Stranger Gets Texts From A “Nice Guy” That Was Given A Fake Number, Quickly Learns Why The Girl Did It
A good man is not to be confused with a nice guy. He’s genuinely kind and caring. He is polite to everyone not because he wants a reward. He’s just a decent human being.
The nice guy is a totally different breed. His dating profile and social media feeds might be full of phrases about how a woman should be treated, but he’s only advertising. This male only portrays himself to be gentle, compassionate, sensitive, and vulnerable. In reality, he simply hopes that this facade will make a woman start a romantic or sexual relationship with him.
However, women have a strong intuition about things like this. If they meet a nice guy, they can usually tell there’s something off. And they’ll run away from him. Or, in this case, give him a fake number.
When Keegan texted Sandra, he thought his nice guy act worked. However, the person he contacted wasn’t Sandra and Keegan was absolutely crushed. So he took it out on that random stranger.
Good job, Sandra. Obviously, you did the right thing by getting rid of him.
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Counsellor & Psychotherapist Tati Silva agreed to share her thoughts on the nice guy syndrome with Bored Panda. “A man that is physically less attractive tends to compensate by being nice to be able to connect to people. They will overcompensate with over-the-top behaviors. The ‘nice guy’ will use all the tools to charm the person they are interested in. However, if it is not replicated, the ‘nice guy’s’ true colors come to light.”
“According to Dr. Glover, a ‘nice guy’ has a sinister side. In the mind of the ‘nice guy’, the person he is pursuing should repay his action by becoming his girlfriend or boyfriend, for him that is how these things work. The ‘nice guy’ will lash out if he does not get what he wants, which might be indirectly influenced by misogynistic entitlement complexes.”
Silva said that misogyny occurs unconsciously, connecting with hatred that forms early in life, often as a result of a trauma involving a female figure they trusted. Of course, there are exceptions. “This doesn’t apply to everyone, there are genuinely nice guys and girls out there. That will be ok to be put in a friend-zone, respecting your opinion. They won’t expect anything back.”
But the ‘nice guy’ we’re talking about will place themselves as a victim to get what they want. That’s because they are nice, so they deserve a chance. At least in their mind. “They evoke notions of fairness when they complain about not receiving the attention they seek.”
“For all the masked ‘nice guys’ out there, it is ok to be vulnerable, be yourself with the person that you would like to date, it might take you a few steps further in your relationship instead of a complete shutdown,” Silva added. “People have the right to say no and owe nothing in return. True kindness is given without expecting nothing in return.”
Sorry, Keegan, but it looks like calling yourself a nice guy doesn’t necessarily make you nice. Nor does cussing people out.
Here’s what people said about the conversation
Did it ever occur to these guys who ask women for their number, to instead give THEIR number to her? If she actually liked you, she'll call you back.
Wow Mathias... You sure have a lot to say... I'm sure you're VERY popular with the ladies...
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Never believe a guy (or girl) who says "I'm a nice guy" or "trust me."
You're kidding, right? Guys like that are a dime a dozen. They're everywhere.
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I feel like "I'm a nice guy" really means "I don't see myself murdering you this week". And yes, not getting murdered is priority number one in relationships, but I have a lot of other ways to not get murdered, like not spending time with "nice guys".
Sandra must have had a feeling about this guy, otherwise why give out a fake number. This guy is not a nice guy. If he was, he would not have to repeatedly say it. Nice guys can finish first, if they really are a nice guy.
"Nice guys" have problems spelling "Incel" . All misogynistic forums are full of "nice guys" that really are convinced that a small thing like holding a door for a woman grants them the right to sexually harras her. When a woman says "Thanks" they assume they are in a steady relationship with said woman and when she dares to smile she litterally promised to merry him. It's really creepy and scary on those forums. In a rough estimate I'd say that 60% of the people there are psychopaths.
I have a hard time believing anyone who starts out telling me how wonderful they are. A person's wonderful- ness should be obvious without a word. Unless you're on a job interview.
If you feel the need to insist that you are a "nice guy" and all other men are c**p, you probably aren't that great either. Just be a nice guy...Actions are more important than words.
"But Keegan, this really is Sandra... lol SIKE" OMG, I needed a good laugh today! 🤣
That's like that line from the TLC song No Scrubs. "No, I don't want your number. No, I don't wanna give you mine......" Before I was married, I had an issue with guys coming up and hitting on me and my friends all the time. "Oh..c'mon..give me your number. I'm a nice guy." Not every girl goes out looking for a guy. Sometimes she's out hanging with her girlfriends..and along comes a guy begging and acting like a douche to ruin the whole thing. Try striking a conversation up with the girl first..and not the "Hey baby..what are you into." Act like men..not 5th grade boys with a secret stash of porn magazines under their mattresses. You might be surprised what you find when you treat a girl with respect and dignity.
The victims are creeps and have a dark side; the satanists are nice and polite - That's weird even for you.
Lmao, I gotta jump in this ridiculous "Good guy" conversation; he was texting to the women he likes and yet he got wrong number, not once but twice. I'm highly doubt Tati Silva is an Counsellor & Psychotherapist on conservation bs. Sinister, misogynistic? He was tricked twice, hell-o, is there anyone with common sense around here? He was angry with stranger who willing kept to bothering him. If he's sinister then he would *ask her come over to home as soon the message sent. *say something sinister as like *I want to choke you* If is misogynistic, he would start the; *comparison of woman to man inequality *"make me a sandwich" or "back to kitchen". I've seen some comments below me. Again, He was given a wrong number twice. If she dont like him then dont give him your number and tell him a truth for once!
Honesty rules. People always say "you've changed". No. This is the real me. I was on my best behavior to impress you. Just be who you are. I'd rather not be surprised by the punk that has showed up after that first f"$k. We women get judged as frigid, easy, a skank. And guys just get the guys will be guys. Time they showed that they have an ounce of discipline and self respect. And just maybe the girl your with is just wanting to be with you and not "doing it" with everybody. Equal pay will never happen till women are seen as just as sexual, vulnerable and able to decide what they are about. I'm not looking to for anything but a man who values what Everyman before him has led up to my knowing what I will not settle for anymore. A nice guy knows. And I feel for all the guys that we judge before he can walk across the room.
I've met nice guys and too many F*****g Nice Guys. Too bad she couldn't post the phone number of this Romeo with the Silver Tongue and smooth rap. Be kind of fun to see if his phone or head blows up first. Sandra, you dodged a bullet. You owe Baby Girl for thinking on her feet. Would have loved to be a fly on the wall for this loser. The end was classic. I could almost hear a pop when he pulled his head of his a*s thinking he really had a shot.
Why are most guys like this ?? do they not care/respect for women? have they never had a mom ? or are they not sexist and equally dickish to men as well ?? (AND WHY THE F**K DO THEY CALL THEMSELVES NICE GUYS????)
What if, just maybe what if, most guys AREN’T like that. You only hear about total jerks.
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I’m a nice guy is actually what my most recent ex said to me when I asked if I could trust him after he claimed he wasn’t in love with my best friend. I bet you cant guess who he’s dating now😉
When someone says or texts "I think you have the wrong number," I say, "I'm sorry to have bothered you," and I hang up. Keegan has issues.
Anyone ever do it just to get it over with so you can go home and catch the 11:00 news or SNL? Don't call the next day, don't care, and dinner wasn't not that great. We too can play hardball with the guys that think they are all that. They aren't. And I'm not buying the double standard.
We'll look at the definition of 'nice' in the dictionary. Not much good about it at all!
SIKE: A slang term (correctly, "psych") that was big in the 1990s. It's similar in usage to adding "not" to the end of a statement that's meant to be either sarcastic, a joke, or both.
Seriously. I know guys like this exist, but my bs detector was going off the entire time. It reads like a script.
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The only time a girl ever asked for my number, not me, her, was with my ex when we met a a church. When my friends ask how we met, I said we met at a church. They didn’t understand that because they didn’t think that it was possible
That's what she meant?! I was trying to figure what the hell "sike" means lol
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I have to completely disagree. Not all women are bit**es, I am a gal who tends to get along with men more, but I have met many cool, nice women. I cant stand catty women, gold diggers, manipulators. Some women do like the bad boy(not me), but some men consciously or unconsciously choose those type of women above. I once asked a guy why he liked gold diggers. His answer? "Because he can". Eww.
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Did it ever occur to these guys who ask women for their number, to instead give THEIR number to her? If she actually liked you, she'll call you back.
Wow Mathias... You sure have a lot to say... I'm sure you're VERY popular with the ladies...
Load More Replies... Never believe a guy (or girl) who says "I'm a nice guy" or "trust me."
You're kidding, right? Guys like that are a dime a dozen. They're everywhere.
Load More Replies... I feel like "I'm a nice guy" really means "I don't see myself murdering you this week". And yes, not getting murdered is priority number one in relationships, but I have a lot of other ways to not get murdered, like not spending time with "nice guys".
Sandra must have had a feeling about this guy, otherwise why give out a fake number. This guy is not a nice guy. If he was, he would not have to repeatedly say it. Nice guys can finish first, if they really are a nice guy.
"Nice guys" have problems spelling "Incel" . All misogynistic forums are full of "nice guys" that really are convinced that a small thing like holding a door for a woman grants them the right to sexually harras her. When a woman says "Thanks" they assume they are in a steady relationship with said woman and when she dares to smile she litterally promised to merry him. It's really creepy and scary on those forums. In a rough estimate I'd say that 60% of the people there are psychopaths.
I have a hard time believing anyone who starts out telling me how wonderful they are. A person's wonderful- ness should be obvious without a word. Unless you're on a job interview.
If you feel the need to insist that you are a "nice guy" and all other men are c**p, you probably aren't that great either. Just be a nice guy...Actions are more important than words.
"But Keegan, this really is Sandra... lol SIKE" OMG, I needed a good laugh today! 🤣
That's like that line from the TLC song No Scrubs. "No, I don't want your number. No, I don't wanna give you mine......" Before I was married, I had an issue with guys coming up and hitting on me and my friends all the time. "Oh..c'mon..give me your number. I'm a nice guy." Not every girl goes out looking for a guy. Sometimes she's out hanging with her girlfriends..and along comes a guy begging and acting like a douche to ruin the whole thing. Try striking a conversation up with the girl first..and not the "Hey baby..what are you into." Act like men..not 5th grade boys with a secret stash of porn magazines under their mattresses. You might be surprised what you find when you treat a girl with respect and dignity.
The victims are creeps and have a dark side; the satanists are nice and polite - That's weird even for you.
Lmao, I gotta jump in this ridiculous "Good guy" conversation; he was texting to the women he likes and yet he got wrong number, not once but twice. I'm highly doubt Tati Silva is an Counsellor & Psychotherapist on conservation bs. Sinister, misogynistic? He was tricked twice, hell-o, is there anyone with common sense around here? He was angry with stranger who willing kept to bothering him. If he's sinister then he would *ask her come over to home as soon the message sent. *say something sinister as like *I want to choke you* If is misogynistic, he would start the; *comparison of woman to man inequality *"make me a sandwich" or "back to kitchen". I've seen some comments below me. Again, He was given a wrong number twice. If she dont like him then dont give him your number and tell him a truth for once!
Honesty rules. People always say "you've changed". No. This is the real me. I was on my best behavior to impress you. Just be who you are. I'd rather not be surprised by the punk that has showed up after that first f"$k. We women get judged as frigid, easy, a skank. And guys just get the guys will be guys. Time they showed that they have an ounce of discipline and self respect. And just maybe the girl your with is just wanting to be with you and not "doing it" with everybody. Equal pay will never happen till women are seen as just as sexual, vulnerable and able to decide what they are about. I'm not looking to for anything but a man who values what Everyman before him has led up to my knowing what I will not settle for anymore. A nice guy knows. And I feel for all the guys that we judge before he can walk across the room.
I've met nice guys and too many F*****g Nice Guys. Too bad she couldn't post the phone number of this Romeo with the Silver Tongue and smooth rap. Be kind of fun to see if his phone or head blows up first. Sandra, you dodged a bullet. You owe Baby Girl for thinking on her feet. Would have loved to be a fly on the wall for this loser. The end was classic. I could almost hear a pop when he pulled his head of his a*s thinking he really had a shot.
Why are most guys like this ?? do they not care/respect for women? have they never had a mom ? or are they not sexist and equally dickish to men as well ?? (AND WHY THE F**K DO THEY CALL THEMSELVES NICE GUYS????)
What if, just maybe what if, most guys AREN’T like that. You only hear about total jerks.
Load More Replies... I’m a nice guy is actually what my most recent ex said to me when I asked if I could trust him after he claimed he wasn’t in love with my best friend. I bet you cant guess who he’s dating now😉
When someone says or texts "I think you have the wrong number," I say, "I'm sorry to have bothered you," and I hang up. Keegan has issues.
Anyone ever do it just to get it over with so you can go home and catch the 11:00 news or SNL? Don't call the next day, don't care, and dinner wasn't not that great. We too can play hardball with the guys that think they are all that. They aren't. And I'm not buying the double standard.
We'll look at the definition of 'nice' in the dictionary. Not much good about it at all!
SIKE: A slang term (correctly, "psych") that was big in the 1990s. It's similar in usage to adding "not" to the end of a statement that's meant to be either sarcastic, a joke, or both.
Seriously. I know guys like this exist, but my bs detector was going off the entire time. It reads like a script.
Load More Replies... The only time a girl ever asked for my number, not me, her, was with my ex when we met a a church. When my friends ask how we met, I said we met at a church. They didn’t understand that because they didn’t think that it was possible
That's what she meant?! I was trying to figure what the hell "sike" means lol
Load More Replies... I have to completely disagree. Not all women are bit**es, I am a gal who tends to get along with men more, but I have met many cool, nice women. I cant stand catty women, gold diggers, manipulators. Some women do like the bad boy(not me), but some men consciously or unconsciously choose those type of women above. I once asked a guy why he liked gold diggers. His answer? "Because he can". Eww.
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