week ago
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