Men Made Fun Of This Woman For Wearing A Bikini, But Instead of Covering Up, She Shut Them Down
“Let’s change societies view that beauty isn’t in our appearance and remind the world that it comes from within!” writes Shelly Proebstel on her Facebook page Bald and Beautiful. Sure, there are many inspirational people out there, leading the fight against a false and unhealthy body image promoted by airbrushing and photoshopping media and fashion outlets, but few are as eloquently blunt as Shelley. She certainly practices what she preaches!
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Because as we all know by now, a ‘bikini body’ is simply that: a body with a bikini on it. Shelley was out enjoying the sun at Mt Maunganui Beach, a lovely spot near Tauranga on the north island of New Zealand. Suddenly, she noticed the jeers and sniggers of some men nearby. Refusing to be shamed by the incident, she instead decided to turn it around by penning a powerful response about body positivity.
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“To the guys who pointed and laughed when I took my sarong off today at Mt Maunganui Beach, bearing my soul (my bikini body) to the world, I just want to say (excuse my language but) F*CK YOU,” she wrote on an emotional post that now has over 60k likes and shares.
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“It’s because of dickheads like you that people are so incredibly insecure about their body image.”
“It’s because of people like you that women especially don’t feel safe or confident or comfortable to go out in society in something like a bikini, or a crop top (they probably aren’t even called that anymore!) or a short dress, or with their midriff showing. ”
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“It’s because of people like you that people starve themselves and make themselves sick in an attempt to maintain a ‘model-like figure’.”
“It’s because of people like you that people wear long sleeves all year round because they are scared to show their arms.”
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“It’s because people like you that people become anorexic, obese, bulimic, self-harm, commit suicide…I could go on… No, you are not responsible for the entirety. But YES, you have to take some responsibility.”
“So next time you see someone like me on the beach in a bikini or in a situation similar, before you laugh and point, take a moment to think about the damage you may just do, because not every person, young or old, male or female, will have learned to have the thick skin, or the resilience, or the self-confidence, that I do to brush it off.”
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“I won’t lie, there was a split second that I almost quickly covered up again, and then I reminded myself of all I have learned on this journey, and I held my head high and stuck my belly out and wore that bikini with pride.”
“Parents, I urge you to teach your children that there is no one body shape, but instead that there is a rainbow of beautiful bodies. I urge you to teach them not to stare directly at a bigger stomach than they might be accustomed to seeing on tv or in society, but instead, to look at a persons face and into their eyes. I urge you to teach them to be kind to all types of people, regardless of their outer appearance. I urge you to teach your children to accept people for exactly who they are on the inside. And I urge you to teach your children to be role models to those around them who aren’t being taught this, and to be the positive change we need to see in the world, so that in 5 or 10 or 20 years time, no more people are pointed at and laughed at by the way they look when they wear a bikini on the beach.”
People were full of praise and support for Shelley’s heartfelt message
"Woman Shuts Down Men Who Fat-Shamed Her At The Beach" . Yeah, In your dreams. Men and women will still belaughing and making jokes about her the next time she comes to the beach wearing a bikini. Sorry to burst your bubble, but this kind of people doesn't give a f*ck about your powerful responses and it won't change their appaling attitude against other people. Now downvote me.
By my experience, it'll actually make it worse. Getting her to write such a passionate response just reaffirms that they definitely had an impact on her... You don't need to reassure yourself if you really didn't care. Unfortunately, talking back to those people just fuels them.
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Judging people by looks has always been stupid and it's still stupid. Mind your own business, leave others to enjoy life!
When I go to the beach, I'm envious of the women like you. Im 28 years old and have never been comfortable enough to wear shorts or a bikini. my husband has started to make a unkind comment before to other women (not directly) but I stop him and say "I wish I had confidence like her" :) I've learned that a body size never defines a level of confidence. Period. You go girl :)
Unless he's really aware why it was wrong - get a better man, someone who doesn't find himself called to invade the private space of others with such comments (and in basis his own sexual preferences which actually may disable him in having a meaningful relationship (not just a romantic one) with decent people because of his prejudice/preference), one who will help you get back the confidence that belongs to you, because I know where you are, I'm there too in some respects but I've gotten really far from where I was and learning to spot wholesome and truly supportive people for my closest circle was also part of that. don't justify his prejudices or handicaps in empathy and understanding by your own insecurity... and sorry if I'm babbling uninvited, my comment is only here for your consideration. I wish you nothing but the best :)
Load More Replies... "Woman Shuts Down Men Who Fat-Shamed Her At The Beach" . Yeah, In your dreams. Men and women will still belaughing and making jokes about her the next time she comes to the beach wearing a bikini. Sorry to burst your bubble, but this kind of people doesn't give a f*ck about your powerful responses and it won't change their appaling attitude against other people. Now downvote me.
By my experience, it'll actually make it worse. Getting her to write such a passionate response just reaffirms that they definitely had an impact on her... You don't need to reassure yourself if you really didn't care. Unfortunately, talking back to those people just fuels them.
Load More Replies... Judging people by looks has always been stupid and it's still stupid. Mind your own business, leave others to enjoy life!
When I go to the beach, I'm envious of the women like you. Im 28 years old and have never been comfortable enough to wear shorts or a bikini. my husband has started to make a unkind comment before to other women (not directly) but I stop him and say "I wish I had confidence like her" :) I've learned that a body size never defines a level of confidence. Period. You go girl :)
Unless he's really aware why it was wrong - get a better man, someone who doesn't find himself called to invade the private space of others with such comments (and in basis his own sexual preferences which actually may disable him in having a meaningful relationship (not just a romantic one) with decent people because of his prejudice/preference), one who will help you get back the confidence that belongs to you, because I know where you are, I'm there too in some respects but I've gotten really far from where I was and learning to spot wholesome and truly supportive people for my closest circle was also part of that. don't justify his prejudices or handicaps in empathy and understanding by your own insecurity... and sorry if I'm babbling uninvited, my comment is only here for your consideration. I wish you nothing but the best :)
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