Daughter Comes Out To Dad While Chatting With Him And People Love His Reaction
Interview With AuthorFor the first time, we know that some 1.3 million kids, or roughly 8% of all high school students in America, report being lesbian, gay, or bisexual. But coming out to your friends and family members, especially when you’re at a vulnerable age, is never easy.
Luckily, some parents are more than happy to accept their kids’ sexuality as long as they obey “don’t date a jerk.” This is precisely what one anonymous dad said when he found out his daughter is a lesbian after she joined GSA. “You joined Girl Scouts Of America?” asked the dad and initiated the chat only to find out it refers to the “Gender-Sexuality Alliance” organization.
The conversation soon turned into a debate on cookie preferences, and the coconut ones turn out to be the only thing this awesome dad can’t tolerate. Read their full chat down below in what seems to be one of these heart-warming things we really need these days.
The daughter came out as a lesbian to her dad via this chat which he posted on Imgur
Bored Panda reached out to the dad who had this wholesome chat with his daughter, who said that his concern was making sure that “she’d understand that in the big scheme of things, whom she chooses to love is of such little importance to us that it’s a lower priority than coconut cookies.”
When asked if he knew his daughter was lesbian, the dad said that “I normally answer that there were clues. You know… coconut water, almond joy…. I didn’t know for certain, but I cared so little about it that I didn’t ponder it too much.”
He also explained that he “never knows what I’m going to say” when asked if he had in mind what he would say to his daughter. “I was well aware of what GSA was before I started this conversation. I was also aware that regardless of how close she and I are, that she had some trepidation in telling me.”
But there was a twist in the story
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However, some of the stories in the comment section really stuck to him. “Society has for so long indoctrinated us as to what is and what is not acceptable, that it’s a struggle for some parents.”
The dad concluded that his job as a parent is to “raise her to be a good person in a safe environment. It isn’t my job to choose whom she likes or whether or not she likes coconuts.”
“I think that’s why the analogy struck with so many people. An argument about coconuts was as inane as an argument about whom someone chooses to spend the rest of their lives with.”
And people praised dad’s parenting skills in the comments
Coming out as a child, teenager, or young adult is one of the most nerve-wracking things you go through in your life. The fear of rejection sometimes becomes stronger with the urge to tell your friends and family about your sexuality. As a result, many LGBTQ kids find themselves alone and struggling with mental health at a very young age.
The 2020 national survey on LGBTQ youth’s mental health surveyed over 40,000 LGBTQ youth ages 13-24 across the United States. The results showed that a staggering 68% of LGBTQ youth had symptoms of anxiety disorder in the past two weeks.
The findings revealed the scope of the public health crisis where suicide has been “consistently the second leading cause of death among young people, and continues to disproportionately impact LGBTQ youth.”
Showing support for LGBTQ youth is crucial and makes a huge impact on a person in a mental crisis. Please see The Trevor Lifeline for youth in need of immediate support, which can be life-saving.
I love their relationship so much!!! Seems like a healthy loving family 💜
They seem awesome. Wish my parents reacted the same way. When I came out I got disowned and thrown out of the house. Her dad seems like a blast!
Load More Replies...This was just so adorable and heart warming. Sounds like they have a wonderful relationship.
This was a nice heart warming conversation to read. I hope I can become an understanding dad like him. And I'm with the dad on the coconut cookies (I grew up eating coconut all my life in every meal, and I love it. But cookies is where I draw the line.. ) :-)
How dare you! Coconut cookies are delicious. I was about to downvote you for some reason, but then I realized you don't downvote people just because they have a bad taste in cookies.
Load More Replies...This reminds me of when my brother came out to my parents. My brother told them that he is gay and my mother handed him a dish towel and told him that being gay did not get him out of doing the dishes. Then my dad reminded him of the family rule that no one could be in a "serious" relationship unless the family meets the person so he expected the boyfriend there for dinner on Sunday - no exceptions. I love my parents so much for this.
I like that "being gay does not get you out of doing dishes" :D However, I always wondered if people like better reaction like this ("it is nothing special or different"), or the ones where parents take it as a more serious step ("thank you for telling me, does not matter what you like, I will always love you")
Load More Replies...I've got to disagree with the dad here. Coconut cookies are delicious 😋
My daughter in the last 2 months told me she is dating again. I am sure it wasn't easy, but she also told me that she might date a man or woman. I told her I didn't care as long as the person was a good person. I feel so bad for teens who aren't accepted by their parents. Any of you kids out there going through that, what makes you a good person is who you are as a person, not your sexuality. Everyone deserves love no matter what gender they fall in love with. And parents who disown their kids for simply being the person they were born? Shame on them, terrible parents.
Don't care that you're gay, but I'm disowning you on account of some f*****g girl scout cookies. Also, I agree, the coconut Samoas (here in the south) are the best.
I was a teenager in a different world. My dad was the best, thought. On this issue, I think he would have been this dad. I miss him so much still. He's been gone 33 years and it still hurts. My daughter self-identifies as "other," which concerns me not at all. She's wonderful.
just seeing this now. your pan queer daughter loves you verrry much, mommy!!! 🥰
Load More Replies...I love this family dynamic, If i am half the man that dad is, i will be a happy chap. Well done to him for being a real dad
This is the type of relationship that parents should have with their child. They should love their children no matter what. I don't think that my godbrother's parents think like this. He is a very sensitive and sweet kid and they want him to be tough and aggressive. They have tried to teach him not to cry and they don't like that he doesn't like sports.
Ouch, sexism to the highest level. Just a note, most of the popular kitchen chefs are men, but they not necessarily tough. I think there might be some other specialties to point to.
Load More Replies...When I heard my son was with a transgender person I shrugged and said, "You are talking to someone who wrote a book where a girl feel in love with a giant alien spider; so why should I worry who you're with, as long as you're both happy?" They have been together for 16 years now, longer than I was married xxxx
How lovely, this is how it should be. All I got was ‘’it’s a phase’’ and a refusal to meet or accept my same sex partner
I'm sorry. We started this in hopes of the future of being mundane.
Load More Replies...This is very similar to how my daughter came out to us! It was a great day. I love that she feels comfortable enough to be her true self.
I'm considering coming out to my parents on National Coming Out Day 2021 (Oct 11). Or Pan Visibility Day, which happens to fall on the birthday of my gay best friend.
And yes, all of BP knows but not my parents. Different tho.
Load More Replies...My cousin recently came out, and apparently she was really scared to come out to us, since we're Catholic. I don't think she anticipated us supporting her, which is sad. We love her more than anything; quite frankly, she's an amazing person and a wonderful role model. She helped me be more comfortable calling myself bisexual :).
I wish I had a relationship like this!!!!!!!! At the least, I wish he would respond to me….
I hope I can show this degree of love and grace if one of my sons comes out to me. I love them both so much, I can't think of many things that would be a deal-breaker, and sexual orientation definitely isn't one!
Good values. No one wants their baby to date a jerk who won't appreciate them. Amazing dad-daughter moment
Congratulations to this daughter and her parents for sharing TRUTH and LOVE.
Why in the world are people appreciating him for doing the wrong thing? Sexual pervasion is bad and is eating deep into the fabric of our society. It's never too late to see the light accept Jesus into your heart now before it's too late
Her: dad im a lesbian Dad: cool i want cookies :) Her: coconut are good Dad: your grounded!
I love their relationship so much!!! Seems like a healthy loving family 💜
They seem awesome. Wish my parents reacted the same way. When I came out I got disowned and thrown out of the house. Her dad seems like a blast!
Load More Replies...This was just so adorable and heart warming. Sounds like they have a wonderful relationship.
This was a nice heart warming conversation to read. I hope I can become an understanding dad like him. And I'm with the dad on the coconut cookies (I grew up eating coconut all my life in every meal, and I love it. But cookies is where I draw the line.. ) :-)
How dare you! Coconut cookies are delicious. I was about to downvote you for some reason, but then I realized you don't downvote people just because they have a bad taste in cookies.
Load More Replies...This reminds me of when my brother came out to my parents. My brother told them that he is gay and my mother handed him a dish towel and told him that being gay did not get him out of doing the dishes. Then my dad reminded him of the family rule that no one could be in a "serious" relationship unless the family meets the person so he expected the boyfriend there for dinner on Sunday - no exceptions. I love my parents so much for this.
I like that "being gay does not get you out of doing dishes" :D However, I always wondered if people like better reaction like this ("it is nothing special or different"), or the ones where parents take it as a more serious step ("thank you for telling me, does not matter what you like, I will always love you")
Load More Replies...I've got to disagree with the dad here. Coconut cookies are delicious 😋
My daughter in the last 2 months told me she is dating again. I am sure it wasn't easy, but she also told me that she might date a man or woman. I told her I didn't care as long as the person was a good person. I feel so bad for teens who aren't accepted by their parents. Any of you kids out there going through that, what makes you a good person is who you are as a person, not your sexuality. Everyone deserves love no matter what gender they fall in love with. And parents who disown their kids for simply being the person they were born? Shame on them, terrible parents.
Don't care that you're gay, but I'm disowning you on account of some f*****g girl scout cookies. Also, I agree, the coconut Samoas (here in the south) are the best.
I was a teenager in a different world. My dad was the best, thought. On this issue, I think he would have been this dad. I miss him so much still. He's been gone 33 years and it still hurts. My daughter self-identifies as "other," which concerns me not at all. She's wonderful.
just seeing this now. your pan queer daughter loves you verrry much, mommy!!! 🥰
Load More Replies...I love this family dynamic, If i am half the man that dad is, i will be a happy chap. Well done to him for being a real dad
This is the type of relationship that parents should have with their child. They should love their children no matter what. I don't think that my godbrother's parents think like this. He is a very sensitive and sweet kid and they want him to be tough and aggressive. They have tried to teach him not to cry and they don't like that he doesn't like sports.
Ouch, sexism to the highest level. Just a note, most of the popular kitchen chefs are men, but they not necessarily tough. I think there might be some other specialties to point to.
Load More Replies...When I heard my son was with a transgender person I shrugged and said, "You are talking to someone who wrote a book where a girl feel in love with a giant alien spider; so why should I worry who you're with, as long as you're both happy?" They have been together for 16 years now, longer than I was married xxxx
How lovely, this is how it should be. All I got was ‘’it’s a phase’’ and a refusal to meet or accept my same sex partner
I'm sorry. We started this in hopes of the future of being mundane.
Load More Replies...This is very similar to how my daughter came out to us! It was a great day. I love that she feels comfortable enough to be her true self.
I'm considering coming out to my parents on National Coming Out Day 2021 (Oct 11). Or Pan Visibility Day, which happens to fall on the birthday of my gay best friend.
And yes, all of BP knows but not my parents. Different tho.
Load More Replies...My cousin recently came out, and apparently she was really scared to come out to us, since we're Catholic. I don't think she anticipated us supporting her, which is sad. We love her more than anything; quite frankly, she's an amazing person and a wonderful role model. She helped me be more comfortable calling myself bisexual :).
I wish I had a relationship like this!!!!!!!! At the least, I wish he would respond to me….
I hope I can show this degree of love and grace if one of my sons comes out to me. I love them both so much, I can't think of many things that would be a deal-breaker, and sexual orientation definitely isn't one!
Good values. No one wants their baby to date a jerk who won't appreciate them. Amazing dad-daughter moment
Congratulations to this daughter and her parents for sharing TRUTH and LOVE.
Why in the world are people appreciating him for doing the wrong thing? Sexual pervasion is bad and is eating deep into the fabric of our society. It's never too late to see the light accept Jesus into your heart now before it's too late
Her: dad im a lesbian Dad: cool i want cookies :) Her: coconut are good Dad: your grounded!
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