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Neil Bremner • upvoted 29 items 3 years ago

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Women that can't have kids feel a similar pain 😔

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

I just went through a miscarriage (2 weeks ago). I could never have imagine the pain it left me and my boyfriend with.... we have bad days and better days but we really suffer and some days it feels like its going to tear us apart.... i was 9 weeks. We had so many hopes and dreams. I have two kids (from a previous marriage) and every time i look at them its a painful reminder of what could have been... its just so sad

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Women that can't have kids feel a similar pain 😔

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

To Sara, losing a child at 7 weeks or one that is 7 years old, they're both very, very hard. because you are losing a child that could've grown up and lived a full life. Neil, this is really an amazing shoot. this brought me to tears as well.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Never ever be ashamed about the misfortunes that you have suffered and yes you should be thinking a mother of 4. They may not be here on the earth but they are always in your heart.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

sorry for the loss but happy for the son you deserve

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Greatest sympathies.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

To lose a child is devastating but also to lose a child at 11yrs is ......

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Sincerely hope that went/goes well. So much loss, I can't imagine

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Yeah, I noticed that a few posts back. I believe it's for artistic effect. It shows that they will never hold their baby's hand? I'm not the artist so I can't say, but I think that's it.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

After a while a child that never got a chance to live only truly lives in the hearts of the parents. It's not an exact quote but it's from a show and this project made me think of that.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

...and perhaps read Sadie Lamperts story. There’s an incredible lady who shows that the grief of a miscarriage and losing a child are both justified. Her bravery is beyond words.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

As I’ve said below and if you’ve read all that’s been written in this post, I’m not saying this is harder or even the same as losing a child that’s been brought into this world. I don’t think however you can dismiss the feelings and grief all these people have gone through as their pain and their grief is completely justified yet the sympathy they get from people is dismissed in the most part.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Oh, this is so sad. Poor mom and dad.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

I nearly miscarried my daughter for 4 months. I bled horridly and the doctors told me they could do nothing. it was such a difficult time and i had to continue going to my job, crying in the bathroom at work was surreal. Happy to say we had a good ending, the bleeding stopped finally and i gave birth to her pre term but she was strong and is still with us today thank god

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Beautiful words.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

No. No, this isn't fair.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

You're in my heart. How brave of you to show your vulnerability like this.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

As a "rainbow baby" myself, I tend to forget that my brother isn't the only baby that came before me. My mom has told me she miscarried, but that is all. This makes me wonder if I could, rather should, ever ask about their experience. I do, however, realize that had that baby grown to term, I wouldn't be here, so for that, I am eternally grateful for the sacrifice s/he made for me to be here.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

My first 3 pregnacies went well, then 3 miscarriages and 1 pregnacy.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

I've been pregnant 7 times, 8 kids in totall. Daughter 3 should have had a twin but she got lost early in pregnacy. After I had 3 miscarriages, the first one (Goldmember) was at 12 weeks the other two earlier. We were hessistant to call the other two something. With my 7th pregnacy I was very anxious untill the last few weeks. But I considder myself lucky, I have four beautiful healthy kids. I know a lot of people who lost their babies during their pregnacy and even during birth. Being pregnant and getting a baby is truly something to be thankfull about. (Sorry if I have mispelled words, this is not my native language).

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

After writing quite a bit about miscarriage, I believe you have added something new and important- portraits of the men and women involved. Good job. Shulamit Reinharz, Brandeis University

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Neil Bremner • commented on 9 posts 3 years ago

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

That is exactly the point. Thank you.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

I hope it didn't come across that I was comparing my pain with someone else and you're meaning what was written by Sara. I truly believe that all grief is valid which is why I have people featured who lost in first term and others far later and also parents with a single loss and others with multiple.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

That is exactly the point. Thank you.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

I'm sorry it had you shed a tear however my hope would be this project would allow people to feel the grief these parents go through so your reaction is the outcome I was hoping for.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Criminalise miscarriage???? Do you mean abortion? You can’t criminalise something you can’t control and these are two very different things!

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

...and perhaps read Sadie Lamperts story. There’s an incredible lady who shows that the grief of a miscarriage and losing a child are both justified. Her bravery is beyond words.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

The whole point of the project is to explain that this is a loss that is felt Deep and yet dismissed by many and not spoken about. The most common reaction is it obviously wasn’t meant to be but to those that go through it, they’ve been thinking and planning and have considered the next 10 years. As one of my brave women said, you wouldn’t react like that and be as insensitive if a pet died so why is it ok to say it for a miscarriage? Some people are really strong and can handle the loss easier than others and with our last one, we barely acknowledged it initially and that’s why it hit so hard months later. This type of loss isn’t rare unfortunately but the responses and sympathy are. That’s what I hope to see change. Empathy costs nothing.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Sara, I don’t believe at ANY point I suggested it’s the same as the loss of a child but with participants that have been through both and my own family experiencing miscarriage and still births, This project is simply here to say the whatever your experience, you should talk about it. The grief is real. Someone that’s pregnant for the first time will have planned the next 10 years and beyond within a matter of weeks so the loss is real. I am heartbroken for your own loss as I am for all the participants and selfishly for myself. One doesn’t impact the other.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Thank you so much. I'd hoped it captured the heart of the grief people go through and allowed people to feel the loss themselves.

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Neil Bremner • commented on 9 posts 3 years ago

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

That is exactly the point. Thank you.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

I'm sorry it had you shed a tear however my hope would be this project would allow people to feel the grief these parents go through so your reaction is the outcome I was hoping for.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Criminalise miscarriage???? Do you mean abortion? You can’t criminalise something you can’t control and these are two very different things!

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

...and perhaps read Sadie Lamperts story. There’s an incredible lady who shows that the grief of a miscarriage and losing a child are both justified. Her bravery is beyond words.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Thank you so much. I'd hoped it captured the heart of the grief people go through and allowed people to feel the loss themselves.

Neil Bremner • upvoted 20 items 3 years ago

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Women that can't have kids feel a similar pain 😔

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

After a while a child that never got a chance to live only truly lives in the hearts of the parents. It's not an exact quote but it's from a show and this project made me think of that.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Sincerely hope that went/goes well. So much loss, I can't imagine

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Never ever be ashamed about the misfortunes that you have suffered and yes you should be thinking a mother of 4. They may not be here on the earth but they are always in your heart.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

sorry for the loss but happy for the son you deserve

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Greatest sympathies.

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

To lose a child is devastating but also to lose a child at 11yrs is ......

I Asked People To Share Their Pain Of Miscarriage And Photographed Them (23 Pics)

Yeah, I noticed that a few posts back. I believe it's for artistic effect. It shows that they will never hold their baby's hand? I'm not the artist so I can't say, but I think that's it.

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