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Mary Rogers • upvoted 13 items 4 hours ago

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

NTA. especially when you said you dont need more baby stuff. not only they dont make a secon thought about what you may like but they dont even bother to listen to you when you explicitely say them what you DO NOT like. what kind of friends tgey are? were tgey thoughtful before you had kids? or you just didnt notice?

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

I see it as a misunderstanding..they didn't want to hurt the mothers feelings. That was not their intentions, they just got to excited to buy baby stuff which is a novelty to some. I also see how a mother could feel lost in this situation, it was her birthday, not her child's..like Hello?

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

Even when the baby arrives I always get something for the mother unless they ask for something specifically, A massage or something like that. I know they have everything they need.

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

Oh my gosh, SO not the AH. Wouldn't be the AH on any birthday, but this was her 30th! I remember a time that a colleague brought her new baby into the office, she'd had a really difficult pregnancy and labour, so I figured I'd get her a little spa certificate for whenever she was able to find a couple of hours to herself, go get a facial or a massage or whatever. She full on bawled on me when she opened the card and told me she'd felt lost and forgotten about in the whole thing because everything had become about her son. I'm a PA in my job and whenever the company asks me to send a new baby hamper to an employee, I ALWAYS order the one that has stuff for baby AND the parents now.

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

So on the father's birthday will he get baby clothes? Even though a woman puts her all in raising a wonderful person, it is NOT ALL of who she is. Dad is "bob" 1st and Dad 2nd. Mom is... Mom period.

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

she's 30. a milestone birthday, with years of life behind her for her friends & family to know her & figure out what she would actually want as a gift. time for her loved ones to grow out of the dated "mothers only exist to raise children" mindset & figure out that women who have children are still people with interests, hobbies, & personalities. time for you to grow out of it, too.

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

Christmas before my baby was born I was given childrens books and toys and my husband recieved fancy coffee beans and a lovely scarf 😑😑😑

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

I once got given a new iron on my birthday ... oh the joy -.-

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

Did the dad get baby stuff on his birthday? Would these family and friends even think of buying a baby related gift for the father? Most likely not, at most the mother would get him a best daddy T-shirt or something from rage child, but definitely wouldn't buy basic essentials for a baby as his gift - so why should the mother get stuff like this and be expected to be thrilled? I may get a new mum something "mum" related, like a best mum t-shirt, post baby pampering stuff, and post pregnancy massage, babysitting voucher and a meal out - plenty of other options to honour the fact she's became a mum that put the focus on her and what she needs/wants. It's not a complex thing to understand, her whole body, time and everything has went into the process of having her child, I don't think wanting something for yourself is much to ask

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

One person made an excellent point: would her family buy baby gifts for her husband's birthday? No? Enough said.

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

OP should resell everything that was for the baby and splurge on something for herself.

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

The only thing I would get for a kid on their parent's birthday is a babysitter.

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

Weird, when it's my mom's birthday, I've never gotten a present. Have to make sure that she knows starting this year, all the gifts are mine. I'll make her a list to send to her friends. I can't wait. /s I was ready to say she was the AH. Who wouldn't want some stuff for their baby? Then I read the rest, and no, she's not. She explicitly asked them not to get anything baby related, also saying she has enough stuff. They totally ignored what she had said, and didn't even think about her.

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Mary Rogers • upvoted 25 items 1 day ago

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Like when in the supermarket you can't find, what you are looking for. Asks a nicelooking young man if he can help you find it, and he points at the shelf you stand in front of, and he doesn't even snicker.

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

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This Facebook Group Is Dedicated To Funny Relationship Memes, Here Are 35 Of The Best Ones

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

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50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

And everyone had their own way of applying it. My mom would let us throw it or drag it on the tree and it would just stay wherever it landed. My aunt, on the other hand, was a bit more OCD, and it had to go on strand-by-strand.

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

Also the "how sticky can you make your bathroom floor?" decade!

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

LOL!

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

Nobody smiled back then. Some say it's because it was too difficult to hold a smile for the length of time it took to expose the film. I've also heard that smiling was considered to be uncouth, as it was associated with "madness, loudness, drunkenness, and lewdness".

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

Haha! I've been on that thing! Turns out it was my "I'm too old for this s**t" farewell ride. I ended up with a bad case of vertigo and had dry heaves for the rest of the day. Now I can't even swing on a swing set without getting nauseous.

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

Naked with your entire family? Yeah, no thanks - I really have NO desire to see my Dad in the buff. That would give me nightmares. :)

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

I never had bangs, but I still love to whip out my best friend's 8th grade class picture and mock her for it. She used to tease and shellac them about a foot above her forehead. Although I can't really talk because I had a layered perm in 1985. :) It was NOT a good look for me.

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

It looks like the dude is having a great time with his three girlfriends and his brother

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

Maybe a little bowler hat?

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

I would get this on a canvas to hang on the wall if this had been my family picture. It's fantastic!

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

YES!!

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

What Karen's looked like as kids

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

Hell to the perhaps 🤔

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

Me too, like the photographer was waiting for the eyes to stop rolling around 🤣

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

Slinging her arm out to catch us when she braked became pretty much an automatic reflex, even after seatbelts came in.

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

If I came in the room and saw her like that I would first think OMG she's dead! Then I would go and give her a little shake to check...

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

I like how she put a lot of pillows under her. Like, mammy will take any risk for your entertainment, but not without me being safe, cozy and comfy!

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

Yeah and tiny bottom right kid will help 😂

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

A bit weird? A BIT WEIRD?? This is straight up possessed

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

How did these two turn out as adults, I wonder?

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

Don’t shame! You’d be surprised how many of your heroes chew their toenails in secret.

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

Beautiful Mom!

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

Stop violating my HIPAA

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Mary Rogers • commented on 2 posts 1 day ago

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

My family just drowned the tree with tinsel 😆

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

It does work to prevent serious illness and death. Not all vaccines are 100% effective at preventing infection and this virus mutates too much to even expect that. THAT'S THE TRUTH.

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Mary Rogers • commented on 9 posts 1 day ago

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

My family just drowned the tree with tinsel 😆

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

It does work to prevent serious illness and death. Not all vaccines are 100% effective at preventing infection and this virus mutates too much to even expect that. THAT'S THE TRUTH.

“I Didn’t React The Right Way To My Husband’s Cheating Prank And Now Our Marriage Is Not The Same”

Jan, I am so sorry you went through that and YES, emotional abuse IS abuse. I didn't grow up with physical violence, but plenty of verbal and emotional violence. And it didn't occur to me that this was abuse until I went into therapy at the age of 16 because of depression. At the age of 58, I am STILL sorting out what behavior is okay and not okay from others because that training of always thinking that I am the one at fault is hard to overcome. I read your other posts above and I am very glad you are out of that situation! And I agree that overturning Roe v Wade has a LOT of unintended consequences. It breaks my heart!

“I Didn’t React The Right Way To My Husband’s Cheating Prank And Now Our Marriage Is Not The Same”

Whalen, I think you are making the same mistake that her husband made, assuming that there is one "right" response. But when people have a severe emotional shock, it is actually very normal to go into shock and for the feelings to shut down for a while. It has the adaptive value of allowing people to deal with the crisis at hand. It often happens when there is a death and yet people still have to make the funeral arrangements and whatever else they need to do to get through that period. Then they fall apart later. That sounds like what happened to this woman.

“I Didn’t React The Right Way To My Husband’s Cheating Prank And Now Our Marriage Is Not The Same”

Gerry, that may be true at times, but other times abusers don't show their real side until years into the relationship. Also consider that anyone who grew up in an abusive/gaslighting family may not recognize the signs because they think that is normal. Not everyone reaches adulthood with the same experiences and skill sets, so it's best to have compassion for people in these situations.

“I Didn’t React The Right Way To My Husband’s Cheating Prank And Now Our Marriage Is Not The Same”

She shouldn't even be giving him a chance, just take his offer of divorce. I think this is still him trying to manipulate her. I hope she stays strong.

“I Didn’t React The Right Way To My Husband’s Cheating Prank And Now Our Marriage Is Not The Same”

She did say that she talked to the girlfriends/wives of his friends who also were victims of this prank. So if your theory is true , then they are lying to her as well.

“I Didn’t React The Right Way To My Husband’s Cheating Prank And Now Our Marriage Is Not The Same”

Oh my lord. This man is definitely not mature enough to be a husband and father. What a truly twisted, cruel thing to do and then to gaslight her over her reaction as well? I would be seeing a lawyer.

This Facebook Group Shares Curious Historical Artefacts From The Past, Here Are 50 Of The Most Interesting

Women were taught that it was their "duty" to have sex whenever the man wanted it. And certainly there would have been the fear that if they did not do so, the man would leave.

Mary Rogers • commented on 4 posts 2 days ago

“Just Had A Zoom Job Interview, And The Recruiter Asked Me To ‘Show Her Around The Room’”

Anyone who sues over that would be laughed out of court!

“Just Had A Zoom Job Interview, And The Recruiter Asked Me To ‘Show Her Around The Room’”

America is not anywhere NEAR being a socialist/communist country. Maybe you need to actually learn about these systems of government in the real world before making such comments.

Woman's Sister Dies Unexpectedly, She Asks For A Day Off Work, But Coworker Says No Because Of Her Religious Beliefs

That place sounds so toxic that I suspect sooner or later she would get fired anyway. That happened to my father (a long time ago) at a much better job that DID allow employees to take bereavement leave but he had just started a new job when his young son died. His boss never forgave him for taking time off and harrassed him for it and eventually fired him. He even tried to ruin my father's career by blacklisting him so he couldn't get another job. Fortunately my father talked to one of his contacts in the field who happened to know something unsavory about this boss that he wouldn't want to be publicly known. Suddenly the blacklisting stopped. This sounds like a first job for this person and frankly I wouldn't take this too seriously and I would just start looking for something better.

Woman's Sister Dies Unexpectedly, She Asks For A Day Off Work, But Coworker Says No Because Of Her Religious Beliefs

It the updates she explains that there are more co-workers, but they are not trained to work that particular job. And this is a majority Jewish community, which means most of the other employees also can't work Saturdays (which is their Sabbath, not Sundays).

Mary Rogers • commented on 7 posts 3 days ago

This Facebook Group Shares Curious Historical Artefacts From The Past, Here Are 50 Of The Most Interesting

So survival, I am sure that the next time you have surgery you would be perfectly fine with the surgical team wearing no masks or gloves?

This Facebook Group Shares Curious Historical Artefacts From The Past, Here Are 50 Of The Most Interesting

You are wrong. What the CDC said was that N95 is the BEST protection. Go read their statement yourself.

This Facebook Group Shares Curious Historical Artefacts From The Past, Here Are 50 Of The Most Interesting

Okay, Bryony, I think we have a misunderstanding here. I was referring to FOX News, an American right wing TV network by the snarky nickname "Faux News". They are one of the media outlets that has spread misinformation about covid. I absolutely DO NOT believe that covid is fake news. I agree with you that people who believe that are selfish.

This Facebook Group Shares Curious Historical Artefacts From The Past, Here Are 50 Of The Most Interesting

Bryony, I didn't approve of that but that literally has nothing to do with the topic I was addressing.

This Facebook Group Shares Curious Historical Artefacts From The Past, Here Are 50 Of The Most Interesting

Just from looking at this picture I get an inkling as to why child mortality was so high back then.

This Facebook Group Shares Curious Historical Artefacts From The Past, Here Are 50 Of The Most Interesting

It almost looks like a wooden carving. Amazing!

This Facebook Group Shares Curious Historical Artefacts From The Past, Here Are 50 Of The Most Interesting

SCP, now that the American Supreme Court has overturned the constitutional right to abortion, the decision whether to keep it legal now belongs to the states. I think (not sure) that in about half of the 50 states it is now illegal or soon will be.

Mary Rogers • upvoted 18 items 6 hours ago

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

Christmas before my baby was born I was given childrens books and toys and my husband recieved fancy coffee beans and a lovely scarf 😑😑😑

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

Even when the baby arrives I always get something for the mother unless they ask for something specifically, A massage or something like that. I know they have everything they need.

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

So on the father's birthday will he get baby clothes? Even though a woman puts her all in raising a wonderful person, it is NOT ALL of who she is. Dad is "bob" 1st and Dad 2nd. Mom is... Mom period.

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

I once got given a new iron on my birthday ... oh the joy -.-

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

One person made an excellent point: would her family buy baby gifts for her husband's birthday? No? Enough said.

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

OP should resell everything that was for the baby and splurge on something for herself.

"People Have Told Me I Was Ungrateful And Selfish": New Mom Upset She Got Baby Stuff On Her Birthday, Wonders If She's A Jerk

The only thing I would get for a kid on their parent's birthday is a babysitter.

This Facebook Group Shares Curious Historical Artefacts From The Past, Here Are 50 Of The Most Interesting

But yeah, force women to have babies. It worked so well in the past.

This Facebook Group Shares Curious Historical Artefacts From The Past, Here Are 50 Of The Most Interesting

Thank you, I appreciate that :)

This Facebook Group Shares Curious Historical Artefacts From The Past, Here Are 50 Of The Most Interesting

I don't mind posting this on here, cos you're all pretty cool (as far as I can tell 😉) but my family and I are facing homelessness. My partner is a driver and has just recovered from cancer for the 2nd time, I work for local government and also am studying to be an OT. We have 4 children, the elder 3 all have jobs and are also studying and we have our 12 yo. Our landlord is selling up, so we have a no fault eviction, but due to the insane amounts landlords are asking for, mixed with the rise in the cost of living, we can't afford to save enough to move ourselves. We are entitled to social housing, but there isn't bloody any. We keep getting told we're a large family, which pisses me off because it makes us sound as though we decided to have 4 children - we didn't, we are a blended family. I am so sick of swimming against the tide. And these f*****g landlords are just laughing up their sleeves, watching everyone scrabble for a home.

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Lady Goldberry, I do hope you and your family have some bit of good fortune soon. It is a terrible thing to face homelessness and seems mind-boggling to me that, in this day and age, society has evolved to a place where gainfully employed human beings have to face such a situation. There is something seriously broken in our societies.

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Mary Rogers • upvoted 2 items 1 day ago

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

This list made me so happy!!! I've been feeling shitty after an operation and it feels so good to laugh!

50 'Awkward Family Photos' Shared By People Who Cringe At Them To This Day (New Pics)

It's not that high off the ground all the way up. I was curious too so I just googled it and found an old video of it.

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