Woman Tells Guys Shorter Than 5’7″ To Swipe Left On Tinder, So This Guy Makes Her Regret It
While the modern world is busy breaking down prejudice, stereotypes, and body-shaming at a rapid pace, there are some things that get curiously overlooked, sometimes literally. Short men being one of them.
Can you imagine, for example, you were single and browsing online dating sites for a match. You come across profiles that explicitly state things like: ‘Nobody over 70kg’ or ‘small-breasted women need not apply.’ There would likely be outrage, right? And rightly so. That kind of superficial and demeaning attitude shown by these rude people needs to be confronted in this day and age.
However it’s curiously common, accepted and even encouraged for a woman to state quite openly in her Tinder profile that she would not consider dating a guy that is shorter than her, and many will quite happily post a minimum height limit. Why is this? Fair enough, we all have our preferences, you might say. Which is true. But for this to be such a widespread and openly accepted phenomenon begs the question, what about the short guys?
The guy in this story exposed the stunning hypocrisy that many shorter, single guys face all the time in the Tinder dating world. Yeah, he baited this woman, and she followed his cues and bit. Hard. It does open up the discussion though, and it is perhaps time that more attention was paid to this form of body shaming.
People can lose weight, get botox, hair transplants and all kinds of other methods to hide their insecurities, but 5’3” guy will always be 5’3.”
Scroll down below to check out the savage comeback to such rude statement, and feel free to post your opinion in the comments below.
A guy was browsing Tinder when this woman’s bio caught his eye
He matched with her and started a conversation to find out more
Image credits: janmayeno
The exchange opened up a debate with some commenters sympathizing with the plight of many single, shorter men
While other saw it from a different perspective
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I prefer dark-haired people but if someone approaches me telling that blonds are gross, I'm not going to be agreeing with the person like this woman did. It's quite normal she wanted someone taller than her, but to go to the extent to agree whatever this guy said? That was wrong. (also, the guy did provoke this a little bit)
Exactly... He wanted to draw a reaction out of her, and she took the bait😂😂😂
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i think the point of all this should be, don't be shallow, you don't know the form of your best love.
It's normal to have preferences but love simply doesn't work that way. If I had to describe the physical of the perfect woman to me, she would be a curvy brunet with long hair. The perfect man would be a tall Mediterranean guy (seeking my father may be ;p). And I promised myself never dating a smoker. Well my first true love was a tall androgynous girl with short ginger hair that smoked a lot (3 years together) and my companion is 5.6' and he inherits his chinese mother type (9 years together last week). I've been with people fiting my ideal and it didn't work. I would have miss a lot by sticking to my "ideal" ;p
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Seriously, this is tinder. For me personally, from Berlin, Tinder is for the most people just a machine to get satisfaction and self-affirmation. If someone cares about your height, hair/skin/eye-color just let them down. Love is about finding the right soul and not the right shell.
She was shallow, he entrapped. She bit, he played. Sounds pretty average, just like being a 5'7 female. pfft, inch above 'average' and you tweek out about how 'tall' you are?
5'-7" is pretty average for ladies in Wisconsin. I'm 5'-9" and I don't stand out at all. Most guys are over 5'-7" around here. She's making a big deal out of nothing. It's literally not much of a problem.
Same. I am 5'9 as well and have never had an issue with shorter men. I am not taller than all the men I am around so hardly see men shorter than me.
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I'm 5'8" and my husband is about 4 inches shorter than me. I rock heels when I want and it doesn't bother either of us. I'm also not in my 20's or 30's anymore so I am much more comfortable with myself and much less superficial. To each his own but be kind - everyone has feelings.
one of my college roomies was about 5'2". Her mom was 6'1", her dad was all of 5'. They were madly in love. Seriously. Couldn't keep their hands off of each other :)
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I'm similar to Weerrd. I'm also a "too tall" woman who feels uncomfortable and self conscious around much shorter people in general. I think being a mismatched couple isn't for everybody. Some of us are too insecure for that. But not the woman in the post. From the actual conversation, she's just shallow, yeah. But it's still good that she let it be known right away that she is, so guys can just avoid her instead of wasting their time.
At least you're up front. I had a woman intensely promote a relationship with me for over 6 months (we were separated by distance but had already known each other at a prior workplace). She's 6'1" and paranoid about her height causing being dumped. I'm 5'9" and I have no problem with tall women. She kept telling me I was hot, a "real man" (responsible, employed, owned a house, communicated well, etc). When it came time to finally meet up at her friend's wedding, she suddenly decided it wasn't going to work between us because... reasons. She defended herself by reversing all of her claims about what she valued about me and wanted in a man, and by falling back on how many times men "pulled out on her" due to her height. It hurt like a m**********r to be judged by a paranoid and immature insecure person. Not my issues, but they sure were made out to be. Living through insecurity doesn't just hurt the insecure person. It makes for inconsistent and hurtful behavior that hurts others.
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I think every one has a preference and they are entitled to what they prefer, but wanting to sterilise them or turn them into dogs so they have more use is completely out of order! Calling them gross just on their appearance especially something they have no control over, is unacceptable. People are people, and everyone have a type and a mate or more!
That's why I think sites like this are basically a bad idea. It shouldn't be like ordering a burger delivery from Grubhub: I don't want mayo but I will take extra tomatoes. Oh, and medium well. We all have preferences, sometimes hard preferences. But, listing them all like that comes across as very rude and insensitive. You have to find out about people first; you have to do some work. This young woman comes across as just very immature. She sounds more like 12 than 24. If that's what most people are like in their mid-20's, our country is so doomed.
Agreed. I think preferences are ok but hey shouldn't be an absolute. Particularly preferences based on physical characteristics. If someone is sooo set on a physical characteristic then they are shallow and may someday be challenged. If Miss "no shorties" finds her 6'4" dreamboat and they fall in love and get married and then he gets in an accident and is now in a wheelchair, then what? Almost any physical characteristic can be wiped away due to an unfortunate accident. Does the love stop then? If was based on the physical and that physical not changing, was it love in the first place?
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I agree totally. I was once humiliated when a girl said she wouldn't date me because I was shorter than her and everybody laughed. When I pointed out that I probably shouldn't dater her anyway because she had short hair. She didn't understand even when I pointed out her hypocrisy.after
She's entitled to her opinion, but she's not entitled to say that all short men are the worst, and that she doesn't understand why they exist.
I agree with Weerd. You know what, being attracted to something is one thing--Okay? It's fine, everyone has that thing they're attracted to. However, being a douchebag to those who don't meet those standards is a no. Like, okay--I'm pretty okay with her saying "I'm not attracted to men shorter than me" As long as it's okay to say "I'm not attracted to women taller than me," Or "I'm not attracted to overweight people"
Strictly adhering to an internal narrative of what your partner 'should' be, either in looks or personality will severely limit your choices. It's ok to have preferences, but sometimes they can be really limiting and make you miss out on a good thing. I also used to have a 'type' -- it was thinner, and brooding dark and handsome. Not tall dudes necessarily. I wasn't really into blonde guys or an Eastern European look. I also didn't like muscly or stocky guys-- I thought I liked them lithe. I used to ignore guys like this. Until one of them asked me out; complete opposite to my 'type'. I gave him a chance because he was nice. Suddenly, my 'type' started changing. It was weird. I fell in love, and we're engaged now. Best thing I ever did.
Would it not be better for Tinder to just have a filtering service? When you sign up you would simply enter you details height, weight etc and your preferances how tall or heavy a partner you want and then Tinder just makes your profile invisible to people that don't meet your standards, it would be very simple to inplement and would save everyone from the body polictics of all of this.
You've just described OKCupid. But people don't want to put out the effort to use a proper tool for matching. So they use tinder. Tinder gets popular because most people are lazy. OkCupid gets bought out by competitors and turned into a tinder clone in order to try to hold on to membership. It doesn't work because laziness and participation in fads is more powerful. On top of all this, having all the filtering in the world is just going to end up presenting you with no search results. Especially if everyone on the planet is not on your filter-supporting dating service. The more we filter, the more we wrongly think the perfect mate will appear in a search list.
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I married the man of my dreams (I'm 5.11" and he's 5.7"). While I'm insecure about how tall I am for a woman, I didn't let that get in the way of how amazing HE is. It's my own insecurity to bear. Wouldn't change anything for the world. :)
You may have a "type" but it could be wrong. My "type" was a guy of medium height and weight, blonde hair, blues eyes. And yet the man I married is a 6'4", big guy with brown hair and bright blue eyes. If I had stuck to only dating men of my type, I would've missed out on the love of my life. We've been together 34 yrs. and married for 33. There's a reason they say, "Never trust a book by its cover". It's TRUTH!
Funny, I prefer short men, but I don't find tall ones "gross" or "useless", that's just shallow. Yeah, we all have preferences, but one should be open to new experiences.
I'm all for the don't judge a book by its cover, but there always has to be that first initial attraction, whether it be height, hair, eyes, smile, laugh, and hey, for some, bank account. Security may be important in their lives. Before this bloke started messaging her and reading the replies, I was like, so? It is her prerogative. After, nah, not so much, but still. This has possibly already been said, sorry.
My boyfriends mum is 5'8 and her boyfriend is 5'5 but they don't have a problem. They have this unspoken agreement she can wear heels or boots but as long as they are of reasonable height. Tbf she doesn't really wear heels much purely based on her height alone not the height of her partner but she wears boots a lot.
I guess you can't help who you are or are not attracted to. But maybe not advertise things that the general public won't agree with.
Yeah just don't put people down just because they don't fit your profile of attractiveness.
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Amazes me how some people blame "others being shorter" as the source of their insecurities. Maybe if you started by shutting up about it you'd have less people avoiding you. I know the type, just throws you a "you're short", "I'm taller than the average woman" out of nowhere in the middle of a conversation about hiking in the Grand Canyon. How many times have I seen relationships implode cause the gf could not help but to tease her bf about his height every time there was an audience to hear it. Don't tell me it's a preference. This has been programmed into you. Same programming that makes size not a problem anymore if the bank account has enough figures. We all see those old short farts with money scoring supermodels.
people are welcome to have their preferences it's true, but that isn't the point her the point is this: If you are a guy (maybe a girl I am not sure) and state "Women over 175lbs. swipe left" or "Smaller tahn a D cup? swipe left" people are going to think you are a douche... and you are. You CAN just quietly have your standards of what you find attractive, pick what things are a no go for you (physical or other wise... I won't date a smoker personally) and keep it polite or to yourself. This might have been centered around a woman who doesn't like guys shorter than her, but to me it's more about her additude. Instead of "swipe left if you are under 5'7" " how about "I prefer men that are taller than me" ? Is it all that hard to state a preference in polite way? I have come across profiles like this where they state something in a rude way being negative about what they don't want rather than positive about what they do want... and honestly its a turn off...
You can have preferences for your partner, even on physical looks, and that's ok, but it's not ok to disrespect anyone on basis of physical looks, that's equally bad as racism or nationalism. The fact that she wants taller partner is not an issue that's her right, but "why do short men even exist" is totally NOT ok, if that man tried to message me in same way even if I would like taller guys I would think he is a psycho.
I was never attracted to blond guys. Or, short, or overweight ones, either. What on me all you want. At least I'm honest!
Lesson learned, NEVER talk or text smack unless you know the person won't rat you out. She could have just politely stood by her convictions without being nasty but she didn't and showed what kind of person she really is.
I agree that we all have our preferences. I too think it's better to be upfront about it then wait and disappoint one another at the first meeting. That said, there is no need to be rude about it. Saying something rude like, "No fat chicks or No fat dudes" is just wrong. HWP is just realistic and states what you prefer. I have a friend who is 6'1 and she hates it! She would never even consider a guy shorter than 5'6 because anyone shorter would just makes things awkward for her. She isn't being rude about it. It is just what she wants. Good luck finding a taller guy and yes she is limiting herself to a large group of men, but she is just more comfortable with that decision. I could give tons of other examples but You get my point I hope and even if you don't agree with it, that is ok too. We all need to loosen up a bit here.
It's not wrong or unreasonable that she doesn't like short men, and it's not wrong or unreasonable when men don't like fat women. Nor are these preferences necessarily unnatural phenomena, that could only be explained 'by society making us think we want certain things.' Our attractions are a result of millions of years of evolutionary tendencies, and that's why certain things tend to become the popular choices within societies. Yes, there's some cultural variation but also clearly a pattern of certain tendencies of attraction being likely to recur in many different societies: males being preferred more if they're big and/or strong, females if they have good cleavage, being lean, being curvy but not fat, females having more neotenous faces.
I can kind of understand a woman not wanting to date a much shorter guy. I think it's more to do them feel tall and awkward next to him rather than having a problem with his height personally.
But she doesn't say that. She just criticizes shorter guys. It's silly for her to worry about her height and then criticize guys for being shorter.
Load More Replies... This girl is entitled to her opinion, but not entitled to say that all short men are "the worst", and say she doesn't know why they exist.
I'm 5'8"ish and if I'm taller than my bloke I feel big and unfeminine. I don't choose to feel that way, but that's how I feel. It's horribly unfair but I guess I just like to feel smaller and more feminine than my partner and if I have to stoop to kiss him I just don't feel that way.
As long as you acknowledge that this is because of the attitudes of your culture, then okay. There's nothing wrong with tall women. The problem is the culture that suggests there's something wrong with them.
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What the heck is wrong with a personal preference? Not PC ...? I really do not like PC people, could I fall in love with a PC woman...? You never know and who cares. Nowadays everybody feels so quickly insulted, get a life, a personality and some callous on your soul, grow up
I don't want to date a fat person, nor do I want to date a short guy. People have preferences, other people need to get over it.
I like your comments: I don't want to date. Nor do I want to date. It sounds like a great tongue twister. I am going to start using this rhyming stuff about what I don't want to do. I am sure nobody cares.......maybe they might remember. There I did it again. I love it. Thank-you
Load More Replies... Um.... it wasn't very well expressed, for sure, but I think everyone has a right to be attracted to what they're attracted to - and not attracted to what they're not attracted to. That isn't discrimination!
Is it a bad physical match? I've found walking hand-in-hand with very short petite women takes some adaptation in my own stride and pace. It's a challenge but worth doing. As for sex, so far it hasn't been a problem.
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Everyone here talking about her 5'7" not being that tall. My 20yo 4'8" a*s is googling growth hormone procedures. I wonder if it's too late for such procedures or maybe they're too pricey.... I just wanna be 5'0 T_T
I honestly do not care about height I am taller than most of the guys I've hooked up with. What pisses me off is when a guy matches with me, meets me for a date and gets mad at ME when I'm taller than him. WTF! I didn't lie about my height and I don't care about yours! Why are you mad at ME?!?!
It amazes me how many people have problems with "others being shorter". Like... How about you focus on yourself instead of fabricating insecurities and blaming the world for them? Don't be surprised if people avoid you since you can't shut up about it.
I always accepted myself as being shallow person who pays too much attention to looks. And i have in my mind this image of sort of a perfect woman - around 5'5'', slightly curvy, with small perky breasts and small feet. Over the years i dated women who were taller than me, fat and skinny, one wit HUGE feet, big saggy boobies and extra small ones. And i liked every single one of them. But i agree that it's normal to have preferences. Here's situation. A girl meets a boy. They like each other and after spending some time together he invites her to his place. They start making out. Suddenly boy says: "Before we do it i need to measure and weight you to make sure that you meet my preferences. Oh... Sorry, hon, your hips are one inch too wide for my liking. Get dressed, i'll call you a cab". Because preferences are important.
I am 5'7" and i'm the KING FIDGET. All men less than 5'7" are fidgets. SO WHAT! I just have fun with it. My filipina wife is 5'2" and is really the KING/QUEEN fidget. She is smart and funny and ultra sweet. If my wife was 6"...so what, I would just live with it.
I just wanna say that Kevin Hart is married to a woman about 7 inches taller than him
I'm 175cm. Want me to write a fake-rage article and start taking self praising screenshots of the MANY times I was regarded as "too tall for a woman"?
That was awesome! There are so many hypocrites on the web that don't even realize they are hypocrites. It's both hilarious and sad.
Nothing wrong with having preferences. It is just how you put it across without humiliating anyone. This just represents a bigger problem in a petty way.
I don't think there's anything wrong with having a personal preference. We generally can't really control what/who we find attractive. When I was online dating (10 + years ago, before I found "the one") I met with a very nice man who was easily 100 lbs overweight. I did not find him attractive, but more importantly was the fact that he listed himself as HWP - now, I'm all for self confidence but self delusion is a deal breaker. They are plenty of women who like large men (and vice versa) I just don't happen to me one of them.
Actually, we can control these unexamined "preferences". When someone has a preference, the first question is what does that preference mean to them? For her, this woman seems to focus on the physical comfort and wanting "the man" to be taller, protector, etc. Other's have focused on "how other people would see them". Still other focused on standing out. Examining these, we can deconstruct their rationality. When comes to protection etc, does that mean you'd take a jobless, tall, meth head over a short, upper-middle-class hard worker? In the end, who provides more security? Many of our preferences have nothing to do with reality and everything to do with folklore and stereotypes. If all you care about is aesthetics then I guess looks are all that matter. However, personality traits are not locked to any physical attribute and remember, looks can and will change.
Load More Replies... If taken as an argument, this is an ad hominem. The girl in this example is apparently a hypocritical b***h. Her bitchiness does not mean that it is bad to filter partners by height. Anyone is allowed to filter partners by height, weight, skin colour, Zodiac sign and any other criteria they want. People not allowed to be hateful a******s, though.
The facts are men care less about a woman’s looks then women. By this I mean men can get over a woman’s short comings, they however seem less like
Cat hater? Short hater? What else does she hate? Boy he dodged a bullet there! What a miserable excuse of a human being this lady is. No wonder she's "looking."
My son (15) 5'4", his gf 5'10"... the height difference is only a problem for other people. I'm proud of them for knowing what's important in relationships at such a young age.
I wouldn't have spilled one word with a type like that.Tall or short.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gj5L9SYhoSE&feature=youtu.be This is the youtube link she had under about me.
I also tend to think if a man or asks a woman out, if that is not classed as sexual harassment in the near future and she says no, will she be ripped apart on social media? I really hope not.
She made herself out to be a hater in the first place. No, not just a preference. The belittling was really mean, maybe displaced. Guy set the bait and took it overboard (she was hateful for some reason) This was shameful and embarrassing for people who want only something special in their life. Do you know what they say about one bad apple? Hoping that they can move on and not have to take it out on somebody else. I think a lot of people have a lot of baggage and expect someone else
What they say about one bad apple is not meant to excuse them for their rarity, but to excise them so they don't ruin the whole barrel of apples. I don't think the analogy works here.
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She must be pretty fat and sensitive about it to react like that. I am chubby but if it was me, I'd just laugh at such note, I wouldn't take it seriously because I wouldn't think he could be that prejudicial.
Johanna, asking not to be judged negatively because of their height isn't "ego". It's just about basic respect. If a man put "swipe left if you have small boobs" people would be bashing him. Why is it different when it comes to men?
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No idea what is it in inches, but with my 180cm I generally feel like a Godzilla around people.
Bigotry is a biatch, especially when it turns back around on the bigoted person.
Tinder is meant to set up people (let's face it) mostly by their looks, so... I think asking to be taller than her is not that offensive. Is like swaping left someone's photo because you don't like her or his face. And she acted like a jerk in a private conversation, lead by the guy, so let's not be so hard on her.
Wasn't she trying connect with him? Private or not, who really is going to put up with that kind of put down?
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Well if you hate people that do anything to get some exposure you should stop visiting boredpanda. Because that's what the majority of posts on boredpanda are about hahaha.
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I prefer dark-haired people but if someone approaches me telling that blonds are gross, I'm not going to be agreeing with the person like this woman did. It's quite normal she wanted someone taller than her, but to go to the extent to agree whatever this guy said? That was wrong. (also, the guy did provoke this a little bit)
Exactly... He wanted to draw a reaction out of her, and she took the bait😂😂😂
Load More Replies... i think the point of all this should be, don't be shallow, you don't know the form of your best love.
It's normal to have preferences but love simply doesn't work that way. If I had to describe the physical of the perfect woman to me, she would be a curvy brunet with long hair. The perfect man would be a tall Mediterranean guy (seeking my father may be ;p). And I promised myself never dating a smoker. Well my first true love was a tall androgynous girl with short ginger hair that smoked a lot (3 years together) and my companion is 5.6' and he inherits his chinese mother type (9 years together last week). I've been with people fiting my ideal and it didn't work. I would have miss a lot by sticking to my "ideal" ;p
Load More Replies... Seriously, this is tinder. For me personally, from Berlin, Tinder is for the most people just a machine to get satisfaction and self-affirmation. If someone cares about your height, hair/skin/eye-color just let them down. Love is about finding the right soul and not the right shell.
She was shallow, he entrapped. She bit, he played. Sounds pretty average, just like being a 5'7 female. pfft, inch above 'average' and you tweek out about how 'tall' you are?
5'-7" is pretty average for ladies in Wisconsin. I'm 5'-9" and I don't stand out at all. Most guys are over 5'-7" around here. She's making a big deal out of nothing. It's literally not much of a problem.
Same. I am 5'9 as well and have never had an issue with shorter men. I am not taller than all the men I am around so hardly see men shorter than me.
Load More Replies... I'm 5'8" and my husband is about 4 inches shorter than me. I rock heels when I want and it doesn't bother either of us. I'm also not in my 20's or 30's anymore so I am much more comfortable with myself and much less superficial. To each his own but be kind - everyone has feelings.
one of my college roomies was about 5'2". Her mom was 6'1", her dad was all of 5'. They were madly in love. Seriously. Couldn't keep their hands off of each other :)
Load More Replies... I'm similar to Weerrd. I'm also a "too tall" woman who feels uncomfortable and self conscious around much shorter people in general. I think being a mismatched couple isn't for everybody. Some of us are too insecure for that. But not the woman in the post. From the actual conversation, she's just shallow, yeah. But it's still good that she let it be known right away that she is, so guys can just avoid her instead of wasting their time.
At least you're up front. I had a woman intensely promote a relationship with me for over 6 months (we were separated by distance but had already known each other at a prior workplace). She's 6'1" and paranoid about her height causing being dumped. I'm 5'9" and I have no problem with tall women. She kept telling me I was hot, a "real man" (responsible, employed, owned a house, communicated well, etc). When it came time to finally meet up at her friend's wedding, she suddenly decided it wasn't going to work between us because... reasons. She defended herself by reversing all of her claims about what she valued about me and wanted in a man, and by falling back on how many times men "pulled out on her" due to her height. It hurt like a m**********r to be judged by a paranoid and immature insecure person. Not my issues, but they sure were made out to be. Living through insecurity doesn't just hurt the insecure person. It makes for inconsistent and hurtful behavior that hurts others.
Load More Replies... I think every one has a preference and they are entitled to what they prefer, but wanting to sterilise them or turn them into dogs so they have more use is completely out of order! Calling them gross just on their appearance especially something they have no control over, is unacceptable. People are people, and everyone have a type and a mate or more!
That's why I think sites like this are basically a bad idea. It shouldn't be like ordering a burger delivery from Grubhub: I don't want mayo but I will take extra tomatoes. Oh, and medium well. We all have preferences, sometimes hard preferences. But, listing them all like that comes across as very rude and insensitive. You have to find out about people first; you have to do some work. This young woman comes across as just very immature. She sounds more like 12 than 24. If that's what most people are like in their mid-20's, our country is so doomed.
Agreed. I think preferences are ok but hey shouldn't be an absolute. Particularly preferences based on physical characteristics. If someone is sooo set on a physical characteristic then they are shallow and may someday be challenged. If Miss "no shorties" finds her 6'4" dreamboat and they fall in love and get married and then he gets in an accident and is now in a wheelchair, then what? Almost any physical characteristic can be wiped away due to an unfortunate accident. Does the love stop then? If was based on the physical and that physical not changing, was it love in the first place?
Load More Replies... I agree totally. I was once humiliated when a girl said she wouldn't date me because I was shorter than her and everybody laughed. When I pointed out that I probably shouldn't dater her anyway because she had short hair. She didn't understand even when I pointed out her hypocrisy.after
She's entitled to her opinion, but she's not entitled to say that all short men are the worst, and that she doesn't understand why they exist.
I agree with Weerd. You know what, being attracted to something is one thing--Okay? It's fine, everyone has that thing they're attracted to. However, being a douchebag to those who don't meet those standards is a no. Like, okay--I'm pretty okay with her saying "I'm not attracted to men shorter than me" As long as it's okay to say "I'm not attracted to women taller than me," Or "I'm not attracted to overweight people"
Strictly adhering to an internal narrative of what your partner 'should' be, either in looks or personality will severely limit your choices. It's ok to have preferences, but sometimes they can be really limiting and make you miss out on a good thing. I also used to have a 'type' -- it was thinner, and brooding dark and handsome. Not tall dudes necessarily. I wasn't really into blonde guys or an Eastern European look. I also didn't like muscly or stocky guys-- I thought I liked them lithe. I used to ignore guys like this. Until one of them asked me out; complete opposite to my 'type'. I gave him a chance because he was nice. Suddenly, my 'type' started changing. It was weird. I fell in love, and we're engaged now. Best thing I ever did.
Would it not be better for Tinder to just have a filtering service? When you sign up you would simply enter you details height, weight etc and your preferances how tall or heavy a partner you want and then Tinder just makes your profile invisible to people that don't meet your standards, it would be very simple to inplement and would save everyone from the body polictics of all of this.
You've just described OKCupid. But people don't want to put out the effort to use a proper tool for matching. So they use tinder. Tinder gets popular because most people are lazy. OkCupid gets bought out by competitors and turned into a tinder clone in order to try to hold on to membership. It doesn't work because laziness and participation in fads is more powerful. On top of all this, having all the filtering in the world is just going to end up presenting you with no search results. Especially if everyone on the planet is not on your filter-supporting dating service. The more we filter, the more we wrongly think the perfect mate will appear in a search list.
Load More Replies... I married the man of my dreams (I'm 5.11" and he's 5.7"). While I'm insecure about how tall I am for a woman, I didn't let that get in the way of how amazing HE is. It's my own insecurity to bear. Wouldn't change anything for the world. :)
You may have a "type" but it could be wrong. My "type" was a guy of medium height and weight, blonde hair, blues eyes. And yet the man I married is a 6'4", big guy with brown hair and bright blue eyes. If I had stuck to only dating men of my type, I would've missed out on the love of my life. We've been together 34 yrs. and married for 33. There's a reason they say, "Never trust a book by its cover". It's TRUTH!
Funny, I prefer short men, but I don't find tall ones "gross" or "useless", that's just shallow. Yeah, we all have preferences, but one should be open to new experiences.
I'm all for the don't judge a book by its cover, but there always has to be that first initial attraction, whether it be height, hair, eyes, smile, laugh, and hey, for some, bank account. Security may be important in their lives. Before this bloke started messaging her and reading the replies, I was like, so? It is her prerogative. After, nah, not so much, but still. This has possibly already been said, sorry.
My boyfriends mum is 5'8 and her boyfriend is 5'5 but they don't have a problem. They have this unspoken agreement she can wear heels or boots but as long as they are of reasonable height. Tbf she doesn't really wear heels much purely based on her height alone not the height of her partner but she wears boots a lot.
I guess you can't help who you are or are not attracted to. But maybe not advertise things that the general public won't agree with.
Yeah just don't put people down just because they don't fit your profile of attractiveness.
Load More Replies... Amazes me how some people blame "others being shorter" as the source of their insecurities. Maybe if you started by shutting up about it you'd have less people avoiding you. I know the type, just throws you a "you're short", "I'm taller than the average woman" out of nowhere in the middle of a conversation about hiking in the Grand Canyon. How many times have I seen relationships implode cause the gf could not help but to tease her bf about his height every time there was an audience to hear it. Don't tell me it's a preference. This has been programmed into you. Same programming that makes size not a problem anymore if the bank account has enough figures. We all see those old short farts with money scoring supermodels.
people are welcome to have their preferences it's true, but that isn't the point her the point is this: If you are a guy (maybe a girl I am not sure) and state "Women over 175lbs. swipe left" or "Smaller tahn a D cup? swipe left" people are going to think you are a douche... and you are. You CAN just quietly have your standards of what you find attractive, pick what things are a no go for you (physical or other wise... I won't date a smoker personally) and keep it polite or to yourself. This might have been centered around a woman who doesn't like guys shorter than her, but to me it's more about her additude. Instead of "swipe left if you are under 5'7" " how about "I prefer men that are taller than me" ? Is it all that hard to state a preference in polite way? I have come across profiles like this where they state something in a rude way being negative about what they don't want rather than positive about what they do want... and honestly its a turn off...
You can have preferences for your partner, even on physical looks, and that's ok, but it's not ok to disrespect anyone on basis of physical looks, that's equally bad as racism or nationalism. The fact that she wants taller partner is not an issue that's her right, but "why do short men even exist" is totally NOT ok, if that man tried to message me in same way even if I would like taller guys I would think he is a psycho.
I was never attracted to blond guys. Or, short, or overweight ones, either. What on me all you want. At least I'm honest!
Lesson learned, NEVER talk or text smack unless you know the person won't rat you out. She could have just politely stood by her convictions without being nasty but she didn't and showed what kind of person she really is.
I agree that we all have our preferences. I too think it's better to be upfront about it then wait and disappoint one another at the first meeting. That said, there is no need to be rude about it. Saying something rude like, "No fat chicks or No fat dudes" is just wrong. HWP is just realistic and states what you prefer. I have a friend who is 6'1 and she hates it! She would never even consider a guy shorter than 5'6 because anyone shorter would just makes things awkward for her. She isn't being rude about it. It is just what she wants. Good luck finding a taller guy and yes she is limiting herself to a large group of men, but she is just more comfortable with that decision. I could give tons of other examples but You get my point I hope and even if you don't agree with it, that is ok too. We all need to loosen up a bit here.
It's not wrong or unreasonable that she doesn't like short men, and it's not wrong or unreasonable when men don't like fat women. Nor are these preferences necessarily unnatural phenomena, that could only be explained 'by society making us think we want certain things.' Our attractions are a result of millions of years of evolutionary tendencies, and that's why certain things tend to become the popular choices within societies. Yes, there's some cultural variation but also clearly a pattern of certain tendencies of attraction being likely to recur in many different societies: males being preferred more if they're big and/or strong, females if they have good cleavage, being lean, being curvy but not fat, females having more neotenous faces.
I can kind of understand a woman not wanting to date a much shorter guy. I think it's more to do them feel tall and awkward next to him rather than having a problem with his height personally.
But she doesn't say that. She just criticizes shorter guys. It's silly for her to worry about her height and then criticize guys for being shorter.
Load More Replies... This girl is entitled to her opinion, but not entitled to say that all short men are "the worst", and say she doesn't know why they exist.
I'm 5'8"ish and if I'm taller than my bloke I feel big and unfeminine. I don't choose to feel that way, but that's how I feel. It's horribly unfair but I guess I just like to feel smaller and more feminine than my partner and if I have to stoop to kiss him I just don't feel that way.
As long as you acknowledge that this is because of the attitudes of your culture, then okay. There's nothing wrong with tall women. The problem is the culture that suggests there's something wrong with them.
Load More Replies... What the heck is wrong with a personal preference? Not PC ...? I really do not like PC people, could I fall in love with a PC woman...? You never know and who cares. Nowadays everybody feels so quickly insulted, get a life, a personality and some callous on your soul, grow up
I don't want to date a fat person, nor do I want to date a short guy. People have preferences, other people need to get over it.
I like your comments: I don't want to date. Nor do I want to date. It sounds like a great tongue twister. I am going to start using this rhyming stuff about what I don't want to do. I am sure nobody cares.......maybe they might remember. There I did it again. I love it. Thank-you
Load More Replies... Um.... it wasn't very well expressed, for sure, but I think everyone has a right to be attracted to what they're attracted to - and not attracted to what they're not attracted to. That isn't discrimination!
Is it a bad physical match? I've found walking hand-in-hand with very short petite women takes some adaptation in my own stride and pace. It's a challenge but worth doing. As for sex, so far it hasn't been a problem.
Load More Replies... Everyone here talking about her 5'7" not being that tall. My 20yo 4'8" a*s is googling growth hormone procedures. I wonder if it's too late for such procedures or maybe they're too pricey.... I just wanna be 5'0 T_T
I honestly do not care about height I am taller than most of the guys I've hooked up with. What pisses me off is when a guy matches with me, meets me for a date and gets mad at ME when I'm taller than him. WTF! I didn't lie about my height and I don't care about yours! Why are you mad at ME?!?!
It amazes me how many people have problems with "others being shorter". Like... How about you focus on yourself instead of fabricating insecurities and blaming the world for them? Don't be surprised if people avoid you since you can't shut up about it.
I always accepted myself as being shallow person who pays too much attention to looks. And i have in my mind this image of sort of a perfect woman - around 5'5'', slightly curvy, with small perky breasts and small feet. Over the years i dated women who were taller than me, fat and skinny, one wit HUGE feet, big saggy boobies and extra small ones. And i liked every single one of them. But i agree that it's normal to have preferences. Here's situation. A girl meets a boy. They like each other and after spending some time together he invites her to his place. They start making out. Suddenly boy says: "Before we do it i need to measure and weight you to make sure that you meet my preferences. Oh... Sorry, hon, your hips are one inch too wide for my liking. Get dressed, i'll call you a cab". Because preferences are important.
I am 5'7" and i'm the KING FIDGET. All men less than 5'7" are fidgets. SO WHAT! I just have fun with it. My filipina wife is 5'2" and is really the KING/QUEEN fidget. She is smart and funny and ultra sweet. If my wife was 6"...so what, I would just live with it.
I just wanna say that Kevin Hart is married to a woman about 7 inches taller than him
I'm 175cm. Want me to write a fake-rage article and start taking self praising screenshots of the MANY times I was regarded as "too tall for a woman"?
That was awesome! There are so many hypocrites on the web that don't even realize they are hypocrites. It's both hilarious and sad.
Nothing wrong with having preferences. It is just how you put it across without humiliating anyone. This just represents a bigger problem in a petty way.
I don't think there's anything wrong with having a personal preference. We generally can't really control what/who we find attractive. When I was online dating (10 + years ago, before I found "the one") I met with a very nice man who was easily 100 lbs overweight. I did not find him attractive, but more importantly was the fact that he listed himself as HWP - now, I'm all for self confidence but self delusion is a deal breaker. They are plenty of women who like large men (and vice versa) I just don't happen to me one of them.
Actually, we can control these unexamined "preferences". When someone has a preference, the first question is what does that preference mean to them? For her, this woman seems to focus on the physical comfort and wanting "the man" to be taller, protector, etc. Other's have focused on "how other people would see them". Still other focused on standing out. Examining these, we can deconstruct their rationality. When comes to protection etc, does that mean you'd take a jobless, tall, meth head over a short, upper-middle-class hard worker? In the end, who provides more security? Many of our preferences have nothing to do with reality and everything to do with folklore and stereotypes. If all you care about is aesthetics then I guess looks are all that matter. However, personality traits are not locked to any physical attribute and remember, looks can and will change.
Load More Replies... If taken as an argument, this is an ad hominem. The girl in this example is apparently a hypocritical b***h. Her bitchiness does not mean that it is bad to filter partners by height. Anyone is allowed to filter partners by height, weight, skin colour, Zodiac sign and any other criteria they want. People not allowed to be hateful a******s, though.
The facts are men care less about a woman’s looks then women. By this I mean men can get over a woman’s short comings, they however seem less like
Cat hater? Short hater? What else does she hate? Boy he dodged a bullet there! What a miserable excuse of a human being this lady is. No wonder she's "looking."
My son (15) 5'4", his gf 5'10"... the height difference is only a problem for other people. I'm proud of them for knowing what's important in relationships at such a young age.
I wouldn't have spilled one word with a type like that.Tall or short.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gj5L9SYhoSE&feature=youtu.be This is the youtube link she had under about me.
I also tend to think if a man or asks a woman out, if that is not classed as sexual harassment in the near future and she says no, will she be ripped apart on social media? I really hope not.
She made herself out to be a hater in the first place. No, not just a preference. The belittling was really mean, maybe displaced. Guy set the bait and took it overboard (she was hateful for some reason) This was shameful and embarrassing for people who want only something special in their life. Do you know what they say about one bad apple? Hoping that they can move on and not have to take it out on somebody else. I think a lot of people have a lot of baggage and expect someone else
What they say about one bad apple is not meant to excuse them for their rarity, but to excise them so they don't ruin the whole barrel of apples. I don't think the analogy works here.
Load More Replies... She must be pretty fat and sensitive about it to react like that. I am chubby but if it was me, I'd just laugh at such note, I wouldn't take it seriously because I wouldn't think he could be that prejudicial.
Johanna, asking not to be judged negatively because of their height isn't "ego". It's just about basic respect. If a man put "swipe left if you have small boobs" people would be bashing him. Why is it different when it comes to men?
Load More Replies... No idea what is it in inches, but with my 180cm I generally feel like a Godzilla around people.
Bigotry is a biatch, especially when it turns back around on the bigoted person.
Tinder is meant to set up people (let's face it) mostly by their looks, so... I think asking to be taller than her is not that offensive. Is like swaping left someone's photo because you don't like her or his face. And she acted like a jerk in a private conversation, lead by the guy, so let's not be so hard on her.
Wasn't she trying connect with him? Private or not, who really is going to put up with that kind of put down?
Load More Replies... Well if you hate people that do anything to get some exposure you should stop visiting boredpanda. Because that's what the majority of posts on boredpanda are about hahaha.
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