Sometimes life kicks me in the nuts, and it's hard to stand up but we have to, right? I mean, the good life isn't the one without suffering, it's the one where it contributes to our development as human beings. When I'm feeling down, a walk through the busy city streets really helps. It kind of reminds me that everything's still in its place and the Earth is still spinning. It clears my head. However, I was wondering - how do you deal with sadness? I'm sure there are other ways to bring back a smile on your face, so it would be interesting to hear yours!

#1

Sadness usually creeps up on me at night when it looks like the whole world is asleep. If it's warm outside I open up my window, stick my head out and just breathe in. Deeply. Slowly. Fully... Until it goes away..

And if it's cold, I just sit on the windowsill looking at the stars until the calmness of the night somehow makes it a bit better...

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shealynnjoyner 3 months ago

i do this and if i am around my friend i look in his eyes and i will get lost in thought and the colors.

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#2

I used to ignore sadness and treat it as something bad and something I must avoid. But when that didn't work I changed my perspective on it (sure, it sounds like no big deal now, but that sentence was years and years in the making).

Now, when I get sad, I look for a reason behind it. And I do it by talking about it. I'm fortunate enough to have people around me who would listen to me blabbering about my stuff until I figure it out. And then, not only can I learn from it, but I can also move on.

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Nicole 3 months ago

nobody around me wants to listen

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#3

I'm a professional burrito of sadness so usually I just lay on my bed staring at the ceiling until it goes away. I'm not able to force myself into anything else when it happens. This takes time and I really do not recommend this technique, so looking forward to reading some new ideas!

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Idonotsharemynametostrangers 3 months ago

Who else lays down like a grumpy cow, cries into their pillow, talk to themselves, and then get excessively mad for no particular reason. (This is exactly what happened when i found something i really wanted on amazon for a great price, then i scrolled down only to find it doesn't ship to Canada)

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#4

It's not easy.

I doodle, even if its crap. I write my feelings down (even if the writing is no damn good aka "crap") & I listen to music (I have all kinds) but I know it isn't easy.

I hope that you will get an answer to help you through this :)

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Weddfire 3 months ago

Yeah, i do this pretty often.

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#5

My way of dealing with sadness might sadden a lot of you, who read this, but here's how I do it. The key point is to distract my mind with anything else that would absorb my attention. Getting to do something creative, such as drawing or writing, surely helps, but that is not so easy when you feel sad, demotivated, exhausted, lazy, and guilty. So... The internet and simple video games are the initial answer. Yep, that means I mostly reach for my smartphone/computer to help me deal with it.

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Nicole 3 months ago

*signs, i guess if you don't have a smartphone/computer your screwed

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#6

I start laying around and curling up into an armadillo. Then I think no. I'm not going to let some pr*ck (life) f*ck with me. Because when life gives me lemons, I set them on fire and burn life's house down. And then I go play video games to let all that excess rage out. So basically I just turn sadness into rage. Yep that's it. I'm done.

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Weddfire 3 months ago

Well, committing arson... and screwing with the universe. Think we could be good friends.

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#7

I'm dealing with sadness right now. My husband is terminal & I'm waiting on a hospice visit . We are fortunate to have many supportive friends that visit & help with tasks I can't do.... although I was just on a ladder trimming a tree. What helps me is gardening , anything from pulling weeds , planting seeds & flowers. to pruning the climbing roses. Reading is also a nice distraction .So is exercise. Yet, I can't avoid the waves of sadness that grip me. I accept them .

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Idonotsharemynametostrangers 3 months ago

I'm so sorry... my advice?! cry it out... as a wrote somewhere here, acceptance only comes through breaking down... It's okay to be upset and to break apart... It's not okay to pretend that nothing is happening and that you are alright because in your shoes nobody would be... I wish you and your family strength in these dark times. Trust me, I wish i was there to help you in any way... just lie down, breathe, cry, sleep, and smile at your husband... if anything, he needs to know that You are fine because i'm sure you mean the world to him and vice versa

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#8

Cat. My cat helps. There are so many things I can't really tell other people yet so when the burden gets too heavy I cuddle my cat who calmly purrs until I feel better.

And if there is something sad that can be voiced, writing about your feelings and the support of the loved ones helps a lot.

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Alberto Curutchet 3 months ago

Bless them... I do it to. But my cat is not always calm. Sometimes I am so sad I just want to lay down in silence and pet her, but she is in "ON" mode and just wants to jump, play, bite and kick. Here's the thing: she'll do that, but not for long, as if she suddenly understands that there's something wrong with me. So after a little while I have her laying peacefully by mi side.

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#9

When I feel sad I play with my daughter. Her laughs and smiles cure me from sadness!

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Silent Skeleton 3 months ago

The best therapy :o)

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#10

I listen to or try to play music that fits my mood which is what helps the most. I think it is comforting to know that someone else somewhere, sometime was probably feeling the same. As I grow older I have come to the concision that it is ok and healthy to be sad sometimes, even if there are many good things in your life. It is a way of processing, letting things go or contemplating what little things you can change in your life to be happier.

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Kawaii Lemon 3 months ago

I listen to music that fits my mood sometimes too

#11

Well , to be honest, I'm that kind of person who cannot be on it's own for a long time. If I'm alone for more than few hours I'm very often overthinking stuff and being rather pesimistic about myself. That usually leads to sadness or mild depression. The only thing which helps me overcome this, is simply go out and be among people, even strangers. I often go shopping to the nearest supermarket, even that I don't really need anything, just to be around people.

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Weddfire 3 months ago

Huh. I'm the opposite. I can't be around people for a long period of time. I don't usually go to parties or other social events. I judge myself based on others. Interesting to see it from a people person's side of view. Pretty cool.

#12

Me? First of all, I face it. I deal with the sadness. And then I stay alone, listen to music, sing out loud, pet my cat, buy something nice (like a book) and order some nice food. That works most of the time.

I guess the ultimate comfort is myself. A person I can always count on and should never neglect. If you are cool with what you are, you can enjoy peaceful moments alone that can deal a lot with sadness.

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Breislitt4 3 months ago

Yes, being alone is great. you never have to rely on anyone around you. you know what you want to do, how you what to do it, when, exc

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#13

IMPORTANT ADVICE: If you're ever sad, try doing the following:

1. say "bubbles" angrily
2. hold your nose and say "sneep snoop"
3. google sharks with human teeth

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Kawaii Lemon 3 months ago

Do number three it's hilarious!

#14

I don't really have a specific way I can ever get rid of sadness, but working on one of my many projects (clay, painting, drawing, etc.) or playing Animal Crossing helps distract from being sad.

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Galeanthropy2017 3 months ago

Animal Crossing is the best therapy.

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#15

Whenever I get sad I like to go into nature and look at all the beauty in the world. It helps me think about whatever is bothering me and it gives me some me time. This helps me so i don't keep my sadness buried deep inside me.

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Janice Foster 3 months ago

I'm similar. Put me in natural surroundings andd my heart and mind will telax and unfurl. I can then feel whatever I need to feel, and think whatever I need to think. It's very cleansing - like having a big crying fit.

#16

When I feel sad I just cry it out when I m alone.....And after crying for a few hours I magically feel good.... .

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#17

I always read,Doodle,or cry it out.

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#18

I cry. I cry hard, because sometimes I really does feel good to just let it all out.
However, sometimes I'm even too sad to cry. At that point, I draw or write what I'm feeling, or sleep.

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Lucybaby 3 months ago

That's how I do it, cry it all out and listen to music.

#19

I usually just study and eat. It helps

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Nicole 3 months ago

eating to much is part of the reason i'm sad... i eat>i get fat> i get sad> repeat, im probably just feeling sorry for my self tho

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#20

There are a lot of ways!
1. I force myself to do physical exercise. -> works like a charm!
2. I start to clean and organize things around. -> I can turn my sadness into working energy. Seeing things gets nicer helps me, and it's actually also physical exercise.
3. I meditate. -> This is making peace with the sadness.
4. I surrender myself to it. -> Come sad music, eating junk food, drinking wine and laying on the bed!

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Vera Deme 3 months ago

The best ways to fight sadness! Its my constant fight, but except writing, sharing, meeting with friends, surfing the net, caring for my flowers, petting my bunny, reading, watching movies, working till late at the office, spending time in the nature, taking long walks in the forest, only the physical exercises give me a bit longer sadness-free time.

#21

I'm dealing with sadness right now. My husband is terminal & I'm waiting on a hospice visit . We are fortunate to have many supportive friends that visit & help with tasks I can't do.... although I was just on a ladder trimming a tree. What helps me is gardening , anything from pulling weeds , planting seeds & flowers. to pruning the climbing roses. Reading is also a nice distraction .So is exercise. Yet, I can't avoid the waves of sadness that grip me. I accept them .

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sosunlight 3 months ago

So sorry to hear about your husband :'( Yes, it's ok to just be sad sometimes. Good that you have support and happy things to do too

#22

Whenever I'm upset (quite often these days), I watch a sad movie, or read a sad book and just relax and let myself cry, while eating a buttery grilled cheese sandwich. Makes me feel better, every time.

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Idonotsharemynametostrangers 3 months ago

Oh my god... yes crying is the key to acceptance... letting yourself break is the key to moving on.. Don't try to stay strong because you think it's the brave thing to do... the only thing that is, is being too afraid to cry. Your best friend is you.. Talk to yourself, and act on your emotions, no one has to see! I hope yall are feeling better!

#23

BABES!! Just cry it out. You may think you are being brave, but you're only being too afraid to break down. You'll only reach acceptance by breaking down. It doesn't need to be in front of anyone else... you are your best friend, and sometimes that's hard... but you can make it out! Just pretend i'm there... whoever you imagine me to be... Have a great day loves!!!

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#24

I find something to take my mind off of whatever the problem is. Usually it's reading, coloring, listening to upbeat music, or making something. It also really helps me to talk to someone who understands.

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#25

I usually take a long, hot shower and then curl up in bed and maybe cry a bit to make me feel better(I'm weird). Then, I complain to my pillow and read a bit. Also pizza. Pizza is always the answer.

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Breislitt4 3 months ago

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