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Michele Lein • submitted 2 list additions 8 months ago

Hey Pandas, What Was Your “Damn I’m Smart” Moment?

Hey Pandas, Why Did You Cry The Last Time You Did? (Closed)

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Michele Lein • commented on 23 posts 1 year ago

Hey Pandas, What's The Worst Rule You've Seen Someone Actually Try To Enforce? (Closed)

Yes, for sure. I knew (through my mom) a "born again Christian" woman and she was the most controlling hypocrite I've ever met. She used her religion in a "Do as God says, [but that doesn't apply to me, so Shhh]) type of way. She tried to control anyone who came into her orbit, including me, when she barged into our lives by way of being a "distant neighbor." She didn't hesitate to make herself known and to establish that everythng was "her way, or hit the highway." She once told me to my face that "She knew I wasn't a Christian" because I was a Catholic. So was my mom, but that didn't apply to her in this woman's distorted view. I was the devil, corrupting my poor, innocent mother, and had to be "gotten rid of." It took nearly 40 years, and this woman evicting me from a property she owned and forcing me and my 15 year old daughter into a shelter, for my mom to "see the light." She also took my mom's pain pills away from her and used them to control my mom. That was one step too far.

113 Photos That May Convince You Cats Can Defy Gravity

Oh my gosh, yeah, I'd be on the floor having a heart and asthma attack!

Hey Pandas, What's The Worst Rule You've Seen Someone Actually Try To Enforce? (Closed)

113 Photos That May Convince You Cats Can Defy Gravity

Oh my gosh, yeah, I'd be on the floor having a heart and asthma attack!

"My Native Language Doesn't Have The Word For It": 35 People Share What Words In Foreign Languages They Absolutely Love Using

The 'sea pigs' name makes sense if you know the origin story of how Guinea Pigs came over on a boat from Africa, and the sailors found that people loved them to keep as pets, so they would sell them on the docks for a 'guinea' (British equivalent of five cents, I think) apiece. And the 'pig' part is because when they squeal they sound like little pigs.

Funny Comics Illustrate The Quirks Of Living With A Cat By Cody Stone Stowe (40 New Pics)

That's my Tildy.

Funny Comics Illustrate The Quirks Of Living With A Cat By Cody Stone Stowe (40 New Pics)

This is what happened to me when my daughter's bunny (who I was taking care of) got into my room (where he never goes) and started running under the edge of the comforter on the floor. My cat was freaking out, and I was just about ready to run wildly down to the apartment manager's office to report a rat in my bedroom, when I heard the thumping of big feet and saw said feet beating it out of the room, lol.

Man Gives His Girlfriend The Silent Treatment After She High-Fives A Woman At The Gym Who 'Humiliated' Him

That is the most immature, ridiculous, silly "man reaction" I've heard in a long while. I can't believe you are still with this puffy bag of hot air. I know most men need their partner to agree with them over fifty percent of the time,but poor sportsmanship, like that of a ten yr old? (Most of whom have been taught to behave better by then), nuh uh. My last straw with my daughter's father (we never married)was about 13 yrs ago, when we were watching a "creature feature" on cable that he picked. It was called 'Ice Spiders'. The graphics were not good and I innocently mentioned this, not knowing how dear to his heart ice spiders apparently were.He barely looked at me and raised his voice, saying 'Why do you have to argue about EVERYTHING?!'I had spent my entire childhood watching my mom agree with and placate my dad,and tried to do the same,so I felt harshly judged. I broke it off soon after. That wasn't the only problem,but it was indicative of the entire relationship. Dump this He-man.

6 Y.O. With Special Needs Has Tent Nobody Can Enter As Her Safe Space, Guests Are Upset That It Was Put Up In The Living Room

"Guests" like this are intolerable. They think they can come into your house and then "run it". I was the same way as this little girl (emphasis on 'little') when I was 2 to 6 yrs old, and guests and said 'guest's' children would create dissension just because they wanted to see how much "bad child shaming" it would take to make my mom haul me off to my room for the 'You are acting like a spoiled brat, none of the other kids act like this, everyone thinks you are terrible' talk. And, of course, the final nail in the coffin the 'I'm embarrassed to call you mine' talk. I was two to five yrs old! Guests like that are just intolerable. They should be "bad guesr" shamed! And FYI, I'm on the autism spectrum, too, but I just found this out last year, and I.m 57 yrs old. I still bear emotional scars from all the years of my mom telling me I was terrible, and that most people must hate me, or dislike me the way she did. Ironically, everyone loved her and thought she was this good, sweet lady, and she was, until it came to me and my social "differences", which she thought were something I could control, or 'relearn", but just didn't want to try. And believe me, I did try., eventually matriculating into normal society, but still at a great cost to my mental well-being. Then, to not have her see that change and still telli me these things when I became an adult, just damaged me more. This little girl is lucky to have found these foster, hopefully soon to be adoptive, parents.

Hey Pandas, What's The Hardest Realization You Had To Come To? (Closed)

Thank you for replying and sharing. And I do totally understand your words. It seems like everytime I start to come upon a new decade in my age, I always look back and say these things to myself. "Oh, if only I'd known this or that when I turned 40." Now it's happening again as I get closer to 60. I really try to learn from my past mistakes. But it's taken so long to acknowledge my mistakes and accept myself for who I am, flaws and all, that I'm going to b heading into my 90s before I get it right, lol. But thank you. You're and angel.

Hey Pandas, What's The Hardest Realization You Had To Come To? (Closed)

Thank you. It's really difficult to accept myself at 57 when I still feel 30. But thank you for taking time to reply and share your thoughts. It nice to think that there are still kind souls like you out there.

Hey Pandas, What's The Hardest Realization You Had To Come To? (Closed)

Thank you so much for your kindness and advice. It made me feel a bit better!

Hey Pandas, What's The Hardest Realization You Had To Come To? (Closed)

I agree. Man or woman partner, if you're not the "dominant" one, the one who is wants to control your every move, decision, and all your free time. Anyone you meet who is not like that, and who you are interested in as well, the relationship never works out. Like the universe doesn't want any of us to find true happiness and true love. It never fails. Somehow, no matter how hard you try, some stupid thing or circumstance ruins it. Always.

"We All Had To Tell Each Other When We Were Showering": Woman Quits Her ‘Big 4’ Job After Insane Working Conditions, Shares Her Traumatizing Experience In A Viral Video

I was working in retail at one of those "all-in-one super centers" (not Walmart), in the apparel department. Our manager, a woman, was a real hard-nose work til you drop kind of lady. So come winter, it snowed. I lived at a very high altitude compared to where the store, or anything else was, for that matter. So down below there was not even an inch of snow, but where I was there was two and a half feet. So I called in, and my manager is like 'Come on. You've got to be kidding me', Like she thought I was lying. So she said she was going to drive up to get me herself. So I'm thinking of being stuck with her all night, because she had a little compact front-wheel drive, and our neighbor had chains on and got stuck. I knew she and her car would most likely get stuck for hours, as all of the towing services were busy up on the passes. I told her this and she "huffed", and hung up on me. She never showed.

“Am I A Jerk For Making My Parents Choose Between My Sister Going To Jail Or Replacing My Car With Their Vacation Money”

(Cont'd from my comment to 'Seabeast' below.) So she got away with a lot of childish behavior, and my grandma also went along with it because there was nothing to do, as my mom would either sulk, ignore advice, or cry, so I was expected to just deal with it. Well, I had anxiety, social anxiety, and was on the autism spectrum in a time where children with these problems were either labeled as having been spoiled by their parents, or a hopeless case. So I couldn't "just deal". It screwed me up my whole life emotionally, and my relationship with my mom was not perfect, and especially with her extended family, who I could hardly stand because of their blatant favoritism towards my mom, as if she were my sister. They resented my unwillingness to give my mom a pass on her behavior, and none of it was ever resolved as they are all gone now, and my mom just passed in July of 2022. I wish it could have been different. I regret not being able to be the "sister" to my mom they expected me to be, even though it was a screwed up situation.

“Am I A Jerk For Making My Parents Choose Between My Sister Going To Jail Or Replacing My Car With Their Vacation Money”

Exactly. I'm not perfect. I had a mom who was the baby of her large family, and also my dad's second wife after his first wife passed, so he was 30 years her senior, and treated her very much like a child. My mom was more like a sister because everyone expected me to play along and not expect her to parent me because she was "sensitive" and "high strung", as well as having had her life not turn out like she wanted, i.e. her boyfriend of ten years wouldn't commit, so she turned around and married my dad after a only ahort time of knowing him, and even though he was a reasonably good husband and father, her life with him was a far cry from what her life with her big Italian family and Italian boyfriend would have been. They were artistic, musically gifted people who lived in a city known for the quality of it's art and music scene, and she had had hopes of being a professional opera singer like her older half sister. My dad had grown up a country boy on the Oklahoma plains, in the 1920s, over 80 years ago, so you could imagine the gap in their lifestyles. (Incidentally, my mom's mom -my grandma- also married a man 30 years her senior, but my grandma was super responsible and realistic, except when it came to my mom's behavior, even though she knew my mom lacked decent parenting skills.)

“Am I A Jerk For Making My Parents Choose Between My Sister Going To Jail Or Replacing My Car With Their Vacation Money”

To the people who said the parents might punish the OP for reporting to the police that her sister stole her car, I don't think normal parents who know the sister is screwed up because of their terrible parenting will do that. It sounds like they are reasonable people who, although they don't want their screwed up kid to go to jail, still will respect their responsible kid's decision. That deadbolt showed up on OP's door pronto after she gave her parents the ultimatum, and even though that was in her parent's hopes of getting OP not too report her sister for stealing her car, I still think that the parents are aware enough of their fault for most of the sister's terrible behavior because she is screwed up because of their lack of good parenting, so they would not want to be crappy parents who would jeopardize their relationship with OP by being mean and punishing her for a situation they know is 95% their fault.

Hey Pandas, What’s Your Biggest Red Flag In A Friendship?

"Friend neediness." When a new friend jumps "whole hog" into my life, constantly texting and/or calling me, wanting me to do this or that with them. Or worse, barging into my home without asking if it's a convenient time, because 'We're such great friends", when, in reality, we've only known each other for three weeks.

Starbucks Employee Breaks Down In Tears After They’re Scheduled To Work 8 Hours

About the misgendering: a lot of people who don't speak English as their first language have trouble with personal pronouns. I can't say the number of times I've heard people, especially of Hispanic descent, get others pronouns mixed up. Even friends who knew me well. Maybe these customers did not speak English as a first language. One time when I was working in the apparel department of a superstore (not Wal-Mart), a mom and her maybe 4 year old child walked by, and the kid asked his mom 'Mommy, was that a man or a woman?' I was devastated. I wasn't the 'gorgeous' type of woman, but not ugly or un-feminine either. I remember that day was not my best. I was tired, and a single mom of an under one year old, and some days I just didn't have the energy to get all "done-up" for work. It had been a "dress down" kind of day for me. I was still overweight with pregnancy pounds, but I always wore makeup and dressed nicely, even on bad days, so I don't know why the child was confused.

Starbucks Employee Breaks Down In Tears After They’re Scheduled To Work 8 Hours

I get where this young man is coming from, but I can't count the number of times I was crying at work, before work, and after work because working in retail at a superstore (not Walmart), in the apparel department really sucks. That was 20 some years ago when it was 'come in, work 8 hours until 10pm, be back at 7am, and be nice to incredibly rude customers and difficult co-workers, and do any stupid, pointlessly inane task your manager tells you to, or else'. I do, however, agree that it would have been just too much handling school and working that type of job as well. But then again, when i had my daughter and was a single mom working 6 to 8 hour shifts on 5 hours or less sleep every night, it was just about the same thing. I feel that a change in working world conditions and expectations is long overdue. France has had a 4 day work week for a long time, and employees have certain expectations of time for personal, family and friend activities.

Hey Pandas, What Is Your Most Controversial Food Opinion? (Closed)

My daughter eats dried seaweed she buys at the store. She tried it once at someone else's house and I couldn't believe she liked it as she was only ten years old and also a junk food fanatic. That started her eating only healthy foods. Now, 12 years later, she only buys organic. And before she moved out with her boyfriend, she would come home with some very, in my opinion, strange food. There is still a package of poached lotus slices in the fridge, and a cupboard full of things with names like dan dan noodles, spirulina powder you add to any drink, tuna infusions (what the heck??), kelp jerky, eggplant wraps, poached ginkgo nuts. I could go on and on, especially with vegetables, but I will be kind and stop now, lol

Hey Pandas, What Is Your Most Controversial Food Opinion? (Closed)

I've done this and think it's delicious!

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Michele Lein • upvoted 6 items 1 year ago

Hey Pandas, What's The Worst Rule You've Seen Someone Actually Try To Enforce?

Catholic high school in the middle west (USA). Pregnant girls could not enter school to finish/continue their high school diploma. Hated that. Since all were catholic they should have taken in consideration that they might have been pregnant by the holy spirit. At least that teached me in the 90s that religion is only to control people.

28 People Share How Life Turned Out For The 'Pretty Girl' Of Their High School

Oh my god bp didn't censor😮

Hey Pandas, What's The Worst Rule You've Seen Someone Actually Try To Enforce?

28 People Share How Life Turned Out For The 'Pretty Girl' Of Their High School

Oh my god bp didn't censor😮

113 Photos That May Convince You Cats Can Defy Gravity

Imagine catching sight of this in the dark, looks like a little demon

113 Photos That May Convince You Cats Can Defy Gravity

Hello my baby, hello my darling, hello my ragtime gal...

“Am I A Jerk For Making My Parents Choose Between My Sister Going To Jail Or Replacing My Car With Their Vacation Money”

Immature parents. She's probably been expected to parent them from a young age.

“Am I A Jerk For Making My Parents Choose Between My Sister Going To Jail Or Replacing My Car With Their Vacation Money”

how is the only grown up in this house 17?

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Michele Lein • submitted 8 list additions 1 year ago

Hey Pandas, What Is Something You Did As A Kid And Now Realize How Much Of A Dumb Child You Were?

Hey Pandas, What's The Worst Rule You've Seen Someone Actually Try To Enforce? (Closed)

Hey Pandas, What's That One Story You Can Just Never Find A Good Time To Say? (Closed)

Hey Pandas, What Is Your Financial Advice? (Closed)

Hey Pandas, What's The Hardest Realization You Had To Come To? (Closed)

Hey Pandas, Do You Have A Favourite Tradition With Snow?

Hey Pandas, What Is Your Most Controversial Food Opinion? (Closed)

Michele Lein • submitted a new post 1 year ago

Ask Pandas

Hey Pandas, What Was A Crazy Experience You Had Or Watched Happen, With Survivalists At The Beginning Of The Covid Pandemic?

Michele Lein • submitted a new post 2 years ago

Ask Pandas

Hey Pandas: What Is Something You've Said Or Done That You've Regretted For The Rest Of Your Life?

Michele Lein • submitted 2 list additions 8 months ago

Hey Pandas, What Was Your “Damn I’m Smart” Moment?

Hey Pandas, Why Did You Cry The Last Time You Did? (Closed)

Michele Lein • submitted a list addition 9 months ago

Michele Lein • submitted 17 list additions 1 year ago

Hey Pandas, What Is Something You Did As A Kid And Now Realize How Much Of A Dumb Child You Were?

Hey Pandas, What's The Worst Rule You've Seen Someone Actually Try To Enforce? (Closed)

Hey Pandas, What's That One Story You Can Just Never Find A Good Time To Say? (Closed)

Hey Pandas, What Is Your Financial Advice? (Closed)

Hey Pandas, What's The Hardest Realization You Had To Come To? (Closed)

Hey Pandas, Do You Have A Favourite Tradition With Snow?

Hey Pandas, What Is Your Most Controversial Food Opinion? (Closed)

Hey Pandas, What Would You Say Is Your Primary Emotion?

Hey Pandas, What Commonly Ridiculed Opinion Do You Think Is Not So Absurd?

Hey Pandas, What's Your Silliest Family Story? (Closed)

Hey Pandas, What’s Your Worst Restaurant Experience As A Customer Or Employee? (Closed)

Hey Pandas, What Are Some Important Qualities You Look For In A Significant Other?

Hey Pandas, What Was The Moment When You Realized You Were In A Toxic Friendship Or Relationship?

Hey Pandas, If Someone Made A Movie About Your Life, What Would It Be Titled? (Closed)

Michele Lein • commented on 20 posts 1 year ago

Hey Pandas, What's The Worst Rule You've Seen Someone Actually Try To Enforce? (Closed)

113 Photos That May Convince You Cats Can Defy Gravity

Oh my gosh, yeah, I'd be on the floor having a heart and asthma attack!

"My Native Language Doesn't Have The Word For It": 35 People Share What Words In Foreign Languages They Absolutely Love Using

Funny Comics Illustrate The Quirks Of Living With A Cat By Cody Stone Stowe (40 New Pics)

That's my Tildy.

Funny Comics Illustrate The Quirks Of Living With A Cat By Cody Stone Stowe (40 New Pics)

113 Photos That May Convince You Cats Can Defy Gravity

Noo! It Java The Hut Cat.

113 Photos That May Convince You Cats Can Defy Gravity

If this doesn't convince you that our pets (led by the cat consortium, of course) are hiding their true abilities and selves from their "hoomans", nothing will!

Hey Pandas, What Was Your ‘Popular’ Moment? (Closed)

Man Gives His Girlfriend The Silent Treatment After She High-Fives A Woman At The Gym Who 'Humiliated' Him

6 Y.O. With Special Needs Has Tent Nobody Can Enter As Her Safe Space, Guests Are Upset That It Was Put Up In The Living Room

Hey Pandas, What's The Hardest Realization You Had To Come To? (Closed)

Thank you so much for your kindness and advice. It made me feel a bit better!

Hey Pandas, What's The Hardest Realization You Had To Come To? (Closed)

"We All Had To Tell Each Other When We Were Showering": Woman Quits Her ‘Big 4’ Job After Insane Working Conditions, Shares Her Traumatizing Experience In A Viral Video

“Am I A Jerk For Making My Parents Choose Between My Sister Going To Jail Or Replacing My Car With Their Vacation Money”

Hey Pandas, What’s Your Biggest Red Flag In A Friendship?

Starbucks Employee Breaks Down In Tears After They’re Scheduled To Work 8 Hours

Michele Lein • upvoted 20 items 1 year ago

Hey Pandas, What's The Worst Rule You've Seen Someone Actually Try To Enforce?

28 People Share How Life Turned Out For The 'Pretty Girl' Of Their High School

Oh my god bp didn't censor😮

113 Photos That May Convince You Cats Can Defy Gravity

Imagine catching sight of this in the dark, looks like a little demon

113 Photos That May Convince You Cats Can Defy Gravity

Hello my baby, hello my darling, hello my ragtime gal...

Hey Pandas, What Is Something That Is Socially Acceptable Now, That Wasn't A Long Time Ago?

1. Looking like you're talking to yourself. The in past you've been taken away to the crazy hospital. These days you're most likely on your phone so you can feel free to talk to yourself all you want and just blame it on that, lol. 2. Being an actual crazy person. It used to be if you were crazy they'd give you tin foil to play with and cart you off to a mental hospital because you shouldn't be allowed in regular society. Now you can say things like believing the earth is flat. Or that school shootings where children have died and it can be proven are just 'false flags' and never happened. Or that the government is a conspiracy of snake people from another planet. And instead of a tin foil hat, you get elected to the house of representatives or a radio show making millions of dollars.

“Am I A Jerk For Making My Parents Choose Between My Sister Going To Jail Or Replacing My Car With Their Vacation Money”

Immature parents. She's probably been expected to parent them from a young age.

“Am I A Jerk For Making My Parents Choose Between My Sister Going To Jail Or Replacing My Car With Their Vacation Money”

how is the only grown up in this house 17?

Hey Pandas, What Is Your Most Controversial Food Opinion?

"Boneless wings" are for adults that don't want to admit they like chicken nuggets

Hey Pandas, What Is Your Most Controversial Food Opinion?

Peaches in cottage cheese. Or just peaches. Or just cottage cheese. But together...who in the world ever thought "hey let's put fruit in lump dairy"!?! I'm guessing many of you have never had or heard of, but here in the south east of USA, it can be an option for breakfast, lunch or dinner side. The combination of textures and taste are hands-down appalling for me.

"Times Have Changed": 40 Examples Of Things That Were Once Unacceptable But Are Now Accepted As Shared By The Bored Panda Community

Was told my partner, who is a good catholic is not a good christian because hes catholic. Because.his is the wrong christianity. Person who told me this is evangelical. Its frightening and in my opinion, abusive to judge others that way.

30 Brutal Lessons For More Effective Parenting, As Shared By Moms Online

Wow! Do you think your niece does this because she heard her mother did it when she was a child? Or do you think it's one of those weird "Clan of the Cave Bear" ingrained behavioral memories from her mom?

Most Heckin’ Heart-Melting Puppers, As Shared On The 'Rare Puppers' Online Group

Upvoting Dogtor Loki because it´s amazing what he does. Wishing your friend a speedy recovery!

30 Brutal Lessons For More Effective Parenting, As Shared By Moms Online

I'm autistic. Often would just ask for clarification and an explanation since "because" is not a reason. I got told I was argumentative and disobedient. Got yelled at a lot. Please, kids do not understand. It can help your child so much. I often got snapped at for having meltdowns because I felt forgotten or overwhelmed. If you aren't willing to validate your kids' emotions and help them through them, you are not a good parent. Emotional care is so important.

30 Brutal Lessons For More Effective Parenting, As Shared By Moms Online

We foster 6 kids, 3 of whom are toddlers. When the littlest was just over 2, we had had a long day running errands and it was quickly approaching nap time. He was fussy and cranky and completely inconsolable. He was 2, tired, hangry, and didn't have the words that adults do to explain how he was feeling. Several times we passed an older lady with her 2 daughters and 3 grandkids. Finally it got to be too much so I just sat down on the floor and held him while I rocked and rubbed his back. The older lady was going past the end of the aisle on her scooter and stopped and backed up just to tell me that I was doing a great job. She said it was refreshing to see a young mom not screaming at, ignoring, punishing or threatening punishment, or even trying to bribe the child ito behaving well when a tiny one was melting down. It's sad that this was something that even needed to be said. As adults we need to take a step back and realize that our children are all pieces of our collective future...

Kids Are The Ones Who're Having A Hard Time

Your kid isn’t giving you a hard time. THEY are having a hard time. stone_fox_in_mud added: Absolutely. And so much so for any child with a disability. [deleted] added: I wish more people would understand this, when their children are having a tantrum. So maby people write it off as bad behaviour. Where in reality it is your child having an overwhelming amount of emotions and feelings and no clue as to how to deal with them. A parent would do their child's emotional development a huge favour by trying to understand this. The book "The Science of Parenting" explains this from a neurological and attachment psychological point of view - with many great sources.

Hey Pandas, What Commonly Ridiculed Opinion Do You Think Is Not So Absurd?

I've never had a problem with cryptozoology. I think it's quite fun and eagerly await proof of these creatures. Heck they found the hobbit on island of flores which shows that paleological species of humans survived into the stone age at least, so the idea that there may be cavemen walkign around somewhere in forests, to this day, seems ok to me.

Hey Pandas, What Commonly Ridiculed Opinion Do You Think Is Not So Absurd?

Intelligence is a very poorly-defined thing. It is measured using IQ which asks questions and designs etc., which require background knowledge of western and scientific culture. It is therefore inherently racist. Google "the bell curve controversy" if you want to read more. If you downvote me, I know you voted for the republican party, thanks for playing.

Hey Pandas, What Commonly Ridiculed Opinion Do You Think Is Not So Absurd?

perhaps they shouldn't be allowed to vote, because then you get Trump in power. /jk

Hey Pandas, What Commonly Ridiculed Opinion Do You Think Is Not So Absurd?

Pit bulls are mean..... The truth is pit bull dogs are friendly protective and loyal.... Mine is 5yo 96 lbs and can't figure out why he no longer fits in my lap

Hey Pandas, What Is Something You Need To Get Off Your Chest?

I don't enjoy hanging out with my friends anymore, except for one person. I can't tell my parents that I'm pagan, or that I use neopronouns and want to change my name. I'm terrified of being a financial burden on my family.

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