Woman Abandons Family After Husband Gets Paralyzed, And The Way Their Little Girl Started Taking Care Of Him Is Incredible
When tragedy strikes, family members need to stick together. But after Tian Haicheng from China got paralyzed in a car crash, his wife of 7 years abandoned him. Luckily, not everyone turned from him.
According to Chinese media, Tian was left paralyzed from the chest down after a taxi he took crashed into a ditch in March 2016. His wife left just two months later, taking their eldest on with her. “She told me on the day that she was going to stay in her mother’s home for a few days. But she never returned, and she took our son with her,” Tian said. Only his little girl, Jia Jia, stayed with him. And she’s been taking complete care of him ever since.
Jia Jia gets up every day at 6 am and massages her father’s muscles for half an hour. Before the little caretaker goes to school, she also brushes his teeth and washes his face.
While she’s out studying, her elderly grandparents, both farmers, look after her father. After she comes back, Jia Jia feeds her single parent his dinner and helps him move around the house using a DIY mobility device.
Jia Jia even shaves her father’s beard. “At the beginning, I didn’t know how to shave, and I cut dad’s face, and it bled,” she said. “But dad said it wasn’t painful. Now, I’m very good at shaving his beard. My grandmother says I shave it very clean.”
When asked about her mother, Jia Jia said she doesn’t miss her at all because “she doesn’t look after dad.” She misses her older brother, though. “I used to be very close to him.”
To document his daughter’s selfless work, the family man has set up an account on China’s live-streaming app Kuaishou. As of this article, as many as 480,000 people are following their daily struggles.
(h/t metro)
6-year-old Jia Jia has been helping her father to get about his daily life for 2 years now
He was paralyzed in a car accident in 2016, and she helps him move around the house using a DIY mobility device
Tian was left paralyzed from the chest down after a taxi he took crashed into a ditch in March 2016
Just two months later, his wife of 7 years left him, taking their eldest son with her
When asked if she missed her mother, Jia Jia said no. “She doesn’t look after dad. But I miss my brother. I used to be very close to him”
Jia Jia even shaves her father, “At the beginning, I didn’t know how to [do it] and I cut dad’s face and it bled”
“Now, I’m very good at shaving his beard. My grandmother says I shave it very clean”
Jia Jia gets up at every day at 6am and massages her father’s muscles for half an hour
Before she goes to school, the little girl also brushes his teeth and washes his face
She leaves her father only to go to school and while she’s there, her elderly grandparents look after her father
People were heartbroken to hear the story
And taking the older son with her... I hope when her time comes, the son will turn his back on her just as she did on her husband and little girl.
Load More Replies...Is there a crowdfunding campaign for the little family? I'd gladly donate for them.
That's just unbelievably beautiful and tragic in equal measure. Good luck to both of them and a big f**k you to the mother
As someone who lives in China I'm sure the grandparents live either with them or very close by. Grandparents in China are more actively involved in their grandkids upbringing and are in much better shape. The article stated that she does this before school. That's just her part, admirable though it still is.
She shouldn't have to care for him at all. China is supposed to have a good health care system. So why isn't a nurse coming in to help the father instead of expecting the little girl to do it.
Load More Replies...And yet here in America, kids are whining about not having the latest iPhone.
I know an American girl who has been looking after her veteran (quad) father without help since she was 13. She also has a part-time job and does home school. I'm not American. but I'm pretty sure this goes on all the time because of your health care system.
Load More Replies...I don’t know much about China, I’m sure if you’re not well off you won’t have support like in Canada or Europe for free. It’s sad the mom left...maybe she had no choice with no income to feed the whole family....who knows the whole story. The little girl is an angel though, I hope they find some help.
In China,everyone fends for themselves, which is the case with the mother leaving. It is true neither you or I know the whole story , but speaking from many previous incident ,it is not unusual for the wife to leave, No money no honey bro.
Load More Replies...i kinda get having hard time to deal with spouse's sudden disability, but separating siblings is just next level assholery, plus kids should be kids, what she's dealing with must be hard even for adults
Doesn't excuse up. and *leaving* him, though, just lying to him and disappearing. That is the shittiest response any spouse could've had, aside from straight up murder.
Load More Replies...What mother would prefer one child over another?? A s****y one, I'd say! Leaving a disabled husband is horribly unfair in itself but leaving a lil kid to look after him in her stead... is a next-level assholery :(
She may have wanted to take both and the girl refused to leave her father or she may have just taken the son because he wanted to be out of there because he was unable to handle seeing his father like that. You don't know the whole story, so maybe refrain from calling people a******s.
Load More Replies...Poor little one, she has to be an adult before her time, I hope they will get help, it's so much for a small one like Jia Jia ! She's courageous, but she should have help !
Where do i hire someone to go and take care of her dad? How can i get in contact? Poor girl.
this is adorable yet heartbreaking I looked after my disabled son and it was hard but for a 6 year old she needs a medal or something great
That little girl shows that anyone can do anything. Her mom wasn't that smart to leave such a kind and loving girl, and I think Jia Jia will have a great future having kids and getting love.
I can relate to this story very much. I was diagnosed with a degenerative disease. my now ex husband handled the early years okay but when it started messing with my mobility he didn't do so well. I can't say he left as I was the one that couldn't take his attitude and left. however, my grandson was with me and he has taken care of me very well. I should also note he is autistic and sometimes he worries too much about me. I appreciate him so much and I let him know how much I do and how much I love him for all he does for me. this man is so lucky to have such a devoted daughter.
Omg this is so heartbreaking....My prayers go out to this young girl and her father 🙏
I'm curious as to how much the father is able to do for himself; if he's paralyzed from the chest down I would have thought he'd be able to shave himself and feed himself
Watch his arms on the video, he doesn't have the strength or mobility to do those things.
Load More Replies...All those people asking about nurses.. it's China.. You have your family or you have nothing. He has a lot (wheel chair, electric one too, motorized lift) so he has a pretty decent life, compared to a lot of others there.
China has their own Social Security Disability which includes funds to cover medical necessities like nursing care. The Government won't give you the benefits if there is an able bodied person at home that can do it. That's why early on, I was wondering if she left so he would get more benefits and help than she could provide. Like how some married couples in the USA get divorced if one spouse is diagnosed with cancer so that the patient can go on government medical to have their illness treated without causing the couple to go bankrupt.
Load More Replies...I don't even have words. I can't wrap my head around how someone could do that to someone they supposedly love. I have a significant other and children and I could never do that to him. I have never wanted to track down someone so bad just to punch them in the face. She has a special place in Hell waiting for her.
Never say never. I took care of a dying mother-in-law and raised an autistic son that became violent in his teens. I was pushed to the point of saying "screw it" and leaving. Taking care of someone else with such extreme conditions is both emotionally and physically draining. Not everyone can handle it. I barely did.
Load More Replies...6 years old...she can barely take care of herself. God Bless her heart. I want to cry. She has no time for play and experience childhood. She has a very selfish mother. Hoping her brother will come back to rescue both his dad and sister.
Selfish? What part of that story said she was selfish? Did she leave because of being self centered..or was it that the son asked her to get him out of there? Did she try to take the girl too and she refused to leave her father? What was the husband like before the accident? Was he abusive with his wife? If that's the case, don't you think she would have taken this accident as an opportunity to leave him? There's a whole bunch of 'what-ifs' in this story. And since we don't know the answers, maybe we shouldn't call people selfish.
Load More Replies...This is both amazing and terrible. That little girl is amazing. I hope her mother sees the posts about her. How incredibly terrible and selfish do you have to be to not only leave your husband you pledged to love through sickness and health but also your baby girl. How anyone could ever leave their child I don't know that I could ever understand.
You don't have enough information to call her selfish. You have no idea what he was like before the accident..he could have been an abusive controlling a*****e. The son may have asked to leave, but the girl refused to go too. She may have begged him to move in with family so she could have some help, but he refused..expecting her to handle it all on her own. You don't know the situation.....
Load More Replies...What person in their right mind leaves such a tiny child to take care of a handicapped adult? She should go to court.
A person that may have tried to get the girl to leave but she refused to leave her Dad alone. A woman whose son may have asked her to get him out of there. A woman who may have tried to convince her husband to go live with her parents, but her refused. You don't know the situation. Yes, they should go to court..to find out why there is not a qualified nurse to take care of the father in the morning instead of placing the burden on a child.
Load More Replies...The sad part is is that she has to take care of him in the first place, it’s heartbreaking. This little girl can’t do everything, but she does. She has her own responsibilities at school, but she is an angel and a saint and looks after her father. She will grow up to be very kind and I hope successful, and the mother an a*****e and hopefully will die alone and the son hopefully will be a good person, and I really hope the father could maybe be able to move again? Is that possible? I hope. Go all Dr Stramge on them man
Is the mother and a*****e? You don't know that for sure on the little amount of information given. She may have begged him to move into her parents house so she could get help taking care of him and he refused. She may have tried to take the girl out of the situation too, but she refused to leave. And what was the husband like before the accident? Was he and abusive person? Maybe she saw this as her opportunity to get away from him. I think it's too early and that there is too little information to start calling someone an a*****e.
Load More Replies...Most probably because boys are held in higher regards... In many cultures girls/women are expected to be the nurturers and look after sick family members rather than build a life of their own. Plus children are expected to look after their parents when they get older, instead of chucking them into the nearest care home. That being said, that "mother" is an absolute witch.
Load More Replies...Heart wrenching. Her mother is obviously a soul less, heartless selfish b***h. AND, she takes the older brother with her too!! I am seething. WTF is wrong with people?!
And taking the older son with her... I hope when her time comes, the son will turn his back on her just as she did on her husband and little girl.
Load More Replies...Is there a crowdfunding campaign for the little family? I'd gladly donate for them.
That's just unbelievably beautiful and tragic in equal measure. Good luck to both of them and a big f**k you to the mother
As someone who lives in China I'm sure the grandparents live either with them or very close by. Grandparents in China are more actively involved in their grandkids upbringing and are in much better shape. The article stated that she does this before school. That's just her part, admirable though it still is.
She shouldn't have to care for him at all. China is supposed to have a good health care system. So why isn't a nurse coming in to help the father instead of expecting the little girl to do it.
Load More Replies...And yet here in America, kids are whining about not having the latest iPhone.
I know an American girl who has been looking after her veteran (quad) father without help since she was 13. She also has a part-time job and does home school. I'm not American. but I'm pretty sure this goes on all the time because of your health care system.
Load More Replies...I don’t know much about China, I’m sure if you’re not well off you won’t have support like in Canada or Europe for free. It’s sad the mom left...maybe she had no choice with no income to feed the whole family....who knows the whole story. The little girl is an angel though, I hope they find some help.
In China,everyone fends for themselves, which is the case with the mother leaving. It is true neither you or I know the whole story , but speaking from many previous incident ,it is not unusual for the wife to leave, No money no honey bro.
Load More Replies...i kinda get having hard time to deal with spouse's sudden disability, but separating siblings is just next level assholery, plus kids should be kids, what she's dealing with must be hard even for adults
Doesn't excuse up. and *leaving* him, though, just lying to him and disappearing. That is the shittiest response any spouse could've had, aside from straight up murder.
Load More Replies...What mother would prefer one child over another?? A s****y one, I'd say! Leaving a disabled husband is horribly unfair in itself but leaving a lil kid to look after him in her stead... is a next-level assholery :(
She may have wanted to take both and the girl refused to leave her father or she may have just taken the son because he wanted to be out of there because he was unable to handle seeing his father like that. You don't know the whole story, so maybe refrain from calling people a******s.
Load More Replies...Poor little one, she has to be an adult before her time, I hope they will get help, it's so much for a small one like Jia Jia ! She's courageous, but she should have help !
Where do i hire someone to go and take care of her dad? How can i get in contact? Poor girl.
this is adorable yet heartbreaking I looked after my disabled son and it was hard but for a 6 year old she needs a medal or something great
That little girl shows that anyone can do anything. Her mom wasn't that smart to leave such a kind and loving girl, and I think Jia Jia will have a great future having kids and getting love.
I can relate to this story very much. I was diagnosed with a degenerative disease. my now ex husband handled the early years okay but when it started messing with my mobility he didn't do so well. I can't say he left as I was the one that couldn't take his attitude and left. however, my grandson was with me and he has taken care of me very well. I should also note he is autistic and sometimes he worries too much about me. I appreciate him so much and I let him know how much I do and how much I love him for all he does for me. this man is so lucky to have such a devoted daughter.
Omg this is so heartbreaking....My prayers go out to this young girl and her father 🙏
I'm curious as to how much the father is able to do for himself; if he's paralyzed from the chest down I would have thought he'd be able to shave himself and feed himself
Watch his arms on the video, he doesn't have the strength or mobility to do those things.
Load More Replies...All those people asking about nurses.. it's China.. You have your family or you have nothing. He has a lot (wheel chair, electric one too, motorized lift) so he has a pretty decent life, compared to a lot of others there.
China has their own Social Security Disability which includes funds to cover medical necessities like nursing care. The Government won't give you the benefits if there is an able bodied person at home that can do it. That's why early on, I was wondering if she left so he would get more benefits and help than she could provide. Like how some married couples in the USA get divorced if one spouse is diagnosed with cancer so that the patient can go on government medical to have their illness treated without causing the couple to go bankrupt.
Load More Replies...I don't even have words. I can't wrap my head around how someone could do that to someone they supposedly love. I have a significant other and children and I could never do that to him. I have never wanted to track down someone so bad just to punch them in the face. She has a special place in Hell waiting for her.
Never say never. I took care of a dying mother-in-law and raised an autistic son that became violent in his teens. I was pushed to the point of saying "screw it" and leaving. Taking care of someone else with such extreme conditions is both emotionally and physically draining. Not everyone can handle it. I barely did.
Load More Replies...6 years old...she can barely take care of herself. God Bless her heart. I want to cry. She has no time for play and experience childhood. She has a very selfish mother. Hoping her brother will come back to rescue both his dad and sister.
Selfish? What part of that story said she was selfish? Did she leave because of being self centered..or was it that the son asked her to get him out of there? Did she try to take the girl too and she refused to leave her father? What was the husband like before the accident? Was he abusive with his wife? If that's the case, don't you think she would have taken this accident as an opportunity to leave him? There's a whole bunch of 'what-ifs' in this story. And since we don't know the answers, maybe we shouldn't call people selfish.
Load More Replies...This is both amazing and terrible. That little girl is amazing. I hope her mother sees the posts about her. How incredibly terrible and selfish do you have to be to not only leave your husband you pledged to love through sickness and health but also your baby girl. How anyone could ever leave their child I don't know that I could ever understand.
You don't have enough information to call her selfish. You have no idea what he was like before the accident..he could have been an abusive controlling a*****e. The son may have asked to leave, but the girl refused to go too. She may have begged him to move in with family so she could have some help, but he refused..expecting her to handle it all on her own. You don't know the situation.....
Load More Replies...What person in their right mind leaves such a tiny child to take care of a handicapped adult? She should go to court.
A person that may have tried to get the girl to leave but she refused to leave her Dad alone. A woman whose son may have asked her to get him out of there. A woman who may have tried to convince her husband to go live with her parents, but her refused. You don't know the situation. Yes, they should go to court..to find out why there is not a qualified nurse to take care of the father in the morning instead of placing the burden on a child.
Load More Replies...The sad part is is that she has to take care of him in the first place, it’s heartbreaking. This little girl can’t do everything, but she does. She has her own responsibilities at school, but she is an angel and a saint and looks after her father. She will grow up to be very kind and I hope successful, and the mother an a*****e and hopefully will die alone and the son hopefully will be a good person, and I really hope the father could maybe be able to move again? Is that possible? I hope. Go all Dr Stramge on them man
Is the mother and a*****e? You don't know that for sure on the little amount of information given. She may have begged him to move into her parents house so she could get help taking care of him and he refused. She may have tried to take the girl out of the situation too, but she refused to leave. And what was the husband like before the accident? Was he and abusive person? Maybe she saw this as her opportunity to get away from him. I think it's too early and that there is too little information to start calling someone an a*****e.
Load More Replies...Most probably because boys are held in higher regards... In many cultures girls/women are expected to be the nurturers and look after sick family members rather than build a life of their own. Plus children are expected to look after their parents when they get older, instead of chucking them into the nearest care home. That being said, that "mother" is an absolute witch.
Load More Replies...Heart wrenching. Her mother is obviously a soul less, heartless selfish b***h. AND, she takes the older brother with her too!! I am seething. WTF is wrong with people?!
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