People Are Loving How This Leech Son Finally Got What He Deserved After Living Off Of His Parents’ Income For 31 Years
Being self-sufficient, independent, and capable of pulling your own weight—these are all qualities that were admired as much throughout history as they are in modern times. Sleeping in late, failing to keep down a job, and playing video games all day long, however, are not things that a grown-up person should be proud of doing. If someone’s over thirty and this is their life, something obviously needs to change. And fast!
Redditor u/Frequent_Gas6500 shared a couple of brutally honest posts about their brother—aka the 31-year-old ‘man-baby’—with the members of the r/TrueOffMyChest subreddit. Despite having raised 3 very successful kids, the OP’s parents, unfortunately, failed with the 4th. Or, as the author of the story put it: “They have allowed the man baby to sit in his cradle and make demands for 31 years too long. And now, they find themselves with an overgrown toddler who sits in the attic playing Valorant all day while cursing my mom out when she dares to ask him to clean up the rotting garbage he spreads across his room.”
After their dad had a medical emergency, the family decided to sell the house. And the ‘man-baby’ got the news that he’d have to move out and fend for himself. The gravy train had ended. According to redditor u/Frequent_Gas650, the “meltdown was legendary.” Scroll down for the full story, the update, as well as how Reddit reacted to the drama.
Though we all mature at different paces, it’s clear to most people that a 31-year-old should have a job and not spend the entire day playing video games
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A person explained how their ‘man-baby’ brother was finally forced to ‘leave the nest’ and how he caused tantrum after tantrum
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The OP wrapped up the story in an update that many internet users were eagerly waiting for
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It isn’t just that u/Frequent_Gas650’s brother is lazy, it’s that he’s malicious. The redditor described him as “an annoying, violent, self-centered brat who would push my parents in front of a bus for the thrill of the dopamine hit.”
For him, life’s all about video games, online forums, and eating food from a pantry that ‘magically’ fills itself. Whenever he doesn’t get his way, he lashes out. So much so that even the non-emergency line knows what his temperament is like: he’s violent. Meanwhile, the firefighter neighbor is also aware of this and is available to calm things down if needed.
In the update, the OP shared how their brother was shocked to realize that he’d have to use his own savings to pay for his food. Money that he’d rather have spent upgrading his computer. Eventually, however, he realized that all of his temper tantrums and sulking would have no effect. Eventually, he started working with Uber to make some dough and ended up finding a place to stay that… sounds absolutely horrible if we’re honest with you.
According to the OP, he began “living in a room above the garage in a 3 bedroom, rundown crackhouse straight out of Compton.” The rent’s cheap, but he’s still badgering his family for money. Meanwhile, he thinks he’s too good to work for McDonald’s (though it’s actually possible to make quite a career there, even earning six figures as a manager, as Bored Panda wrote recently over here). “The man-baby has left the building,” the OP was overjoyed. What happens next is anyone’s guess.
Being grateful for what you have comes easier for some people than others. However, it’s a skill that can be learned and, arguably, should be learned. It grounds you. It keeps you humble. And it makes you aware of all the blessing you have in your life. It’s also one of the cures for a deep sense of entitlement.
Fitness expert and entrepreneur Jack Bly previously spoke about gratitude with Bored Panda. “Gratitude is incredibly important, I believe. I practice it every single morning as part of my routine. Having good mentors helps big time,” he said that other people can help guide you and help keep you humble no matter how high you might rise. “And also life usually has its way of humbling those who are too proud,” he noted.
According to the fitness expert, some ways to practice gratitude can be very simple. For instance, you can start by writing out 5 to 10 things you feel you’re fortunate to have. You can then try to send a message of gratitude to someone you’re grateful for.
Jack said that it’s very easy these days to take everything for granted. However, with a shift in perspective, you can change everything. He said that you can ‘train’ your perspective to focus on gratitude. He added that one of the best things that anyone can do in life is move their body more. “Figure out what you enjoy that involves movement and do it. It could be sports, hiking, walking around a mall, etc.”
The author of the post revealed some more of their thoughts in the comments while others shared their opinions about the family drama
I don't understand why people think they're "too good for McDonald's". If I needed a job desperately, I'd apply anywhere and everywhere. I'm decently educated, I have a degree and lots of industry experience, but if I were to need a job in a hurry, McDonald's would absolutely be good enough.
Yes, 100%. People might have to not list their education in order to get hired. Definitely better than being unemployed. Where I live, there's tons of jobs. Not glamourous, but if someone is honestly trying to find work, they will (chicken plant, tire factory, Walmart, etc.)
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Even if he does have a mental health issue, treatment must be voluntarily sought if it's going to work because HE is the only one who can do the work Much like addiction there has to be a rock bottom or event that causes an epiphany of hey maybe I do have a problem. You cannot save someone from themselves
there is nothing wrong with living with your parents and doing what you love, especially in this ridiculous economy where its to the point that it's almost impossible for anybody not working for a office to afford even the smallest apartments with how inflated things got unless your extremely lucky or find the most run down places in existence. but there is a huge difference between living with your parents and freeloading. if your going to live with your parents, pay rent help around the house and get your own damn groceries
Sometimes good parents end up with kids like this because they know at the end of the day, the parent will provide. Irresponsible parents sometimes end up with a hardworking responsible child because the kid learned to provide for themselves quickly. Having a sibling in a similar situation, it's heartbreaking. My mom is 70, working full time. The 37 year "kid" living there doesn't lift a finger. Same pattern of lazy/denial/anger. My opinion is that if a person can't work, they should get government benefits for being disabled. He's not even doing that. He is severe ocd (not diagnosed) and is too messed up in the head to work.
Had a woman like that who's son was a pos, a co-worker had to get her into a home as she wasn't qualified to work any longer (worked at a school and was a security 'nightmare') When she was told that if a student no longer attends school that, no they can't be in, can't rattle a door and come in, just because she recognizes him/her. More befuddled by the day too. Her son couldn't be supported anymore by her. Sad that a co-worker had to step in as the other children wouldn't step up and handle it.
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I hope this guy managed to sort himself out enough to get some sort of employment so he could keep his room and his computer. It sucks to be the disfunctional f**k-up just as much as it sucks to be related to one. He sounds like a deeply unhappy person, unable to cope with life. If he isn't able to engage with therapy, is there any way the family can get him on a short psych hold and get him on anti-depressants at least? Sometimes that provides enough mood stabilisation to let the patient engage in helping themself.
Mental health issues are a reason, not an excuse for shitty behaviour, but at the end of the day he's responsible for his own choices and one of those is to seek help or not. He's had far more in the way of access to mental health support than a lot of people and he chose to refuse it. Some times shitty people are just shitty people.
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So I'm going to get down voted, but here goes; at some stage in everybody's life we become our own problem. It doesn't matter if this guy has all the disorders or mental health problems in the world, he has to carry his baggage himself. I've have depression, anxiety the full monty, but the world doesn't owe me anything.
I agree. As a person with mental health problems they are there but they are not an excuse to be shitty. Its my responsability to improve, not my familys
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I mean he sucks. But it just really doesn't sit well with me, how OP is refusing to call him anything other than a derogatory remark and is dismissive of any steps their brother is taking to start and build a life for himself. Uber is a job, and a shithole you are paying for yourself is still *your* shithole, much better than your parent's basement. All these condescending, derogatory remarks will just add to his problems. As for not going to the expensive therapy. Guess who does that? Yep. People who need it most. The first step a patient needs to take is to actually recognize that they have a problem they cannot solve without professional help. You can't just throw money at it and wish those problems away. Speaking as someone who was never good enough and who was always getting one shitty remark after the other, it can have a huge impact and can lead to petulant, avoidant behaviour.
What part of him gives him the belief that "he's too good for McDonald's"???? I think McDonald's is too good for him. Don't let this man have a job near food.
I wouldn’t get too giddy about a person who is obviously mentally ill. But he does need help his family cannot provide for him. He’s certainly headed for prison where he won’t get the help he needs either.
Whilst it is unclear whether the brother requires a mental health diagnosis or is just simply a spoilt jerk, I will say this... An adult living with their parents is okay, an adult still acting as their parents' dependent without medical cause is not okay. The only person I'd think it reasonable to game that much is a video game streamer able to actually fund their own lifestyle from the gaming, rather than expecting bank of mum & dad (and in this case, siblings too) to fund it for you. It's a shame it took the father going in a care home and mother into over 55s accommodation to address the issue.
My ex husband moved in with his parents when I left him 27 years ago and never moved out. His 91 year old mother works at Walmart to afford to support him as he won't work. He even pawns her stuff for money. She was awful too but this is ridiculous.
I'm not trying to start anything with this comment, but I think it would be a really good thing for young people if they were forced to leave home after HS. Kind of like the draft, but not necessarily the military. Maybe like the Peace Corp, or mandatory higher education. Getting paid during that time would help them learn how to handle finances also. Then after they "served" for x amount of time they could go on to do or practice whatever they wished to do. I hope this makes sense, and again I am not trying to start any arguments.
He sounds like he's suffering from some undiagnosed mental illness. May also be a video game addiction, or a comorbidity. This story does not give me schadenfreude, but rather makes me sad. I feel bad for this guy, he's likely going to spend some time homeless, or worse. Hopefully he seeks and gets the help he needs.
Hey-OP's loser brother: Newsflash-we are ALL too good for something. However-needs must means we all have to do something we thought was beneath us-whether it means getting a job, going to class, or getting help. Adulting means realizing that there is truly NOTHING that is beneath us, and that being a useful, law-abiding, money earning human is all that matters.
Sounds like the guy is on an onset of some kind of mental illness. Trouble is you can't just drop people off at mental institutions anymore. Shame, because he sounds like he needs urgent special care stat!
I had a friend with this same situation. Dad had died, mom had a stroke and needed full time care, which the brother wouldn't give. He had the same kind of melt down when told the house was being sold to allow mom to go to a nursing home. Unfortunately he did become violent. Didn't sulk in his room, but left the house and came back with a gun. He killed my friend, her husband and daughter and seriously wounded his other sister - she survived. He was arrested and before his trial, he hung himself in jail. So sad and tragic and so very unnecessary. I wish the OP and her family many blessings and that her brother gets the help he needs.
“Straight out of Compton”? Wow. OP has her own issues: anger, arrogance, resentment, non-compassion.
Sorry but to me this sounds like that guy has an untreated mental problem. Everything seems too incriminatory (him being the ultimate baddie and his family the poor victims that were always helpful to him) and I can't help but think some parts are missing in this story even if that person is awful nonetheless, which he can be, but I do feel there's something more complex there.
Someday he'll have a mighty rude awakening, I'd love to be a fly on the wall. I know my ex-husband got his when his father died. I have no idea who takes care of him now and, frankly, I could not care less.
Honestly, I think your family is kind of awful. First, what you're doing is like blaming the dog for s******g in the house when you never bothered to house-train him. Brother has never been taught to care for his own needs. Imagine how helpless he must feel. Second, you all automatically attribute his behavior to assholism without bothering to consider the idea that he might have behavioral health issues. Lastly, you seem to get a great deal of enjoyment out of the whole thing, which is disturbing.
Honestly, I would have more respect for OP if he was NOT using terms like man-baby and disparaging this sibling. It was an agonizing read. Yes, we all have those family members that are leeches and have no drive, but this was straight-up rude and nasty. I wonder if sibling who had issues working is on the spectrum or has Mental Health issues. It actually sounds like he might be neuro-divergent with some significant functional barriers. We are praising OP for bashing a guy who maybe should be on disability. Yuck.
A guy who has made 0 effort adressing those issues and that is volatile and violent. What are they supposed to do? Force him to do therapy?
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I have a lot to say about this as I went through a similar situation. I don't really like the tone of this to be honest. There should have been a meeting after her father's stroke with everyone saying 'we need to come together to help mom with dad. So I'm going to do this, you're going to do his, brother will be doing this, etc.' Frankly I don't understand why everyone sort of sat back and waited for it to get to this point. He's online which means no one has blocked his internet. I mean even with little kids, which it seems like mentally he is, you can change the wifi password until he finishes his tasks to get online access. It's sad to have to do that with a grown adult but- you break it, you bought it. He's this way because his parents allowed him to be. There seems to be a lot of enablement from everyone not just mom and dad who are shouldering it. Now they can't. So if there had been a discussion and a *follow through* of consequences then maybe he'd do more. (1)
(2) If he'd been required to pay for his own internet, I bet he would have found more reason to keep his mouth shut because he needed his job. There's no talk of getting family therapy which sounds like it's needed just from the resentful tone of the poster. I get it; I went throught his with a drug addicted brother who was in and out of prison for years. Even when he was clean it was 'I'm to good to work at mcdonald's' or calling my mom a b***h because she wouldn't give him money she didn't even have. Even after we had the discussions with him and had the therapy etc, he was still the same person. You have to want to not be a scumbag. Treating your parents the way he did... you have to be that kind of person inside a little bit. I wouldn't hold out hope that he will ever change completely or apologize or even comprehend how horrible he has been because he probably thinks he has it so bad. That's the nature of this kind of selfishness.
Load More Replies... I don't understand why people think they're "too good for McDonald's". If I needed a job desperately, I'd apply anywhere and everywhere. I'm decently educated, I have a degree and lots of industry experience, but if I were to need a job in a hurry, McDonald's would absolutely be good enough.
Yes, 100%. People might have to not list their education in order to get hired. Definitely better than being unemployed. Where I live, there's tons of jobs. Not glamourous, but if someone is honestly trying to find work, they will (chicken plant, tire factory, Walmart, etc.)
Load More Replies... Even if he does have a mental health issue, treatment must be voluntarily sought if it's going to work because HE is the only one who can do the work Much like addiction there has to be a rock bottom or event that causes an epiphany of hey maybe I do have a problem. You cannot save someone from themselves
there is nothing wrong with living with your parents and doing what you love, especially in this ridiculous economy where its to the point that it's almost impossible for anybody not working for a office to afford even the smallest apartments with how inflated things got unless your extremely lucky or find the most run down places in existence. but there is a huge difference between living with your parents and freeloading. if your going to live with your parents, pay rent help around the house and get your own damn groceries
Sometimes good parents end up with kids like this because they know at the end of the day, the parent will provide. Irresponsible parents sometimes end up with a hardworking responsible child because the kid learned to provide for themselves quickly. Having a sibling in a similar situation, it's heartbreaking. My mom is 70, working full time. The 37 year "kid" living there doesn't lift a finger. Same pattern of lazy/denial/anger. My opinion is that if a person can't work, they should get government benefits for being disabled. He's not even doing that. He is severe ocd (not diagnosed) and is too messed up in the head to work.
Had a woman like that who's son was a pos, a co-worker had to get her into a home as she wasn't qualified to work any longer (worked at a school and was a security 'nightmare') When she was told that if a student no longer attends school that, no they can't be in, can't rattle a door and come in, just because she recognizes him/her. More befuddled by the day too. Her son couldn't be supported anymore by her. Sad that a co-worker had to step in as the other children wouldn't step up and handle it.
Load More Replies... I hope this guy managed to sort himself out enough to get some sort of employment so he could keep his room and his computer. It sucks to be the disfunctional f**k-up just as much as it sucks to be related to one. He sounds like a deeply unhappy person, unable to cope with life. If he isn't able to engage with therapy, is there any way the family can get him on a short psych hold and get him on anti-depressants at least? Sometimes that provides enough mood stabilisation to let the patient engage in helping themself.
Mental health issues are a reason, not an excuse for shitty behaviour, but at the end of the day he's responsible for his own choices and one of those is to seek help or not. He's had far more in the way of access to mental health support than a lot of people and he chose to refuse it. Some times shitty people are just shitty people.
Load More Replies... So I'm going to get down voted, but here goes; at some stage in everybody's life we become our own problem. It doesn't matter if this guy has all the disorders or mental health problems in the world, he has to carry his baggage himself. I've have depression, anxiety the full monty, but the world doesn't owe me anything.
I agree. As a person with mental health problems they are there but they are not an excuse to be shitty. Its my responsability to improve, not my familys
Load More Replies... I mean he sucks. But it just really doesn't sit well with me, how OP is refusing to call him anything other than a derogatory remark and is dismissive of any steps their brother is taking to start and build a life for himself. Uber is a job, and a shithole you are paying for yourself is still *your* shithole, much better than your parent's basement. All these condescending, derogatory remarks will just add to his problems. As for not going to the expensive therapy. Guess who does that? Yep. People who need it most. The first step a patient needs to take is to actually recognize that they have a problem they cannot solve without professional help. You can't just throw money at it and wish those problems away. Speaking as someone who was never good enough and who was always getting one shitty remark after the other, it can have a huge impact and can lead to petulant, avoidant behaviour.
What part of him gives him the belief that "he's too good for McDonald's"???? I think McDonald's is too good for him. Don't let this man have a job near food.
I wouldn’t get too giddy about a person who is obviously mentally ill. But he does need help his family cannot provide for him. He’s certainly headed for prison where he won’t get the help he needs either.
Whilst it is unclear whether the brother requires a mental health diagnosis or is just simply a spoilt jerk, I will say this... An adult living with their parents is okay, an adult still acting as their parents' dependent without medical cause is not okay. The only person I'd think it reasonable to game that much is a video game streamer able to actually fund their own lifestyle from the gaming, rather than expecting bank of mum & dad (and in this case, siblings too) to fund it for you. It's a shame it took the father going in a care home and mother into over 55s accommodation to address the issue.
My ex husband moved in with his parents when I left him 27 years ago and never moved out. His 91 year old mother works at Walmart to afford to support him as he won't work. He even pawns her stuff for money. She was awful too but this is ridiculous.
I'm not trying to start anything with this comment, but I think it would be a really good thing for young people if they were forced to leave home after HS. Kind of like the draft, but not necessarily the military. Maybe like the Peace Corp, or mandatory higher education. Getting paid during that time would help them learn how to handle finances also. Then after they "served" for x amount of time they could go on to do or practice whatever they wished to do. I hope this makes sense, and again I am not trying to start any arguments.
He sounds like he's suffering from some undiagnosed mental illness. May also be a video game addiction, or a comorbidity. This story does not give me schadenfreude, but rather makes me sad. I feel bad for this guy, he's likely going to spend some time homeless, or worse. Hopefully he seeks and gets the help he needs.
Hey-OP's loser brother: Newsflash-we are ALL too good for something. However-needs must means we all have to do something we thought was beneath us-whether it means getting a job, going to class, or getting help. Adulting means realizing that there is truly NOTHING that is beneath us, and that being a useful, law-abiding, money earning human is all that matters.
Sounds like the guy is on an onset of some kind of mental illness. Trouble is you can't just drop people off at mental institutions anymore. Shame, because he sounds like he needs urgent special care stat!
I had a friend with this same situation. Dad had died, mom had a stroke and needed full time care, which the brother wouldn't give. He had the same kind of melt down when told the house was being sold to allow mom to go to a nursing home. Unfortunately he did become violent. Didn't sulk in his room, but left the house and came back with a gun. He killed my friend, her husband and daughter and seriously wounded his other sister - she survived. He was arrested and before his trial, he hung himself in jail. So sad and tragic and so very unnecessary. I wish the OP and her family many blessings and that her brother gets the help he needs.
“Straight out of Compton”? Wow. OP has her own issues: anger, arrogance, resentment, non-compassion.
Sorry but to me this sounds like that guy has an untreated mental problem. Everything seems too incriminatory (him being the ultimate baddie and his family the poor victims that were always helpful to him) and I can't help but think some parts are missing in this story even if that person is awful nonetheless, which he can be, but I do feel there's something more complex there.
Someday he'll have a mighty rude awakening, I'd love to be a fly on the wall. I know my ex-husband got his when his father died. I have no idea who takes care of him now and, frankly, I could not care less.
Honestly, I think your family is kind of awful. First, what you're doing is like blaming the dog for s******g in the house when you never bothered to house-train him. Brother has never been taught to care for his own needs. Imagine how helpless he must feel. Second, you all automatically attribute his behavior to assholism without bothering to consider the idea that he might have behavioral health issues. Lastly, you seem to get a great deal of enjoyment out of the whole thing, which is disturbing.
Honestly, I would have more respect for OP if he was NOT using terms like man-baby and disparaging this sibling. It was an agonizing read. Yes, we all have those family members that are leeches and have no drive, but this was straight-up rude and nasty. I wonder if sibling who had issues working is on the spectrum or has Mental Health issues. It actually sounds like he might be neuro-divergent with some significant functional barriers. We are praising OP for bashing a guy who maybe should be on disability. Yuck.
A guy who has made 0 effort adressing those issues and that is volatile and violent. What are they supposed to do? Force him to do therapy?
Load More Replies... I have a lot to say about this as I went through a similar situation. I don't really like the tone of this to be honest. There should have been a meeting after her father's stroke with everyone saying 'we need to come together to help mom with dad. So I'm going to do this, you're going to do his, brother will be doing this, etc.' Frankly I don't understand why everyone sort of sat back and waited for it to get to this point. He's online which means no one has blocked his internet. I mean even with little kids, which it seems like mentally he is, you can change the wifi password until he finishes his tasks to get online access. It's sad to have to do that with a grown adult but- you break it, you bought it. He's this way because his parents allowed him to be. There seems to be a lot of enablement from everyone not just mom and dad who are shouldering it. Now they can't. So if there had been a discussion and a *follow through* of consequences then maybe he'd do more. (1)
(2) If he'd been required to pay for his own internet, I bet he would have found more reason to keep his mouth shut because he needed his job. There's no talk of getting family therapy which sounds like it's needed just from the resentful tone of the poster. I get it; I went throught his with a drug addicted brother who was in and out of prison for years. Even when he was clean it was 'I'm to good to work at mcdonald's' or calling my mom a b***h because she wouldn't give him money she didn't even have. Even after we had the discussions with him and had the therapy etc, he was still the same person. You have to want to not be a scumbag. Treating your parents the way he did... you have to be that kind of person inside a little bit. I wouldn't hold out hope that he will ever change completely or apologize or even comprehend how horrible he has been because he probably thinks he has it so bad. That's the nature of this kind of selfishness.
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