Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.
And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.
Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.
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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.
Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.
This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.
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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”
Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.
She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.
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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.
Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.
“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.
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Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical
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You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride
A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.
Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price
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Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!
We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money
We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.
I would send a photocopy of a cheque for $1000, saying "As much as I would like to give you this money, sadly, my money is not for everyone. I'll be sure to keep you in my heart while I send it to someone who cares about me enough to want me to share in their life"
Much as I would like to contribute, my wallet cannot accommodate everyone... and please use spell check
I got a very similar card from my cousin. Gave in as the rest of my family decided to chip in. Didn't get a thank you card. Same when they had a baby, though we did get a thank you card just in time to remind us it would be baby's 1st birthday soon.
Miss Manners would say send them money. She says you aren't paying for a seat at the wedding, you are gifting them for the occasion. I don't agree.I think begging for money because you got married is tacky.
Miss Manners would say NO SUCH THING. Have you ever even READ her books? I've read every single one and she *always* says that wedding gifts are optional, you do NOT have to give a gift if you don't want one and the couple should never require or ask people for gifts, money or even put where they are registered on the invitation/announcement.
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In unformal terms: We don't like you, but we're sending a card to ask for money to let us go on a trip for a crappy wedding that you weren't invited to.
Probably THE RUDEST I’ve ever seen a soon-to-be-married couple. I’d have to think on this one, but I’d definitely respond—and it would not be nice! P.S. tell your friends they misspelled “cannot” and “acccommodate” 😂😂😂😂
The money part isn't so unusual or inappropriate in Korea. It's not written within the invitation, of course, but it's culturally implied. So much it's embarrassing not to give any money.
Same in my culture. Until a couple of years ago, they would read out the name of the person and how much money they gave. I always thought it was cringe.
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Ummmm - anyone not attending the wedding or reception is not obligated to give a registry gift, or anything else. To SUGGEST otherwise is just ... We saved all year so we could have a beautiful honeymoon - and we did.
Wow, rude enough to send someone a card telling them they're NOT invited. But then to close it off by asking for money. Just wow.
Sheesh that's what post-wedding Wedding Announcements are for. And you DO NOT put anything about gifts, money or registries on there. If someone wants to give you a gift they will either find out about the registry by asking or will get you the gift of THEIR CHOOSING. You don't get to force people to buy you what you want.
Ugh. Just 🤮. Is this how people want to start off their marriages these days? So tasteless. Lacking in culture and class. Ugh 😑.
Disgusting, gouging, nasty. Please find enclosed $500 in monopoly money. Unfortunately, the bank was too small.
This is cringeworthy but, maybe with some venues limiting numbers due to coronavirus numbers had to be culled? The basic idea would have been nice if they had left the last paragraph out and people who cared enough would have at least sent them a card, possibly with some cash.
People are not rotten, hate is self destructive. So don't think a whole world is bad just because we like to gossip and make a mountain out of a mole hill. Make it a point to make the world a better place by kind deeds and words yourself.
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They obviously care more about money than their marriage so they should have just waited until the restrictions have lifted. Of course, they probably saw the opportunity to get cash from people that they didn't even have to pay for as wedding guests. This is so gross
Wow, how about a promissory note or a Russian bond from the 1998 default?
While reading through the comments 1 at a time, I could feel my blood pressure rising. It rose to the point that I missed some key and my reply was nowhere to be found. So much for that post. If you find it do what you want. It basically said and agreed with something along the lines of, sending them a photo copy of a check for a thousand dollars, but they decided . Look I give up I think you all know what I'm trying to say. Just ignore this, and read something of interest, like how to delete your so called friend/relative and have nothing more to do with them. If you are still reading this you are very nice. I just can't find the words to describe my anger, and I don't know these people.
hahahahaaaa! An announcement should just be an announcement end of story.
Here's 50cents for the stamp you used to mail me this, I hope you enjoy Motel 6 in the shady part of town
no bullshit, my girlfriend just told me about a "friend" of hers on the book of faces that did that for a baby shower. "we can't meet in person, but we're accepting paypal!"
As much as I'd love to give you money, sadly, my money can not be for everyone. I am sure to keep my money in my wallet during your celebration of love.
Sure, here’s my check for $0.60. Don’t spend it all in one place. Aside from the awful/mean/lame joke, it’s up to the recipient to donate to their honeymoon fund if they want to or not. **i think it’s okay to ask for a honeymoon/ home fund in lieu of a registry, especially if it’s people who you are on the same page with and it’s easier. Some couples already have furnishings and whatever usually goes into a registry.
My husband and I got a few presents, from people who weren't invited to our wedding. It was nice, but we never expected it!
I don't like attending events, including weddings so if they send me a marriage announcement I'd probably be cool with buying them a gift. Sending something that has to spell it out so much would probably make me less likely to do so.
Biiiiig oof. The only way I could see this being salvaged is to maybe ask people to donate to a cause that's important to the couple?
SO MANY of my Christian friends did this, even pre-pandemic. "Hey, you're not special enough to actually come, but buy us stuff!" It was gross.
Well they didn't specify WHAT KIND of money so... Yo Monopoly man, gimme a twenty.
Trying to find a reason for this rudeness- maybe COVID Restriction as to numbers meant close family / friends could not attend but they would want to sent a gift.
If there really isn't enough room, uninviting them is a LITTLE understandable. Uninviting them AND asking for money IN THE SAME CARD? Definitely not
ok this could also be because of Covid though in which case i understand
wow, i didn't know this thing auto censors... wussies
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Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?
Wedding Guest Shaming
Yikes Yikes Yikes
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“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”
Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.
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Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time
No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.
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Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”
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My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
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I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
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Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
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The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
Load More Replies... We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
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Some of the women in white strike me as attention-seekers, but I've read articles about some women who made an honest mistake and didn't realize wearing white to a wedding that isn't yours is a faux pas.
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
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I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read
My partner and I are going to wait until it’s safe again to have our wedding. Not sure when that will be but we are 100% certain that we don’t want to risk anyone’s heath..I have no issues with waiting :)
That may have been a hard decision to make, but it was the right one :)
Load More Replies... I got the sudden urge to have a wedding where everyone is in white dresses and I’m dressed in black.. how’s that for a white wedding?
Man, There are a lot of selfish, willfully, ignorant hillbillies getting married who get their health advice from Donald Trump, a guy who isn’t smart enough to take care of a hamster....LOL
Actually, Mama Panda has as a point. Guests wearing wedding dresses, demanding huge gifts, tying puppies to tables and 97% of the rest of this has nothing to do with Trump, just bad taste
Load More Replies... Sometimes I feel a lot of people are putting way too much emphasis on all the external display and rules on how a wedding should be. In the end the only thing that it is all about is love.... Not the amount of people, how big your cake is or your car. It's about the love between 2 people nothing more and certainly nothing less...
Weddings in India can last over a week, and sometimes they invite everyone in town. Not just a US thing
Load More Replies... The marriage matters, not the wedding. IMHO. Weddings are one day. Go say the vows, in a nice outfit, then have lunch, and spare yourselves and the world all the drama.... Did it that way, no regrets!
Why does everyone seem to think that getting married means you can be a diva, the world owes you something, or that you can shake people down for presents?
So many people have lost sight of the fact that it is the marriage, and not the wedding, that is the most important thing here. So, if you were going to have a big wedding that happens to fall during quarantine, go ahead and get married, even if by Zoom. Then later, once the threat has passed, have the ceremony and party. Who cares if it’s not exactly your real wedding day—-it’s still a celebration of your marriage!
That is what my daughter and son-in-law did!
Load More Replies... We have a family in our neighbourhood (18 members) who come to every family wedding with the whole crew, eat graciously and as a wedding gift, give us an envelope full of 10 Rupees ( $0.14 ). I mean if you want to be stingy, just dont give anything, why such meagre sum as if we are broke beyond means?
These posts range from questionable taste on the part of the bride and groom (relatively harmless) through the inconsiderate (restrictive rules and/or demands for expensive gifts) to the truly dangerous. I'd attend the first, reconsider the second and definitely skip the third.
My spouse and I had a nice wedding with good friends and family in attendance. didn't ask for anything - got nice gifts anyway. What people could afford, or not. Didn't care - just wanted everyone who was there to be there. Had an open bar - BIG HIT! Great food, family style. And lots of FUN! We just celebrated 25 years this summer. How long are these lovely ladies (🙄) and that crazy gun-toting maniac and his blushing bride going to be together?
And we wonder what's going wrong in the world. "But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, ..." 2 Timothy chapter 3. Let those who have ears understand.
I have a story! My mothers friend (lets call her Sarah) was planning on getting married to her fiance (James). Now, Sarah has been through her fair share of grief, one instance being that her niece (katie), who she was REALLY close with, had died of cancer earlier that year. To make matters worse, Sarah is a nurse and had been caring for Jane during most of the time Jane was in the hospital. But during Jane's funeral, the song "Ave Maria" played, so Sarah obviously has some bad memories and emotions attached to the song. Now, you must know that the mother of the groom-to-be (MIL for short) is VERY controlling and traditional. So she insisted that "Ave Maria" needs to be played as the bride is walking down the aisle. Sarah was very stern and chose a different song to be played (as she should, because it's her wedding, not MILs). Well MIL literally went out of her way and told the organist to play Ave Maria. The organist obviously refused, so MIL BRIBED THE ORGANIST with hundreds of $...
Easy way to make this appropriate is to have another funeral for MIL after the wedding
Load More Replies... Some of the women in white strike me as attention-seekers, but I've read articles about some women who made an honest mistake and didn't realize wearing white to a wedding that isn't yours is a faux pas.
My fiancé and I are planning our wedding for a year from now, but if it's not save, we'll get married with our parents and a best man/maid of honor and have a party when it's safe.
Good for you, Valarie Anne! That's what my daughter and son-in-law did this past May 15th. Party will be next May!
Load More Replies... I was confused about the negative reaction to most of the posts, then realized i cant read
