Society is an ever-shifting landscape of trends, traditions, rituals, and norms. Change is the name of the game, but for some people, change doesn’t happen fast enough. Redditor Jimjoe1 asked people what modern social trends anger them the most, and they couldn’t wait to share their real thoughts and feelings about what they feel is wrong with the world.
We’ve collected the best responses below, so have a read through them and tell us what you think, dear Pandas. Remember to upvote the ones you agree with and be sure to drop us a comment with how you’d personally answer Jimjoe1’s question.
Pssst, spoiler warning, plenty of these people think that social media and attention-seeking are some of the fundamental ills of the times that we live in. Read on for Bored Panda’s interview about our desire to be seen and adored on social media with an expert in history. If you think our fascination with wanting attention is something new, you’re in for a rough awakening.
The whole instagram influencer thing. Why are we following these people??
Playing music or watching videos in public without headphones. If I go to a park or the beach I want to be able to hear the wind and waves and birds singing, not whatever obnoxious s**t you feel you have the right to subject everyone to.
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Bored Panda spoke about social media, people’s desire to look beautiful and ‘perfect,’ and how this is commodified with historian Dr. Jane Nicholas from St. Jerome’s University at the University of Waterloo.
According to Dr. Nicholas, seeking perfection isn’t a new idea: it’s long been sold as an attainable ideal. Something that’s within our grasp and could be ours if we just tried harder (or… spent more).
Especially when people react badly. Imagine being a kid and coming across a video of one of your parents having a tantrum because you aren’t they gender they wanted you to be.
People recording themselves doing “charitable acts” like buying a meal or giving money to a homeless person. I can assure you that person does NOT want their face all over social media so you can get clout for being a “good charitable person”. Sure do a good thing like helping the less fortunate but you don’t need to record it and have their face all over social media.
"Don't forget to like and subscribe" or "1 like = 1 prayer" just please f**k right off with that.
“Many cosmetics, for example, promise the ability to achieve a certain look with their use. Social media is driven by different, more individual forces than traditional media, but it is caught up in many of the same patterns, specifically selling goods,” she explained that there’s a (hidden) economic aspect to social media that drives it forward. So what we’re seeing with influencers and their fixation on making a profit shouldn’t surprise anybody.
The history expert noted that even if we’re smart enough to know that an image posted on social media is “highly manipulated,” this doesn’t mean that we can easily identify it with our own two eyes. “It’s difficult now to distinguish real people from the highly curated image presented on social media,” she said.
Making young children into social media stars. It’s fine to share pictures of your kids with friends, but aggressively documenting and marketing your family life for the public at large is... creepy.
Dr. Nicholas believes that our inability to distinguish between real and highly curated images on social media “reflects something of our true selves now,” implying that things are here to stay. At least for the time being.
But for those of you lamenting that modern society is a nightmare, wishing to go back to the good old days, ask yourselves this: which days exactly are the so-called good old days? Dr. Nicholas told Bored Panda that we’ve all lived with various images of beauty since at least the 1920s, and “these have become parts of ourselves.”
Our modern focus on social media is merely an extension of a long historic fascination with beauty. Similarly, other trends could be seen as continuations or reactions to previous trends once you dig a little deeper. That’s why having a solid foundation in history is vital if you want to make more accurate guesses about the future.
How quickly misinformation spreads through social media. It’s seriously a dangerous thing in society and it’s pretty terrifying
“Just be positive!”
Yeah thanks Carol I didn’t realize just staying positive would cure my chemical imbalance
anti-vaccination. When vaccines were first discovered or developed or however you want to say it, they were mostly seen as a scientific break through. A great success. The wonders of man kinds great power and ingenuity. Polio? What polio? But now, it is trendy for many to be now smarter than several years of research and hard work. To know more in 10 minutes on YouTube then someone who has dedicated years of their life to study what other people before then also studied for years of their life and so on and so on. Years of human evolution, growth, study, break-throughs, accomplishments, ground to a halt by some jack wagon with a social media account.
Are the internet and social media to blame for what’s wrong with society? I like to think that they’re merely tools and aren’t inherently good or evil, but we make them so with how we use them. Or, to put it a tad more poetically, they’re funhouse mirrors that reflect and amplify our inner selves.
Social media can be a way to get in touch with long-lost friends and to give a platform for your art. Or it can be an excuse to post endless vapid selfies and to advertise products for monetary gain.
Food blogs for a simple recipe. I don’t give a f*** about reading a story before reading a recipe
Family vloggers horrify me. The concept of exploiting your children's lives for views is particularly awful. And because it's a relatively new concept there are no real laws around child labor or exploitation concerning it. There are youtubers out there right now who live in mansions worth millions of dollars that they got from shoving a camera in their toddler's face and demanding them to perform for strangers. I can't even imagine the psychological repercussions this will have on these kids in the future.
Similarly, the internet itself is both a vast repository of painstakingly verified knowledge and funny animal videos, as well as a seemingly endless archive of half-truths, rumors, fake news, and gossip. You can’t have the good without the bad. Though it’s always healthy to sit down and think about what you’d change about the world if you could. And then, perhaps, even go out and make those changes into reality.
How almost every article is a video rather than an article. I can get to the main point faster reading than it takes for the video to get there.
The overgrowth of identity. There’s nothing wrong with being any race, gender or sexuality (or any other thing), but it doesn’t make you any more ‘legitimate’ or more of an authority on anything. I guess I’m just tired of all the deepening divisions. If you get too engrossed in your ‘tribe’ you’ll lose sight of all the other people out there.
The instagram Kardashian body image crap. Those bodies are unachievable without surgery, money, trainers, chefs, etc. Cellulite and love handles exist. Eat healthy, exercise and love who you are with confidence.
Basing your entire identity around political parties that don't even represent your interests.
Influencers. I can't stand the term, it gives whatever dickhead thinks they are famous a feeling of superiority. Plus everyone seems to be an 'Influencer' and not actually engaging in proper life. Grrr
The idea that every one of your hobbies needs to be turned into a side hustle. No one is allowed to simply have hobbies that they love, you have to strive to be good enough to monetize it
When people see someone in distress, instead of helping they whip their phones out and film. Social media and smart phones have absolutely messed this world up.
Mommy wine culture. The normalization of needing to drink to tolerate your kids. As a mom who doesn't drink it seems like there is so much normalization of alcoholic behavior that it makes me sad.
Letting little kids have social media (unsupervised). They are not equipped to handle any of it. So many conflicts spawn out of it.
Without a doubt, I can't stand cancel culture, gaslighting and the insane oversensitivity shown in social media. I'm going to write it clearly........"If you don't like something, don't watch it, interact with it or have anything to do with it." Just because you don't appreciate what someone has created, it doesn't mean it's your right to remove them and their art entirely. John Cleese said it perfectly "From the point of creativity, if you have to keep thinking which words you can use and which you can't, then that will stifle creativity"
Public shaming. Terrifying how the blind rage of an anonymous crowd can ruin your life in hours.
Words like "victim" and "survivor" being thrown around so much to the point where they are losing their meaning.
Social media influencers asking for free items unsolicited, then when of course they decline they threaten to (and in some cases do) leave bad reviews forcing the company to have to respond to false allegations for no reason.
Glorifying celebrities and treating them like gods. Like, I understand being a fan of someone, but you don't have to create an entire livelihood around them or try to emulate them. This is also how people get into positions of power when they shouldn't be.
Modern people (including most the people I've dated) getting pissed that I don't reply to them immediately. "Why were you ignoring me bro?!" I wasn't. I'm just not addicted to my phone. People will b***h and moan about how I don't reply to them immediately, but if you put them all in a room, they can't look up from their phones to have a real conversation. Why did they ever invent active statuses?!?! It's so goddamn annoying to have people get mad at me because I used the calculator on my phone at work, and then people look to see that you were on your phone, and immediately think you're ignoring them. I'm at work. I didn't even notice your STUPID. BUBBLE.
Doing a stupid "challenge" that will end with one or more people injured, imprisoned, or worse.
Woke culture. It doesn't allow for people getting better. If you have to dig 7 years to find something bad someone said on twitter they maybe a improved person now. I care about how people are now not 7-10 years ago or that they say something stupid in high school.
That people think their lives need to be viewed to be lived- it’s like privacy and being private are considered repressive. People are always online, posting about their lives, and everyone wants validation about every aspect of their lives. Just f*****g live ‘em!
Narcissism. Everyone has to livestream their trip to the grocery store, or sits in front of a beautiful natural site and never turn around and look at it, because they’re obsessed with themselves and creating this false narrative about their life. Everything is all about “living their best life”(usually at the expense of others) or “living their truth”(complete BS not remotely based on reality). It’s all about them, and only them. F*** I hate these people...
You can't just buy something now. Everything is a subscription. First it was just Netflix, then it was dollar shave club. Now every TV channel is a separate subscription, every household item wants to send it to you over and over again. Nothing is released physically, so the only way to watch a movie or check out a new album is to pay someone monthly. Services that were offered for free or one-time purchase are rescinded and now offered as subscriptions. It's so obvious that everyone and everything just wants to milk you as long and for as much as possible. And people just buy into it willingly. I know people who spend like $200 a month on stuff that was free like, 10 years ago. People are even offering themselves on a subscription base now. I can't believe how cool everyone is with watching all their money disappear all the time.
Plain articles of clothing like a t-shirt where the only thing on them is a large graphic of the logo of the brand that made it. See it a lot with “Gucci”. People are literally paying hundreds of their own money to be a walking advertisement for a company.
I'm exhausted with how vapid and fake social media is.
Recording people in need for clout.
Public grieving. And berating those who don’t grieve publicly. When Chadwick Boseman passed away, people were hounding his co-stars regarding their responses. When Malik B of The Roots passed away, Questlove actually found out by being spammed on Twitter by a bunch of strangers. Imagine finding out one of your closest friends died, because random strangers wanted an immediate response from you.
The fact that if you don't have Instagram and don't document your whole entire existence you're a nobody and don't have a life and live under a rock??? Excuse me but since I deleted social media accounts my life seems way more fulfilling and enjoyable than having to worry about how many people views my story and liked my photo of what dirt i ate for breakfast.
Couples recording pranks on each other that are so painfully staged. It’s the same super popular trends that are reproduced. Like do you really need to act so shocked the tenth time your girlfriend pretends to strip in front of the camera but actually has clothes underneath her towel? Are you really THAT shocked? At this point I just block but I just can’t imagine people have that much time
How people try to destroy you or simply frown upon when you don’t join whatever bandwagon they’re on.
Everyone acting like experts on crazily complex topics because they either read a headline or one article that agrees with what they already believed.