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Hey Pandas, What Are Some Names That Have Been Ruined For You Because Of Certain People?
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Animals, Dogs
Second Graders Wrote Adorable Letters On Behalf Of Shelter Animals To Get Them Adopted, And It Worked
Hey Pandas, AITA For Denying My Pastor/Church's Insisted Donation Of 10% Of A Fairly Large Settlement?
You're NTA. Yes, when you're a member of a church tithe is expected because the church needs money to run and tithe is how the people support the church. However what you tithe is between you and God not between you and your pastor - and that's where a lot of churches misstep. I once knew a pair of twins that basically got kicked out of the church they grew up in because when they turned 18 an associate pastor took them aside and demanded to know how much they made so he could make sure they tithed correctly. That is wrong on so many levels. I'm a Christian, and this is the kinds of things I've been in battle with the churches about. The problem is that like minds tend to congregate and they form bullying groups of people who think they're the only ones who are right. Your Pastor was in the wrong to have that expectation set that you would tithe 10%. To make it worse - he ignored you when you were in crisis. Yes, there are a lot of people in a congregation and you can't help everyone, however when someone is in a crisis situation most Pastor's I know would be there. My mom had a melt down and one of our old pastors showed up even though we hadn't been to his Church in awhile. Ignoring you in a crisis and then basically demanding tithe - you're not the a*****e darlin' he is. There are other churches out there, and there are better pastors out there you just have to find them. I've been to so many different churches over the years because of how much hypocrisy is in the church. I don't struggle in my faith, I struggle with churches and the people that attend them more than anything else. Its incredibly difficult for me to find fellowship because of this. It also doesn't help that I have told numerous churches in my area exactly why I have a problem with them. As for what you're going through, a lot of us have been there. Ultimately you have to do what's best for you. Realizing that some things are toxic and recognizing that you don't need that in your life is a big step. Letting go of the toxic is even bigger. It hurts. It's apart of who you were up until this moment and it does get easier, it takes time but it does. Battling mental issues, realizing what you really went through, and trying to find yourself while you better yourself are all long processes that take time. There will be days where you can't drag yourself out of bed. Days where the apathy sets in and makes everything off color and muted. You can have those days but don't let them win. Even if its some small accomplishment like eating when you don't feel like it - take that as the win it is. I'm glad to see you have a therapist and hope they're helping. Therapy is important because it gives you tools that will help you as well as an external voice that will help fight the internal ones.Show All 4 Upvotes
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Hey Pandas, What Is Something You Did As A Kid That You Would Never Do As An Adult?
Allow myself to be bullied
Hey Pandas, What Is Something You Did As A Kid That You Would Never Do As An Adult?
Allow myself to be bullied
Hey Pandas! AITA For Being Mad At My Friend?
In my opinion, if you tell someone you were hurt it doesn’t matter their intentions. They should listen to you being vulnerable and advocating for your feeling. I think that laughing at someone being vulnerable is a defensive mechanism for not wanting to take accountability. Dumb joke doesn’t matter, it was sensitive for you and a good friend wouldn’t dismiss that. You are allowed to be picky. I really feel you I’ve been in your situation a lot. Often the dismissal of our feelings hurts more then the original insult ever did.
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Hey Pandas, Make Up A New Sport
Bean wars. You throw canned beans at the opponents until one survives. Bloodthirsty.Hey Pandas, What's The Craziest Belief That Ancient People Used To Think Was True?
I do not think that its ok to mock ancient people for their beliefs qhen even now in the 21st century so many believe in gods, magic, astrology and other superstitions.Hey Pandas, What Is The Worst Thing Anyone Has Ever Done In Your Car?
When my son was a 7 months old and my best friend was 7 mo's pregnant I offered her a ride to a beach party. When I went to pick her up her boyfriend wanted a ride too, so I said that was fine but I wanted to leave right away because my baby had already been in the car for awhile and would wake up hungry soon. The bf said he'd be right out, and I wound up waiting ten minutes while he made himself a mug of tea. He brought the open mug into my car. Halfway to the beach my son woke up, noticed a strange man next to him and started to cry. The guy immediately starts screaming at my 7 month old baby to shut up, repeatedly. I told him to stop yelling, and that he'd need to get used to crying babies since his gf was a month away from having one. His response? With his pregnant gf in the front seat... "Yeah, I'm starting to rethink this whole baby thing." I slammed on my breaks so hard he spilled his tea all over himself, and then told him I'd signed up for one baby in the car, not two, and I left him on the side the road. It took a little time, but 11 years later he's out of the picture entirely and my friend's daughter and my son are besties. And yeah, she upgraded to a guy who isn't a douchewaffle.Show All 6 Upvotes
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Hey Pandas, What Are Some Names That Have Been Ruined For You Because Of Certain People?
John, Justin, Kevin Justy • upvoted 4 items 2 months ago
Animals, Dogs
Second Graders Wrote Adorable Letters On Behalf Of Shelter Animals To Get Them Adopted, And It Worked
Hey Pandas, AITA For Denying My Pastor/Church's Insisted Donation Of 10% Of A Fairly Large Settlement?
You're NTA. Yes, when you're a member of a church tithe is expected because the church needs money to run and tithe is how the people support the church. However what you tithe is between you and God not between you and your pastor - and that's where a lot of churches misstep. I once knew a pair of twins that basically got kicked out of the church they grew up in because when they turned 18 an associate pastor took them aside and demanded to know how much they made so he could make sure they tithed correctly. That is wrong on so many levels. I'm a Christian, and this is the kinds of things I've been in battle with the churches about. The problem is that like minds tend to congregate and they form bullying groups of people who think they're the only ones who are right. Your Pastor was in the wrong to have that expectation set that you would tithe 10%. To make it worse - he ignored you when you were in crisis. Yes, there are a lot of people in a congregation and you can't help everyone, however when someone is in a crisis situation most Pastor's I know would be there. My mom had a melt down and one of our old pastors showed up even though we hadn't been to his Church in awhile. Ignoring you in a crisis and then basically demanding tithe - you're not the a*****e darlin' he is. There are other churches out there, and there are better pastors out there you just have to find them. I've been to so many different churches over the years because of how much hypocrisy is in the church. I don't struggle in my faith, I struggle with churches and the people that attend them more than anything else. Its incredibly difficult for me to find fellowship because of this. It also doesn't help that I have told numerous churches in my area exactly why I have a problem with them. As for what you're going through, a lot of us have been there. Ultimately you have to do what's best for you. Realizing that some things are toxic and recognizing that you don't need that in your life is a big step. Letting go of the toxic is even bigger. It hurts. It's apart of who you were up until this moment and it does get easier, it takes time but it does. Battling mental issues, realizing what you really went through, and trying to find yourself while you better yourself are all long processes that take time. There will be days where you can't drag yourself out of bed. Days where the apathy sets in and makes everything off color and muted. You can have those days but don't let them win. Even if its some small accomplishment like eating when you don't feel like it - take that as the win it is. I'm glad to see you have a therapist and hope they're helping. Therapy is important because it gives you tools that will help you as well as an external voice that will help fight the internal ones. Justy • upvoted 5 items 3 months ago
Hey Pandas, What Is Something You Did As A Kid That You Would Never Do As An Adult?
Allow myself to be bulliedHey Pandas! AITA For Being Mad At My Friend?
In my opinion, if you tell someone you were hurt it doesn’t matter their intentions. They should listen to you being vulnerable and advocating for your feeling. I think that laughing at someone being vulnerable is a defensive mechanism for not wanting to take accountability. Dumb joke doesn’t matter, it was sensitive for you and a good friend wouldn’t dismiss that. You are allowed to be picky. I really feel you I’ve been in your situation a lot. Often the dismissal of our feelings hurts more then the original insult ever did. Justy • upvoted 7 items 4 months ago
Hey Pandas, Make Up A New Sport
Bean wars. You throw canned beans at the opponents until one survives. Bloodthirsty.Hey Pandas, What's The Craziest Belief That Ancient People Used To Think Was True?
I do not think that its ok to mock ancient people for their beliefs qhen even now in the 21st century so many believe in gods, magic, astrology and other superstitions.Hey Pandas, What Is The Worst Thing Anyone Has Ever Done In Your Car?
When my son was a 7 months old and my best friend was 7 mo's pregnant I offered her a ride to a beach party. When I went to pick her up her boyfriend wanted a ride too, so I said that was fine but I wanted to leave right away because my baby had already been in the car for awhile and would wake up hungry soon. The bf said he'd be right out, and I wound up waiting ten minutes while he made himself a mug of tea. He brought the open mug into my car. Halfway to the beach my son woke up, noticed a strange man next to him and started to cry. The guy immediately starts screaming at my 7 month old baby to shut up, repeatedly. I told him to stop yelling, and that he'd need to get used to crying babies since his gf was a month away from having one. His response? With his pregnant gf in the front seat... "Yeah, I'm starting to rethink this whole baby thing." I slammed on my breaks so hard he spilled his tea all over himself, and then told him I'd signed up for one baby in the car, not two, and I left him on the side the road. It took a little time, but 11 years later he's out of the picture entirely and my friend's daughter and my son are besties. And yeah, she upgraded to a guy who isn't a douchewaffle.
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