This 26 Y.O Guy Messages His Mother Who Put Him Up For Adoption And Her Response Is Unexpected
26-year-old Justin, from Florida, U.S. would definitely agree that it takes guts to finally meet the biological parents who never raised you. Fortunately, he conquered his fear and decided to reach out to his mother, who put him up for adoption many years ago. As it turns out, there was absolutely nothing to be afraid of.
Justin always knew that he was adopted and had tried to find his biological mother before. “It’s something that I had just always been curious about because I had known it my whole life. I wanted to see where I came from, I wanted to see my blood and people who bore a resemblance to me,” he told Bored Panda. Sadly, his search always led nowhere since he only knew two things – her name and that her father is a pastor. Only recently he had a stunning breakthrough, after Justin’s adoptive mother sent him an article about a pastor which she believed to be his grandfather. It took some digging around, but that article helped him to finally track down his mother and connect to her on Facebook. After a few intense days of waiting, her lovely response put a wide smile on his face. Justin found out that his biological parents and two siblings can’t wait to meet him.
Tracking down his parents was the best experience of Justin’s life. He was immediately accepted into the family. “I wasn’t a secret at all to anyone,” he said. His two biological sisters always knew about him. “They were just as ecstatic to meet me as I was them. One of them even cried when she first found out when she was little because she wanted a big brother so bad, haha. They’d never had a big brother and they were stoked! It was so amazing meeting and hugging them. I text all of them every day and we all constantly keep in touch!”
Justin revealed the reason he was put for adoption. “She decided to give me up because she wasn’t able to offer the life she wanted to give me at the time due to her age and circumstances, so she wanted a family that could give me every opportunity available. I thought that was the bravest part. She said every March 8th, (my birthday) she would always wonder what I was doing for my birthday. She thought about me so much. ”
With his beautiful story of reunifiction with his family, Justin wants to encourage other people to not be afraid. ” If there is ANYBODY who is reserved about meeting their biological parents or hesitant to reach out, I implore you to do so. You could be in for the experience of a lifetime. It’s so fulfilling and personally, I feel like my life has come full circle. I think it’s important to see where you come from and appreciate that. It’s the most beautiful thing in the world.”
Scroll below to read how the whole story unfolded!
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Meet a 26-year-old Justin from Florida, who was put up for adoption and never met his parents
Recently he had a breakthrough in the search for his biological mother and decided to share his amazing story
The response Justin got from his biological mother is absolutely heartwarming
And here’s the moment they met for the first time
As it turns out, Justin’s mother and father are still together
And he has two sisters, one 16 and other 19 years old
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Good for him! I guess he was lucky to have a supporting adoptive mother who told him good things about her mother, and I'm glad he could find her and his family :)
His mom - his birth mother is not his mom, and it sounds like she understands that - was a smart lady. My younger siblings are both adopted. This was NEVER a secret. They're healthier because of it.
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I never cry when reading an article (well almost never) BUT reading this I had tears in my eyes ... It made me happy ! I think its amazing that his biological parents are stil together , thats not something you hear very often :)
This is amazing and so happy for this family. I was just reunited with a daughter that was placed for adoption. There is no script to follow and all you can do is hope that it turns out to be a happy experience. While me and my daughter to continue to bond both my daughters have bonded as if they grew up together and have never spent a day apart.
I searched for but was only able to find my son when he was 27 years old. It was the days before the internet and my search consisted of years of going to libraries and looking for his mother's maiden name in telephone books. This was in the NY metropolitan area so there were a LOT of them. It wasn't until my sister was dating a cop who had access to computerized data that I was able to find them. He was at first what I call 'appropriately angry' but once he got to know me we've become distant friends. Thanks to a great mom and dad he turned out to be an excellent human being. He's a screenwriter and award-winning playwright who used to write for 'Mad Men'.
This is also the story of an amazing adoptive mother who loved her son enough to give him his biological family.
I'm happy this worked out for him in a positive way. My brother is adopted (internationally) and I have always told him that I'd support his efforts if he chose to find his birth mother. I also have 4 adopted cousins, also international. One found her bio mother, it was not the happy story this article shows unfortunately.
What a heartwarming story!! I just wish I knew why birth mom gave him away in the first place? Teenage Pregnancy? Pastor dad?
It says in the text that she couldn't give him the life she wished for him "due to her age and circumstances" so that would suggest teenage pregnancy.
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Happy for them, but that whole thing seems so weird. How can you possibly give away your child "in hopes of the better life for them"? Is there some kind of guarantee they will get it? I thought rejected kids go to an orphanage(or whatever the proper word for it is in English) and here I hear so many horror stories about those, about kids being molested and abused and exploited and whatnot, and it's far not every kid that gets adopted at all, and even if they do, not everyone gets so lucky with their new family...is it that much better there for her to do it without a doubt or is there some kind of program in place for a kid to go to a nice rich caring foster family skipping the orphanage stage completely? Genuine curiosity, not trying to be judgemental here.
There is a long waiting list for people wanting to adopt newborn Caucasian infants. It's an expensive and time-consuming process (and the adoptive parents are scrutinized heavily with background checks, fingerprinting, etc) so it's pretty much a given that the adoptive family will be reasonably well-off (but not necessarily wealthy). Adoption of older children, children of color, children with physical or mental impairments, or those already in foster care process faster. And some kids stay in the system until they're 18.
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I don't understand how these foster kids end up searching for their real mom and dad when they didn't want them in the first place. The face of that foster parents will be a big blank, now.. innit?
Heartwarming - the dream of so many adoptees. Wish all birth families could turn out to be so wonderful, but there are lots of reasons for adoption. Though I'll help search if asked, I pray the children I adopted as toddlers never look for the parents whose abuse and neglect nearly killed them.
I also have found my birth family...this year, and I am now 49. I was told that my teenage, unwed birth mother was controlled by my grandfather. They had always worried how I was treated; my birth father said that he would have never been able to send me to college. I have a brother and a sister, lots of aunts and uncles, and tons pf cousins. They welcomed in myself and my youngest daughter. Now I have two whole families! -Rev. Dr. M.
Good for him! I had no luck when I tried to meet/contact my dad tho :( Im 37yo and never meet him, but knew him by name and my mom sometimes when I asked, told me of him. She was the best person ever in my life, never talked bad about him for leaving us, she passe away (5 years ago) I decided to look for him, just out of curiosity, 3 years ago, via FB and the name I remembered my mom told me. Turns out, I have 4 more brothers and sisters, and what a surprise when I contacted them thru facebook. There were ups and downs, and they did not believed me. Even asking for a dna sample. I was living in Venezuela those days, and my dad is from NY. I sent the dna sample and it was positive, confirming the aforementioned and then........ They all blocked me out. Facebook, twitter, phone... everyhing. I dont even know if they even told him that I was trying to get in touch with him. They might have think I was fishing for money or God knows what. I just decided to move on and here I am.
Finally a positive story about a Florida man that doesn't leave me bewildered and shaking my head.
Justin is so blessed. I, too found my biological family. I wish that it had turned out like this, though, I always remember that, I really searched because I just wanted to know who I looked like. I did become part of the biological family for a time, but after the passing of my biological grandmother, it became clear that it was a very uncomfortable situation. I am grateful that I know where I came from, and for me, that's the biggest blessing.
This is so amazing. I pray they find all the happiness in this world
Very emotional stuff and I am really happy it went so well! I read with tears and I wish more such wonderful reuinions happen. Amazing story, wish them all the best!!
First of all, his adoptive mother is SO amazing to have raised him the way she did!!! That is the PERFECT manner in which to raise an adoptive child! He never had to feel unwanted or stigmatized! His adoptive mother unconditionally loves him and put HIS needs ahead of her own! KUDOS MUM! Secondly tho...is anyone else not understanding the body language in the final picture of him with his biological sisters??? He has an arm around each of them and his body language is saying that he is TOTALLY open to them. Conversely, the sisters' body language is SO closed off!! Neither has their arm around him! Also, the girl on the left has her arms CROSSED! That is body language for, I am TOTALLY shutting you out! The girl on the right isnt as bad, but her body language is definitely NOT saying she is open to her brother. ???? Wonder what thats about???
It can take time for reality to hit. It took a little for my bio brother and I to get along. I have a total of 5 bio siblings. 4 of which I didn't grow up with and was super awkward first meeting them.
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Did you really mean it like you typed it? Because it doesn't make much sense.
Load More Replies... Good for him! I guess he was lucky to have a supporting adoptive mother who told him good things about her mother, and I'm glad he could find her and his family :)
His mom - his birth mother is not his mom, and it sounds like she understands that - was a smart lady. My younger siblings are both adopted. This was NEVER a secret. They're healthier because of it.
Load More Replies... I never cry when reading an article (well almost never) BUT reading this I had tears in my eyes ... It made me happy ! I think its amazing that his biological parents are stil together , thats not something you hear very often :)
This is amazing and so happy for this family. I was just reunited with a daughter that was placed for adoption. There is no script to follow and all you can do is hope that it turns out to be a happy experience. While me and my daughter to continue to bond both my daughters have bonded as if they grew up together and have never spent a day apart.
I searched for but was only able to find my son when he was 27 years old. It was the days before the internet and my search consisted of years of going to libraries and looking for his mother's maiden name in telephone books. This was in the NY metropolitan area so there were a LOT of them. It wasn't until my sister was dating a cop who had access to computerized data that I was able to find them. He was at first what I call 'appropriately angry' but once he got to know me we've become distant friends. Thanks to a great mom and dad he turned out to be an excellent human being. He's a screenwriter and award-winning playwright who used to write for 'Mad Men'.
This is also the story of an amazing adoptive mother who loved her son enough to give him his biological family.
I'm happy this worked out for him in a positive way. My brother is adopted (internationally) and I have always told him that I'd support his efforts if he chose to find his birth mother. I also have 4 adopted cousins, also international. One found her bio mother, it was not the happy story this article shows unfortunately.
What a heartwarming story!! I just wish I knew why birth mom gave him away in the first place? Teenage Pregnancy? Pastor dad?
It says in the text that she couldn't give him the life she wished for him "due to her age and circumstances" so that would suggest teenage pregnancy.
Load More Replies... Happy for them, but that whole thing seems so weird. How can you possibly give away your child "in hopes of the better life for them"? Is there some kind of guarantee they will get it? I thought rejected kids go to an orphanage(or whatever the proper word for it is in English) and here I hear so many horror stories about those, about kids being molested and abused and exploited and whatnot, and it's far not every kid that gets adopted at all, and even if they do, not everyone gets so lucky with their new family...is it that much better there for her to do it without a doubt or is there some kind of program in place for a kid to go to a nice rich caring foster family skipping the orphanage stage completely? Genuine curiosity, not trying to be judgemental here.
There is a long waiting list for people wanting to adopt newborn Caucasian infants. It's an expensive and time-consuming process (and the adoptive parents are scrutinized heavily with background checks, fingerprinting, etc) so it's pretty much a given that the adoptive family will be reasonably well-off (but not necessarily wealthy). Adoption of older children, children of color, children with physical or mental impairments, or those already in foster care process faster. And some kids stay in the system until they're 18.
Load More Replies... I don't understand how these foster kids end up searching for their real mom and dad when they didn't want them in the first place. The face of that foster parents will be a big blank, now.. innit?
Heartwarming - the dream of so many adoptees. Wish all birth families could turn out to be so wonderful, but there are lots of reasons for adoption. Though I'll help search if asked, I pray the children I adopted as toddlers never look for the parents whose abuse and neglect nearly killed them.
I also have found my birth family...this year, and I am now 49. I was told that my teenage, unwed birth mother was controlled by my grandfather. They had always worried how I was treated; my birth father said that he would have never been able to send me to college. I have a brother and a sister, lots of aunts and uncles, and tons pf cousins. They welcomed in myself and my youngest daughter. Now I have two whole families! -Rev. Dr. M.
Good for him! I had no luck when I tried to meet/contact my dad tho :( Im 37yo and never meet him, but knew him by name and my mom sometimes when I asked, told me of him. She was the best person ever in my life, never talked bad about him for leaving us, she passe away (5 years ago) I decided to look for him, just out of curiosity, 3 years ago, via FB and the name I remembered my mom told me. Turns out, I have 4 more brothers and sisters, and what a surprise when I contacted them thru facebook. There were ups and downs, and they did not believed me. Even asking for a dna sample. I was living in Venezuela those days, and my dad is from NY. I sent the dna sample and it was positive, confirming the aforementioned and then........ They all blocked me out. Facebook, twitter, phone... everyhing. I dont even know if they even told him that I was trying to get in touch with him. They might have think I was fishing for money or God knows what. I just decided to move on and here I am.
Finally a positive story about a Florida man that doesn't leave me bewildered and shaking my head.
Justin is so blessed. I, too found my biological family. I wish that it had turned out like this, though, I always remember that, I really searched because I just wanted to know who I looked like. I did become part of the biological family for a time, but after the passing of my biological grandmother, it became clear that it was a very uncomfortable situation. I am grateful that I know where I came from, and for me, that's the biggest blessing.
This is so amazing. I pray they find all the happiness in this world
Very emotional stuff and I am really happy it went so well! I read with tears and I wish more such wonderful reuinions happen. Amazing story, wish them all the best!!
First of all, his adoptive mother is SO amazing to have raised him the way she did!!! That is the PERFECT manner in which to raise an adoptive child! He never had to feel unwanted or stigmatized! His adoptive mother unconditionally loves him and put HIS needs ahead of her own! KUDOS MUM! Secondly tho...is anyone else not understanding the body language in the final picture of him with his biological sisters??? He has an arm around each of them and his body language is saying that he is TOTALLY open to them. Conversely, the sisters' body language is SO closed off!! Neither has their arm around him! Also, the girl on the left has her arms CROSSED! That is body language for, I am TOTALLY shutting you out! The girl on the right isnt as bad, but her body language is definitely NOT saying she is open to her brother. ???? Wonder what thats about???
It can take time for reality to hit. It took a little for my bio brother and I to get along. I have a total of 5 bio siblings. 4 of which I didn't grow up with and was super awkward first meeting them.
Load More Replies... Did you really mean it like you typed it? Because it doesn't make much sense.
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