Daughter Has No Other Choice But To Always Wear A ‘No Photo’ Hoodie So Her Influencer Mom Would Stop Posting Her Pics
As Influencers In The Wild showed us, just the sight of them can be annoying. Now imagine having one in your family. Just hours ago, redditor FinallyAnonymous6 explained what it’s like to grow up with a mom who is uploading every aspect of your personal life on the Internet. After exhausting all the possibilities she could think of, the 16-year-old daughter ordered various “No Photos” hoodies and started wearing them every time her mom was around. Naturally, tensions reached the climax. Continue scrolling to hear what the teen has to say.
Image credits: yourdailyfashion (Not the actual photo)
Image credits: FinallyAnonymous6
The daughter was also thinking about creating an Instagram account and posting one picture that’s just of her holding a paper that says, ‘I do not consent to photos on the account @MomsAccount. I do not consent to being written about in @mommyblog. I did not consent to the pictures and stories already posted there. Please help me report all of @MomsAccount posts where I appear for harassment.’
“But honestly, I’m worried that kind of drama would put me more in the public eye and lead to articles about me or something. When I want the opposite, for everything about me online to be gone,” she said. “Plus, I know the wording would make my mom angry. Every time I talk about consent or ‘no means no’ or how I own my own body, she accuses me of making it sound like ‘a dirty sex thing’ … Which isn’t how I mean it, I just think consent and bodily autonomy matters for many reasons! Not only sex!”
People instantly showed their support for the 16-year-old
The struggle for regaining control over her personal life has pushed the teen to the very limit. “I already feel like I’m at ‘last resort’ stages now, I just recently had a huge public fight with my mom where I lost my temper and screamed at her, ‘I’m 16, IT’S NOT OKAY THAT YOU’RE WHORING ME OUT FOR MONEY.'” However, the mom got mad and played the you’re-making-everything-about-sex card again. “[She] totally missed the point that I don’t want my pics to be her money-making scheme anymore.”
She should see a lawyer and sue for royalties from the pictures of her. That might make the woman wake up. I really can't understand parents that don't respect their kids right to privacy, and instead treat them like possessions.
as a "model", (ie subject of a photo), the kids would 100% be entitle to some kind of payment, AND a licensing fee, especially as her mother did it for her own commercial gain. That is how models earn their money - by getting paid for the image being taken, and it's ongoing use. This, is 100% standard practice for all commercial images within Europe / USA / Australia / New Zealand / Canada etc, and has been for generations.
Load More Replies...She should set up her own blog or insta and write things her mother wouldn’t want online and post unflattering pics of her. She’ll soon understand the concept of privacy
That's a neat mental exercise; perhaps just suggesting that to the mom would help wake her up a little bit. But to actually do it would just be self sabotage. Anything you said from then on would be labeled as hypocrisy.
Load More Replies...NTA, and the daughter is both funny and smart. All these fkn influencers need to learn some common sense and respect and NOT post pictures of everybody. Especially mom influencers who - I my opinion - shames and ridicules their kids online. I have friends who gladly have posted pics of their kids in a not so fun situation. Sure they're kids now, but as this story pinpoints, as teens or adults it's really not fun to have those pictures all over internet for everyone to see. It's disrespectful and not ok.
Good for the daughter(s)! A child isn't a prop. A child is a person. And a child isn't there to be a parent's *mirror*. "No means no" is completely appropriate. Aren't there laws against child labor in the First World?! Just b/c it's yoru kid doesn't make it okay, does it?!
This is one of the reasons I don't post pictures of my or any other kids on social media. It should be their choice, imo.
Frankly, the thought of some stranger looking at my underage, or any age, child's pictures just creeps me out.
Load More Replies...I feel so bad for kids these days. Their entire lives are going to be on their parents facebooks/instagrams because parents are addicted to getting "likes".
Thinking of your kids as a form of property is disgusting to me, using the as a means of income and having no respect for them. I could not imagine how intrusive and tough this must be. I would to also make a situation where posting pictures of me would be as difficult as possible.
She should use the few advantages that Americans have: Sue the s**t out of her mom for exploiting her and sue the s**t out of her for every time she posts a new photo on social media without consent. Also file complaints with the social media and demand an immediate takedown of all the photos and sue the hell out of them also. She could also report her mom to the CPS for mental child abuse and go to court and demand a restraining order.
I am no where NEAR influencer status, but I started asking permission for EVERYONE involved in a potential posted picture. It was when I saw Gwyneth Paltrow's daughter, Apple, comment on a photo saying, "I didn't give you permission for this" makes you think. We worry about having our kids exploited by other people, we sometimes forget we may be the origins of that exploitation.
This is a problem that many have seen coming for a long time. Posting photos of your children publicly can be damaging and dangerous. I'm impressed that this girl is fighting back. Yes, she is likely to adversely effect her mother's livelihood, but her mother has been making money off her children and that is so wrong
I was in a similar situation. I am a painter, and my mother began to send photos of my paintings to her buddies, using them as website background, etc. I was very upset and told her off. She was mad at first, but my father supported me and told her to stop with is. BTW, I was 24 years old at that time. Not even a child.
You have a right to control the images you create, but I don't think that's near as outrageously obvious a overstep of boundaries as this is. Your body and life is not permanently on show and it's easier for you and others to separate your identity from an early thing you painted (although if there were issues with it being offensive, that might be different). You're still right. But that's a much subtler issue.
Load More Replies...I feel so bad for kids these days. One of my childhood friends had her first two months ago and since then this baby has been in her story every day. Every. Single. Day. Those kinds of people don't give two craps about their kids' privacy OR safety.
It's completely appropriate. Parents really need to consider the propriety of slapping photos of their kids all over the Internet.
She is obviously an unfit mother. Do not have your children all over the internet for pedophiles and other creeps to drool over. Children have rights, and those posts could come back to haunt them. Your mother clearly does not care about your needs, she seems addicted to her blog. Call the police if she persists in putting you on social media, you have the right to privacy and she is exploiting her children.
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She should sue her mom for taking and publishing photos of her and her sister without consent. I'm sure there's a law forbidding publishing images of children without their consent in most countries
With all the pervs on the internet why would you constantly post pictures of your kids? Not much of a mom in opinion. And how many of them have been used in ways unintended? Photos are stolen and used all the time. Sounds like mom has an addiction and needs therapy.
I'm so surprised at how far down the comments I had to read before someone suggested calling child protective services. It's a very hard step for kids to take. They love their parents. But compared to sueing ones family, it's far more appropriate and far less work and stress for the kids. To be fair to sue a family member one would have to live elsewhere anyway, if this were the power dynamic.
Her mother is a bad influencer. This is the worst failure in life, to became a disappointment for your own children :/ poor kids
Mother of the year. Clearly she did not realize that her kids are not her property. I'm sick of "influencers" anyway.
That "mom' should get a job instead of what she pulls of now. Poor kid.
Not only is it wrong to post pictures of your children, it's also incredibly dangerous. If this girl and her sister don't want to be on the blog or on any other social media that should be okay with their mom. They didn't ask to be a part of her mommy blog and therefore shouldn't be forced to be involved. I think that the mother has her priorities messed up.
It doesn't matter if that's how she makes income, she can consent to her own photos but you didn't. I get it, everyone wants to show off their kids- but if the kids don't want to... or don't/can't fully understand the risks yet, such as child molesters, and how inflammatory the internet can be... I don't think that's right. Whatever you post about you, or your kids, can come back to bite you later in life. It doesn't matter if you think it's innocent, the internet will find a way to use it against you. That's why consent and full understanding is important.
No, I am a random observer simply bringing up an alternative view.
Load More Replies...What's that one law that says parents are required to save a set % of a child actor's earnings for them and can't touch it? Does that apply to influencer kids used for content? I can see a string of lawsuits as these kids grow up and demand their cut of the "family business", only to find their parents kept and spent it all.
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There are literally NO photographs of me online. If someone asks for a profile photo, they get a lovely picture of a photogenic cat
Children are not property. They have human rights and should not be treated like slaves, should not be used as slave labour, or otherwise exploited or used by parents or other adults for money making purposes. Doing so is a violation of their rights. This is a black and white issue. Children are entitled to food, shelter and clothing from their parents. It is their right to receive the basic needs for survival from their parents free of charge until they have reached adulthood and can obtain the basic needs on their own.
If the mom gets any money from these posts and the daughter is in these posts then the daughter has all rights to get a lawyer and sue her.
I just hope her mom sees this, I want to think maybe seeing it on the internet will help her internalise what her daughter is trying to say.
Get a lawyer and trade mark your image. Next get a shirt and start a podcast called "my mother is a hypocritical c**t" and talk all about this. Turn it back on her but twice as bad
I don't think that's a fair comparison. It's completely different to be asked to lose your privacy and have your face, your whole life be shared with the world online despite your wishes. That is unreasonable to ask of a child. The mother can easily adjust her social media not to include her children.
Load More Replies...She should see a lawyer and sue for royalties from the pictures of her. That might make the woman wake up. I really can't understand parents that don't respect their kids right to privacy, and instead treat them like possessions.
as a "model", (ie subject of a photo), the kids would 100% be entitle to some kind of payment, AND a licensing fee, especially as her mother did it for her own commercial gain. That is how models earn their money - by getting paid for the image being taken, and it's ongoing use. This, is 100% standard practice for all commercial images within Europe / USA / Australia / New Zealand / Canada etc, and has been for generations.
Load More Replies...She should set up her own blog or insta and write things her mother wouldn’t want online and post unflattering pics of her. She’ll soon understand the concept of privacy
That's a neat mental exercise; perhaps just suggesting that to the mom would help wake her up a little bit. But to actually do it would just be self sabotage. Anything you said from then on would be labeled as hypocrisy.
Load More Replies...NTA, and the daughter is both funny and smart. All these fkn influencers need to learn some common sense and respect and NOT post pictures of everybody. Especially mom influencers who - I my opinion - shames and ridicules their kids online. I have friends who gladly have posted pics of their kids in a not so fun situation. Sure they're kids now, but as this story pinpoints, as teens or adults it's really not fun to have those pictures all over internet for everyone to see. It's disrespectful and not ok.
Good for the daughter(s)! A child isn't a prop. A child is a person. And a child isn't there to be a parent's *mirror*. "No means no" is completely appropriate. Aren't there laws against child labor in the First World?! Just b/c it's yoru kid doesn't make it okay, does it?!
This is one of the reasons I don't post pictures of my or any other kids on social media. It should be their choice, imo.
Frankly, the thought of some stranger looking at my underage, or any age, child's pictures just creeps me out.
Load More Replies...I feel so bad for kids these days. Their entire lives are going to be on their parents facebooks/instagrams because parents are addicted to getting "likes".
Thinking of your kids as a form of property is disgusting to me, using the as a means of income and having no respect for them. I could not imagine how intrusive and tough this must be. I would to also make a situation where posting pictures of me would be as difficult as possible.
She should use the few advantages that Americans have: Sue the s**t out of her mom for exploiting her and sue the s**t out of her for every time she posts a new photo on social media without consent. Also file complaints with the social media and demand an immediate takedown of all the photos and sue the hell out of them also. She could also report her mom to the CPS for mental child abuse and go to court and demand a restraining order.
I am no where NEAR influencer status, but I started asking permission for EVERYONE involved in a potential posted picture. It was when I saw Gwyneth Paltrow's daughter, Apple, comment on a photo saying, "I didn't give you permission for this" makes you think. We worry about having our kids exploited by other people, we sometimes forget we may be the origins of that exploitation.
This is a problem that many have seen coming for a long time. Posting photos of your children publicly can be damaging and dangerous. I'm impressed that this girl is fighting back. Yes, she is likely to adversely effect her mother's livelihood, but her mother has been making money off her children and that is so wrong
I was in a similar situation. I am a painter, and my mother began to send photos of my paintings to her buddies, using them as website background, etc. I was very upset and told her off. She was mad at first, but my father supported me and told her to stop with is. BTW, I was 24 years old at that time. Not even a child.
You have a right to control the images you create, but I don't think that's near as outrageously obvious a overstep of boundaries as this is. Your body and life is not permanently on show and it's easier for you and others to separate your identity from an early thing you painted (although if there were issues with it being offensive, that might be different). You're still right. But that's a much subtler issue.
Load More Replies...I feel so bad for kids these days. One of my childhood friends had her first two months ago and since then this baby has been in her story every day. Every. Single. Day. Those kinds of people don't give two craps about their kids' privacy OR safety.
It's completely appropriate. Parents really need to consider the propriety of slapping photos of their kids all over the Internet.
She is obviously an unfit mother. Do not have your children all over the internet for pedophiles and other creeps to drool over. Children have rights, and those posts could come back to haunt them. Your mother clearly does not care about your needs, she seems addicted to her blog. Call the police if she persists in putting you on social media, you have the right to privacy and she is exploiting her children.
You are being subjected to emotional abuse! Call 1-800-799-7233 the National Domestic Abuse hot line. They can confirm if you are being abused and let you know what to do next. Is there a school counselor that you can contact? Call Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-422-4453. Child Protective Services (CPS) does not always have enough staff to act on things right away. The hotline should be able to tell you what how likely CPS can help you. They need to know what is happening with both you and your sister.
She should sue her mom for taking and publishing photos of her and her sister without consent. I'm sure there's a law forbidding publishing images of children without their consent in most countries
With all the pervs on the internet why would you constantly post pictures of your kids? Not much of a mom in opinion. And how many of them have been used in ways unintended? Photos are stolen and used all the time. Sounds like mom has an addiction and needs therapy.
I'm so surprised at how far down the comments I had to read before someone suggested calling child protective services. It's a very hard step for kids to take. They love their parents. But compared to sueing ones family, it's far more appropriate and far less work and stress for the kids. To be fair to sue a family member one would have to live elsewhere anyway, if this were the power dynamic.
Her mother is a bad influencer. This is the worst failure in life, to became a disappointment for your own children :/ poor kids
Mother of the year. Clearly she did not realize that her kids are not her property. I'm sick of "influencers" anyway.
That "mom' should get a job instead of what she pulls of now. Poor kid.
Not only is it wrong to post pictures of your children, it's also incredibly dangerous. If this girl and her sister don't want to be on the blog or on any other social media that should be okay with their mom. They didn't ask to be a part of her mommy blog and therefore shouldn't be forced to be involved. I think that the mother has her priorities messed up.
It doesn't matter if that's how she makes income, she can consent to her own photos but you didn't. I get it, everyone wants to show off their kids- but if the kids don't want to... or don't/can't fully understand the risks yet, such as child molesters, and how inflammatory the internet can be... I don't think that's right. Whatever you post about you, or your kids, can come back to bite you later in life. It doesn't matter if you think it's innocent, the internet will find a way to use it against you. That's why consent and full understanding is important.
No, I am a random observer simply bringing up an alternative view.
Load More Replies...What's that one law that says parents are required to save a set % of a child actor's earnings for them and can't touch it? Does that apply to influencer kids used for content? I can see a string of lawsuits as these kids grow up and demand their cut of the "family business", only to find their parents kept and spent it all.
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There are literally NO photographs of me online. If someone asks for a profile photo, they get a lovely picture of a photogenic cat
Children are not property. They have human rights and should not be treated like slaves, should not be used as slave labour, or otherwise exploited or used by parents or other adults for money making purposes. Doing so is a violation of their rights. This is a black and white issue. Children are entitled to food, shelter and clothing from their parents. It is their right to receive the basic needs for survival from their parents free of charge until they have reached adulthood and can obtain the basic needs on their own.
If the mom gets any money from these posts and the daughter is in these posts then the daughter has all rights to get a lawyer and sue her.
I just hope her mom sees this, I want to think maybe seeing it on the internet will help her internalise what her daughter is trying to say.
Get a lawyer and trade mark your image. Next get a shirt and start a podcast called "my mother is a hypocritical c**t" and talk all about this. Turn it back on her but twice as bad
I don't think that's a fair comparison. It's completely different to be asked to lose your privacy and have your face, your whole life be shared with the world online despite your wishes. That is unreasonable to ask of a child. The mother can easily adjust her social media not to include her children.
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