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Netizens Are Annoyed That People Won’t Stop Romanticizing These 32 Genuinely Horrible Things
We, people, are interesting creatures. Or maybe complicated and messy would be better descriptive words. But why are we throwing such words around, you might wonder?
Well, today we're going to talk about the things people tend to romanticize that are actually pretty horrible, which is a complicated matter, isn't it? And so, the words fit the theme very well. So, now it's up to you to go through today's list and decide whether the mentioned things fit the theme too.
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#1
Those “little kid raised $25,000 for his mom’s cancer treatment” stories.
We (the U.S.) should have universal healthcare. We are the richest country on the planet. We shouldn’t be go fund me’ing our health.
We send our tax dollars to Israel regularly and they have free healthcare.
Ellinor she/they/elle 4 months ago
"Look how this 7 years old boy spent his whole night making lunch for his poor classmates instead of sleeping, isn't it heartwarming ?" Uhm no it's actually pretty horrifying. Same goes for all the "Look at this 11 years old hero who was sh0t protecting her classmates" articles.
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#2
Romeo and Juliet... It's a tragedy not a romance. .
Uncle Panda 4 months ago
Virtually all of Shakespeare's classic characters would be felons today.
#3
Childbirth and having a baby- I say this as a mom. It’s portrayed as being hard to give birth but afterwards everything being perfect. No it is a hard time for a lot of people.
Throughout our lives, many of us strive to have as perfect a life as possible. Yet, the harsh reality is that an absolutely perfect life does not exist.
Of course, a lot depends on what you consider to be a so-called perfect life. For some, it’s having unlimited funds; for others, it’s having a great career, a happy family, or anything else. Just as there are many people in the world, there are just as many ideas about what is an ideal life.
#4
The song, "Every step you take," by Sting. I've heard it played at weddings. It's a stalker song.
#5
Growing up poor. People act like it was an enriching experience that they chose to partake in. It certainly can build character but I wouldnt intentionally have been born on the struggle train and I dont look fondly back on those days.
Ellinor she/they/elle 4 months ago
100% of my current problems could be solved with money and I'm not joking.
#6
Living in New York City. Everyone thinks it's going to be like S*x and the City or Friends - glamorous brunches, cute apartments, spontaneous adventures.
Reality: You're paying $3,000 for a shoebox where you can touch all four walls while lying in bed, your "cute neighborhood coffee shop" charges $8 for a latte, and that "romantic subway ride" involves being pressed against a stranger's armpit while someone plays saxophone badly at 7am.
But hey, at least the rats are confident!
While it’s completely possible for many folks to achieve something similar to the best version of their life, it’s impossible for it to be without struggles of some kind. Life just doesn’t work in such an ideal way – there is always something that throws you off your ideal path.
Life is full of quirks, imperfections, and just overall unfortunate things that make it impossible for it to be picture perfect. All of that is caused by the various shortcomings that every person tends to have.
We won’t be going over the whole possible list of what kind of quirks people can have, as it’s literally a never-ending one, so instead, today we’re going to focus on one specific flaw: a tendency to romanticize things.
#7
S*x on the beach, or any place sandy for that matter.
#8
Those fifty shades of grey movies , if that guy was just any Joe Shmoe that story wouldn’t be so romantic and s**y , it would be creepy but you know cause he’s rich it’s okay 😂.
Bored Trash Panda 4 months ago (edited)
Those books/movies give the B**M community a bad rap. I have friends in the community that say so much of it is incorrect.
Why is that such a bad thing, you might wonder? Well, it isn’t all the time. Sometimes, it’s not so bad – it gives people hope when they desperately need it, and it makes life a little easier, and a little more fun, and things like that.
At the same time, in other cases, it can be quite detrimental. Especially when it comes to people romanticizing things that shouldn’t be romanticized. This list is full of examples of such things – from workaholism to lovebombing to jealousy, just to mention a few.
Out of all of these examples given here today, we want to briefly focus on one of them – the romanticization of mental health struggles.
#10
Being a workaholic and perfectionist.
#11
War.
Ellinor she/they/elle 4 months ago
Once a guy asked me which side I was for in the Israelian/Palestinian war and he was actually shocked when I answered that, to me, dirigeants sending other people to fight and d!ie for them was wrong in any time and place of History.
#12
‘Bad boys’.
Some of you might think: how can someone romanticize such a horrible thing? After all, mental illnesses and all things related ruin people’s lives or, at the very minimum, make them 100 times harder than they should be. So how can someone look at that through rose-colored glasses? Well, some do.
Let’s take ADHD as an example. From time to time, this disorder is represented as some kind of “superpower.” This presents it as something that people should wish to have, as ADHDers are presented as more energetic, enthusiastic, and creative than common folks.
While it’s possible for a person with ADHD to have these traits, what should be noted is that it also comes with other things that aren’t so admirable. These mentioned traits can even take on a form that isn’t liked by others.
#13
Running a pub. It's really hard work, long hours, finding a great team you can trust, managing drunk customers, being on call all the time, it can quickly wear a person down.
#14
Being a nun!
It's presented in such an idyllic way in brochures, but the reality is that idealistic sweet young women go into the convent and get exploited & mistreated. They work rigorously for extreme hours and no pay; and because they're not "employees" then there's no OSHA or standards. Every aspect of their lives are controlled, sometimes including superiors reading their mail and censoring it / forcing them to rewrite outgoing letters that reveal a*****e conditions.
Check out the recent memoir "Cloistered" for an accurate account of a woman entering and slowly becoming disillusioned. .
Alexia 4 months ago (edited)
It's pretty similar in Eastern Orthodoxy. During my mid 20s I went through a difficult time and often spent short vacations in an Orthodox monastery for nuns. Far from the idyllic life I had expected (with prayers and religious songs), those women worked up to 12 hours per day (difficult, exhausting physical work). Additionally, they had to participate in church service daily, and also to keep their personal prayer schedule.The monastery was located in a splendid mountain area; but one of the nuns told me bitterly that they never had the time to admire that beauty. The rules were very restrictive and the nuns usually didn't mix up with the pilgrims; I was exempted because I came there often and they knew me as "trustworthy".
#15
Working in a bookshop.. it’s just like any other retail job. Boring, bad for your back and the customers are still annoying as fuuuuck.
For example, in reality, their energy levels can be rather irregular – one moment, a person can be full of energy and ready to take over the world, and then at another moment, they can’t lift a finger, as all their energy is gone. It also can manifest with things like impulsive decisions, daydreaming, or making careless mistakes and unnecessary risks, among many other things.
Basically, while ADHD can bring some traits into a person’s life that make it seem like it’s a superpower, it brings just as many things that make life way harder than it should be. And this fact isn’t limited to ADHD; the same applies to other mental disorders as well.
What other horrible things have you noticed that people romanticize? Share it with us in the comments! And don’t forget to upvote the ones already mentioned on the list!
#16
Being a small business owner.
Mel in Georgia 4 months ago
It takes over your entire life and you're lucky if it makes you a decent living!
#17
Casual heavy alcohol consumption.
Ellinor she/they/elle 4 months ago
I hate than whenever I have a friendly gathering there is nothing I can drink beside tap-water. And yes I know that I can bring my own drink, but it's still sad to see that alcohol is so normalized.
#18
Living in “a quiet little town/village where everyone knows each other”.
Sure, some people prefer city living and some countryside. But the latter can be boring, claustrophobic, and full of judgy locals.
Huddo's sister 4 months ago
I live in the town where the recent murder trial of Erin Patterson (mushroom m******r) occurred. A recent facebook post reminded me that the press called it 'a small, sleepy town', not mentioning all the crime- particularly knife fights and break ins- and d**g abuse that occurs weekly.
#19
ADHD
It's not only the quirky bit.
Actually it is mostly self doubt, low self esteem, near instant forgetfulness, rsd, time blindness, audio processing issues and so on and so on.
Oh yeah, ADHD tax!
Forgot about that one, sigh.
Edit: thank you all for the conversation, up votes and award.
Lukas (he/him, it/its) 4 months ago
ADHD is seriously the worst. I'm unmedicated and struggling so f*****g hard right now. I'm just spiraling downwards and things keep getting worse and worse. But yeah. It's fun.
#20
Jealous partners. i get that some kind of jealousy is normal, but sometimes people isolate themselves for their partner because they suspect cheating everywhere and once they break up they wonder where their friends are. as a friend it feels like you didn‘t mean anything to them.
also, most of the time a partner who suspects cheating everywhere is the one actually cheating. people tend to think everyone is like them, therefore they think their partner is likely to cheat, too.
#21
Pregnancy.
Beak Hookage 4 months ago
Sister did it more than once and definitely did not seem to be having a nice time.
#22
Showering together.
MagicJacket 4 months ago
It's fine and lovely if the shower is big enough. It can be romantic for a quickie if that is what you want, and you are right there to clean up after.
#23
‘Fixing’ others. A one-way ticket to co-dependency and habituation of identity-loss.
Alexia 4 months ago (edited)
Took me years to understand that - regardless of how hard I try or how much I want it - I was not able to "fix" or "save" anyone. Not my toxic parents, not my rude, entitled brother, not my so-called friends (who only showed up when they needed something from me). Well - better later than never I guess.
#24
Isolation. It’s not cute to keep your partner from their immediate family.
#25
Being stalked – can be scary at times.
Ace 4 months ago
I think making movies about it pretty much defines "romanticising".
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WalterWhiteSavannah 4 months ago
I had a stalker who lived in the apartment next door to mine. It got so bad I was seriously considering calling the police about it, but I also realized that they probly wouldn't do s**t since I'm a fairly muscular dude and she was a 4'10" obese girl. I literally couldn't come or go without her following me around and trying to invite herself in. Every single day. Multiple times per day. For nearly two years. It was hell.
#29
Living to work.
SchadenFreudian Psychology 4 months ago (edited)
Those suck-ups are the reason working is so stressful and why corporations get away with all kinds of sh1t. General strike now!
#30
Possessiveness.
Michael Largey 4 months ago
At first it's flattering to be on the receiving end of possessiveness. But somehow whatever benefits you expect never arrive.
#31
Lying in a field of tall grass out in the middle of nowhere.
Uncle Panda 4 months ago
Were you *not* expecting to share the space with all the critters that live there?
#32
The relationship between The Joker and Harley Quinn.
Ellinor she/they/elle 4 months ago
Her relationship with Poison Ivy in the "Harley Quinn" cartoon serie is much more wholesome.
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