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Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

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Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, that was inconsiderate of the guest. You really don't need to take a photo of everything to be deleted later on anyway.

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Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

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4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

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Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.

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Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a great example of "champagne tastes on a beer budget".

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RaroaRaroa
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people should just appreciate what their guests have all ready paid to make it. Possibly accomodation, new clothes, taxis and/or flights, maybe even paying to put the dogs in the kennels, or mind the kids, while they go away. On top of all that, I think a $100 gift is plenty. Many of your wedding guests will have paid out way more than the price of food and drinks just to get there. To celebrate with you - not set you up financially for life.

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jamie1707
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

and if they determined that your gift is worth under $250, what do they do? Shame you in front of everyone then ask you to leave? You are a classy guy, Mike.

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Rose the Cook
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is not only the price, "a gift for either me or Christian", wedding gifts used to be items for the couple's joint use not for one or the other.

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MellonCollie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WHAT??? Anyone ever been to a Dutch wedding, where you'd get €20 from your aunties?

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Colin L
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The use of "gift" is used loosely... "fee" may be more appropriate.

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Full of Giggles
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What shocks me is that neither the bride nor the groom made the effort to personally or properly invite this person. Mike was suppose to tell them. But the snobette had no problem texting this person directly to inform them there was a mandatory and ridiculously high price value minimum on the wedding gift.

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abby smink
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sooooooooooo much people have confirmed?? There's actually people who would agree to such a thing??

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Wolfowl
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Soooooo much people here." That's not correct at all. And at that, capitalize the names.

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Toujin C'Thlu
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That last part sounds almost desperate. Makes me wonder if the other people have cancelled, too.

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Kathryn Baylis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Better be solid gold beer, cocktails, and cake if I have to pay $250 for the privilege of drinking and eating it. If not, you have to know that I will be taking the entire wedding cake home myself, and you can kiss that f****r goodbye.

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cybermerlin2000
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I bet the only people who turned up were the bridal party, the best man and the parents of the bride and groom

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amanda strachan
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was married in 1977. Both my fiance and I were nurses, (extremely hard up), we did everything on the cheap. My dress was beautiful, but gifted. Two bridesmaids wearing designed frocks, made by a local seamstress. A lovely church service, with bells and a small boys choir. We had 70 guests and had a delicious buffet meal in a local pub. We didn't have a present list just requested small gifts as we were moving abroad. It was a lovely wedding. Cheap and cheerful. BUT it didnt leave my parents or us with massive debt. And our hen and stag nights were in the local pubs. Not a four night holiday abroad. Just ridiculous. Like so much of life now, it's all got to be better, more extravagant for social media. Really sad.......

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Paddling Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your wedding sounds absolutely lovely! And I hope you two are still enjoying life together.

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Curry on...
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I could have all that for less than $250 and enjoy it while watching something really cool on Netflix instead of paying to hang out with 'soooo much people' who I probably don't know or like.

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Spring Fisk
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

gifts are voluntary and should be seen as such. Even though it is expected at weddings is is super rude to request gifts and especially over a $ amount.

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Arctic Fox Lover
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This person is like a little kid. Saying "SOOOO MUCH PEOPLE" (which also has improper grammar, lol) and REQUIRING a gift over flippin 250 bucks.

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Sandra Givens
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess we were stupid, because not only did we not check the price tags on gifts, we just wanted our friends and family to celebrate with us, gift or not. Some people brought gifts, some just a card, some just their company. All were welcome. Sheesh. So much greed.

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Lara Harris
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You read this a lot. People setting minimum prices on gifts. How does the happen? Who thinks this is an OK thing to do (specifically at weddings it sums) and why does nobody in their family tell them its not OK?

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Jaybird3939
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is this thing about begging for money? They sound like Miss Lins on Fox state tv.

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Um - for the record: You are NOT OBLIGATED to give a gift at ANY TIME. It's nice if you do, but if it's mandated I'd seriously question wanting a relationship with that person.

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Anna roberts
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If your buying us a gift.....Hard pass on the gift, but I love food and drink..JS

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Lisa Anne
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now, there's a no-fail way to turn friends into ex-friends.

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Lisa Larson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow! Thanks but no thanks for the invitation. I can do a lot of things with $250 other than buy someone a wedding present...

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Lyone Fein
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so incredibly tacky. A wedding is supposed to be a sacred ceremony. It is about taking a new step up in life. Taking on greater responsibilities. You invite people because their presence will help you celebrate and legitimate your choice. When someone attends your wedding, they are already doing you a favor, by helping to make your wedding special.

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Stan Chung
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if you weren't informed... hahahahaha. that is one sure way to let someone know they were last on the list! so no, best way to say no is to save 250$

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elfin
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Clearly money is more important than having friends at your wedding.

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Srene
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn’t sugar-coat it that much - It’s a great example of being low-class and greedy.

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Jo Ellen Washburn
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I wasn't laughing so much, I would be pretty outraged by this. My mama would slap me silly if I turned out this way.

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Michelle C
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Should've been like "well luckily my coupon game is on point, it may be worth $250 but I'm not pay a cent over $30!" or $250 in Dollar Tree items...either way I'd still have fun shopping

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Banjo Peppers
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh well if there’s cake, I’ll spend even more than $250! Oh wait I could buy my own cake for less.

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SandraG_lak
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What I heard a few years ago is that the gift should be about the price of the reception meal. ie: $50/plate then your gift would be minimum $50. I got the sense that their reception is definitely not $250/plate.

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Deidre Snee
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Somebody please give this bride tickets for a ride through a 3rd world country. That should be over $250 to fly her there, transportation, etc. It's the best thing that could ever happen to her.

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Viviane
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh crap, I just blew my last $249.99 on a pair of tickets to a Hootie and the Blowfish tribute band!

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Deb Dedon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, I bet they'll find out just how popular that extortion move will be.

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Shinomi Chan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Above $250??? You want my soul and blood with that too? Or my kidney?

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Jan Smith
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

what is wrong with these people? you don't get to tell others what to spend on you!!!!!

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John Baker
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"We have beer!" I can buy a hell of a lot of beer for $250.

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Mary Dellenbusch
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

F**k them! Seriously! Asking for money?! And sets a limit! Not worth my time or the damn friendship. Materialistic f**k ups!

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M Kate McCulloch
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The invitation is for people to witness the union of a couple - gifts are and always have been and should still be 100% optional, within the givers budget and received with gratitude.

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Annette Rainbow
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This person should not be allowed to reproduce. At the very least go back to school and learn the English language over, eg: "sooooo MUCH people". WOW

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Eulalie Grace
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So - this Mike is the one sending out the wedding invites? To inform people? By IM?

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Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”

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I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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